Why do I feel like I want my boyfriend to change? I'm also going through pms right now and it's so hard to see if it's me or my OCD+pms

It’s okay, I get frustrated about the way my wife handles certain things. In those moments it immediately has me wondering if I can handle this in the future. I’m makes me worry that I’m gonna lose my feelings or that the purity of the relationship is going to disappear. But then I remember that I love her for who she is, with all the quirks and habits!

But in those moments I definitely do get anxious and can absolutely relate.

It took us a while to adjust too, originally I explained it was going to be difficult for me and I would start to get paranoid, and I know it’s hard to deal with and I can promise what I say won’t be nasty it’ll just be me being paranoid (eg I wouldn’t break up with him because I know I couldn’t do it unless I make sure that’s what I 100% wanted as my ocd plays a lot on this) and if he can help me get through that the next few weeks will be so much better and bless his heart he stuck to it and we’re more laid back than most couples I know, we rarely argue

Thank you for helping me! It's scary thinking I'm the only one going through this

What I find best is me and boyfriend have a system where I’ll tell him I’m busy or that I need to have some me time and he lets me sort myself out before I do anything to end the relationship or bring it up and cause an argument. I do the same with him now when he needs time and taking regular breaks apart (eg. We don’t spend every day together and we don’t always have to call or text) it’s harvested a lot of trust and companionship than I realised

That's what my boyfriend and I have been trying to do the OCD grabs a hold of me and I go crazy. Do you have any tips on starting that?