I've had every ocd there is, even transgender ocd. I thought to myself, maybe I want to be a guy, cause I thought I was a lesbian and thought being a man would be easier. But I'm really really feminine ? I also worried people would think I'm a hermaphrodite, has anyone else had this? I worry that some people think I'm a man secretely, and again I'm a really feminine woman. I don't wear thrilly dresses but I wear makeup and tight fitting clothes. I like perfume. I'm not even remotely the opposite sex ?

it’s so annoying omfg! it’s also tough because my personality can seem like a lesbian occasionally :( i also have random worries that i was born a guy and transitioned to a girl or that i don’t deserve to be born a girl and it’s honestly ridiculous

I’ve definitely had most of the thoughts on this thread, even the hermaphrodite one. I also totally get what you mean when you say hyperactive empathy, because I get that where I feel like I don’t know if I want to be like a person or date them (but that seems common with ocd themes, including HOCD and TOCD). It all feels very real. I think the important thing to remember is that there is no right way to be a woman (or man), and it’s only our OCD minds looking to categorize things into black and white thinking:)

yeah me too! i’ve encountered feminine trans people and that had triggered me like “i’ll just be a really feminine trans guy”

What are we like! This doesn't take over my life but the worrying people think I've got both parts bugs me a lot. At least my family know I'm a woman, and the men I've slept with. It triggered me so much when my sister said once `let's just make sure your birth certificate says female' I don't even know why she said that I have a flipping vagina and she's seen it before ? I was so confused and worried that she some how thought I'd sprouted out a dick or something. Sorry for my language just this blooming ocd is ruining my life

I actually think she said that cause I do have some tom boy features and she thinks I'm a lesbian cause of how close I am to a friend I think. But I don't know why she thought there could be a possible mistake on my birth certificate. I had a nightmare after that that I was in a hospital and they diagnosed me with being a hermaphrodite because of my hips? And I have normal hips ?

I've had that thought too. Like my mum is secretely hiding the fact that she had my parts changed into a vagina ? and that got well worse after my sister said let's make sure your birth certificate says female! She does joke a lot but she seemed serious.

And the don't deserve to be a girl thought I've had too

It's all ocd it all sucks ass

You're not though, you'd have known without question since you learnt to crawl that you were the opposite gender, there'd be no question about it

But remember, King sounds cool, it's just a word, has no real meaning really. Ocd convinces us that everything has meaning

that’s alright, it’s probably my worst thing right now since it’s so easy to slip into a mindset like hey and convince yourself you’re a guy inside ?

I’ve got the same from a male perspective. Had hocd and started to rationalize it by wondering if I was really just a girl. My internal voice gets higher pitched when I get excited and enthusiastic and of course my ocd targeted that as proof. When in all reality, im pretty damn manly, I take care of my girl, she thinks I’m manly, and I have a deep voice. Ocd is a trip!

definitely! i worry so much that i felt like a guy inside when i was little and now i’m paranoid about all my interactions with people

it sucks so bad because it confuses those two things and makes me think i’m super jealous and want to be a guy or that i’ve always been one. low self esteem doesn’t help

i guess it makes sense too because i don’t want to look like one but my mind says i want to be one, which i’m guessing is just hyperactive attraction

yeah! sometimes i get this bizarre intense “jealousy” of guys and even girls sometimes and it makes no sense

it also bothers me that there are feminine guys or guys who aren’t super masculine and idk why?? it makes it seem like i could be closer to being trans

something that triggers me is that sometimes, not often though, is that i would have a username like “king(name)” because king sounds better than queen to me but now i worry so much about it

i guess you’re right ^^ do you ever get hyperactive empathy? like i will relate or project into a guy if that makes any sense to “test”, when it really does nothing because everyone’s human and and i’m biasing it with my own thoughts and experiences. regardless it’s very convincing and easy to get lost in empathy

I don't actually, that's one ocd I don't get! Xx

Thought I was the only one with the hermaphrodite one ?