- Username
- ocdsince2020
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Absolutely block out every word he’s saying. I’m sure it looks fine and if you like it that’s all that matters. Making fun of your *kid (cause I don’t know if you’re a guy or girl; doesn’t matter in the slightest) is very weird and yes HE should feel embarrassed.
I feel extremely embarrassed because my aunt lectured me as well about how her kids don’t do this and etc bare mind I’m 16 years old now I work for myself I’m practically an adult and I’m getting shouted and threatened because I chose to grow my hair? no one in my family is defending me as well
@Silence33 Awh man, I have a little sister your age and I’d FIGHT for you. Just know they are coming from a place of ignorance, I’ve been lectured about things that made me feel so insecure growing up (very religious strict Ukrainian parents) and you just have to realize that they are spewing out things they’ve heard growing up. It’s not YOU it’s their fear of how they would be perceived. Try to not let their words in as much, accept that they are not going to like it even if you do. I’m sorry you feel like you’re going through this alone :(
Sorry to hear this. Sounds like they're in some way threatened by you expressing yourself, like they want you to just conform and make things simpler for them. People are strange, could even be they wished they'd rebelled or been a bit different, and they told themselves they couldn't (or were told they couldn't) and now they're putting that on you. It's hard for sure, and legit you find it upsetting. Ultimately noone else can decide your life for you and good on you for trying something you'd like in the face of that. Takes guts
Honestly, i don't have that great of an advice to give you, considering he's from a different generation and most people like him find it really to difficult to move their rigid little minds, but have you tried telling him in a serious voice that this is making you feel awful, that he's hurting you? I mean, sometimes straight up honestly catches people by surprise. Although, this may also be a complete failure depending on the person you're dealing with. If this doesn't work, then theres nothing else other than talking to someone you trust and enduring this toxicity until you become of age and get to leave this house.
Instead I’m belittled and insulted when I don’t meet their standard. I know I can’t drive, I’m terrified and my OCD makes it even worse. But instead of being encouraged so I feel confident that bough to try it out, I get yelled and screamed at about how I’m a baby and not a real adult and that I need to face reality. Like it’s the worst parenting job ever, what the hell. Now I want to drive even less because I feel even less confident about myself. My dad yells at me because he sees my recluse tendencies and never stops to consider that maybe his belittling is why I never even try. Because I don’t even feel a single shred of hope in myself.
my parents don’t understand that a seemingly small and snide comment about my body will ruminate in my brain for months and months and be a never ending source of why i hate myself more and more everyday. I don’t know how to get them to understand as they are not in my shoes. I am overweight, not morbidly obese but I struggle to find the will to work out and improve myself, but i know this isn’t the motivation i need.
my dad is scaring me saying I’m gonna go to jail if I’m 18 and still dating my gf, my gf is two years younger than me, I mean he didn’t necessarily say that but I feel like he did, because I don’t understand, I’m so scared I’m gonna go to jail or I’m doing something wrong… please let me know, I do not know law stuff.
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