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- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
It’s okay, I get frustrated about the way my wife handles certain things. In those moments it immediately has me wondering if I can handle this in the future. I’m makes me worry that I’m gonna lose my feelings or that the purity of the relationship is going to disappear. But then I remember that I love her for who she is, with all the quirks and habits!
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- 6y
But in those moments I definitely do get anxious and can absolutely relate.
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- 6y
It took us a while to adjust too, originally I explained it was going to be difficult for me and I would start to get paranoid, and I know it’s hard to deal with and I can promise what I say won’t be nasty it’ll just be me being paranoid (eg I wouldn’t break up with him because I know I couldn’t do it unless I make sure that’s what I 100% wanted as my ocd plays a lot on this) and if he can help me get through that the next few weeks will be so much better and bless his heart he stuck to it and we’re more laid back than most couples I know, we rarely argue
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- 6y
Thank you for helping me! It's scary thinking I'm the only one going through this
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- 6y
What I find best is me and boyfriend have a system where I’ll tell him I’m busy or that I need to have some me time and he lets me sort myself out before I do anything to end the relationship or bring it up and cause an argument. I do the same with him now when he needs time and taking regular breaks apart (eg. We don’t spend every day together and we don’t always have to call or text) it’s harvested a lot of trust and companionship than I realised
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- 6y
That's what my boyfriend and I have been trying to do the OCD grabs a hold of me and I go crazy. Do you have any tips on starting that?
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- Date posted
- 16w
Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him… For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know it’s common but it’s annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately we’ve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncle’s dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD I’ll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesn’t help enough and if this continues I’ll have to leave… it’s so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didn’t think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesn’t care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So it’s almost like I’m looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? It’s a constant cycle for me and I’m truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost don’t let myself depend on others…. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind 🥺🥺🥺
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- 15w
Hi everyone. I’m having a really hard time today in my relationship. I am just feeling so frustrated by my back-and-forth feelings about my relationship. One day I’ll feel so good, and then the next I don’t at all. I think my biggest trigger in the house is the chores that the two of us have to do in the house. I’m much more of a clean person than my boyfriend is. I’m also thinking that he has ADHD and struggles to remember when to do specific chores and I have to remind him pretty often, but he will usually do it when I ask. Today, I’m on a huge spiral of telling myself that he is never gonna be able to learn to do things on his own, he’s not gonna be able to take care of our kids in the future If we do get married, he’s not gonna be able to help take care of our house when we do have one one day, And I am just exhausted. It’s so hard fighting these thoughts all day and then I feel like I have to sit down and talk to him about chores and obviously that doesn’t go well when I’m not feeling good. Definitely a compulsion… It feels so much better when I can just relax and just let him figure things out on his own, and I can just take care of myself. I also come from a household where I was constantly criticized and controlled in certain ways, so I have that to carry too…I’ve gotten much better at doing that most of the time but today is pretty bad. It always feels a little bit worse as well when I’m on my period and feeling very hormonal as well… Can anyone please shed some light on if they’ve experienced this before and any support they might be able to offer in relation to this? Anything would be helpful and please be kind!
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 13w
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
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