- Username
- ocdsince2020
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Absolutely block out every word he’s saying. I’m sure it looks fine and if you like it that’s all that matters. Making fun of your *kid (cause I don’t know if you’re a guy or girl; doesn’t matter in the slightest) is very weird and yes HE should feel embarrassed.
I feel extremely embarrassed because my aunt lectured me as well about how her kids don’t do this and etc bare mind I’m 16 years old now I work for myself I’m practically an adult and I’m getting shouted and threatened because I chose to grow my hair? no one in my family is defending me as well
@Silence33 Awh man, I have a little sister your age and I’d FIGHT for you. Just know they are coming from a place of ignorance, I’ve been lectured about things that made me feel so insecure growing up (very religious strict Ukrainian parents) and you just have to realize that they are spewing out things they’ve heard growing up. It’s not YOU it’s their fear of how they would be perceived. Try to not let their words in as much, accept that they are not going to like it even if you do. I’m sorry you feel like you’re going through this alone :(
Sorry to hear this. Sounds like they're in some way threatened by you expressing yourself, like they want you to just conform and make things simpler for them. People are strange, could even be they wished they'd rebelled or been a bit different, and they told themselves they couldn't (or were told they couldn't) and now they're putting that on you. It's hard for sure, and legit you find it upsetting. Ultimately noone else can decide your life for you and good on you for trying something you'd like in the face of that. Takes guts
Honestly, i don't have that great of an advice to give you, considering he's from a different generation and most people like him find it really to difficult to move their rigid little minds, but have you tried telling him in a serious voice that this is making you feel awful, that he's hurting you? I mean, sometimes straight up honestly catches people by surprise. Although, this may also be a complete failure depending on the person you're dealing with. If this doesn't work, then theres nothing else other than talking to someone you trust and enduring this toxicity until you become of age and get to leave this house.
I’m having a rough time rn. My parents both told me that they don’t think I could or should be a dr (I’m going to be a sr in college this year). They said that I have too many and too intense of problems to be one - I’ve got OCD, depression, and dermotillomania (skin picking). Normally, I brush things ppl say off pretty easily, but not w my parents. I love them and really care about their opinion. But it’s making me even more depressed, as one of the last things I was holding onto was the thought that I would be able to use my experiences to be an even better dr than I would have been before getting these things. I’ve been suicidal for a long time but I always told myself that I was going to get through this and use it to help ppl. But it’s tearing away my last shreds knowing that not even the ppl I care about the most think I can achieve my dreams. ?
I’m angry. Irritated. Whatever. I’m in a day program and yesterday they’re freaking out because I was open about my harm ocd. The dr I saw yesterday in the afternoon that wasn’t my actual doctor talked to me and told them it’s just ocd. Today my actual doctor told me to TELL MY FATHER THE THOUGHTS I GET OF STABBING HIM AND MY MOM IN THEIR SLEEP. Because “I don’t think he’d understand if he heard it from me” ME EITHER. Why the HELL would you give meaning to my thought?! Why would you make me tell him?! There’s no purpose, he’s an idiot! He was like “so you get thoughts of murdering us in our sleep” and said “should I be ready”. And then my dumb self mentioned my pocd while trying to explain ocd to him. ?♀️ He’s “trying” to be better then he used to be but he still pisses me off. I miss my best friend, I used to trust her with this stuff. I hate talking about my dad to anyone else.
My dad said I should never have been born yesterday. He also wanted to kill himself because of my OCD. I feel heartbroken.
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