Is it normal for past HOCD thoughts to resurface at 31?

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Never been into dudes at all but I have recognized when a guy is good looking. I have been getting the thought that a coworker of mine is "cute". About 5 years ago I had some pretty bad hocd thoughts. I discussed it with a therapist. But is it normal for things like that to come back? Like I try to imagine myself with him and it doesn't feel right at all but I have the thought and I'm like. Uh ok..... I'm 31 by the way.

Username: MisterNegativeMisterNegative

Date posted: 2y ago

True. It kinda came out of nowhere a while ago and it came up again today and I sort of mentioned that in my original post. I guess it sort of caught me by surprise since it is a friend of mine. Also you're good. You didn't trigger me

Username: OCDkickrocksOCDkickrocks

Date posted: 2y ago

It’s normal for OCD to try to come back at some point. It’s up to us to use our tools that we have learned to combat it. You got this.

Username: Daisy102Daisy102

Date posted: 2y ago

You know, you can recognize that someone is good looking without necessarily having a crush on them or anything. I'm married to a guy, but there are tons of girls who i think are very pretty, and i recognize that, but at the end of the day, I'm personally feel like it doesn't matter too much, because even if they are cute i don't want to date them or anything, and i want to be true to my husband, so it doesn't matter what i think about their looks. However, i do consider myself straight, so someone who identifies differently might have other thoughts on that. But, that's my take. Maybe you think people are attractive, but it doesn't matter, because you can think that and it doesn't change anything about you or influence your actions. I dunno. Other's thoughts?

Username: Daisy102Daisy102

Date posted: 2y ago

I hope that doesn't trigger you, and i didn't say it quite the way i wanted to. I guess I'm just saying, some people are attractive. You can acknowledge that as a fact, and then move on, and leave it there.

Username: Daisy102Daisy102

Date posted: 2y ago

Yeah, it can for sure be disorienting when you're like yo i thought i was over this??? I used to freak out a lot about sexual orientation. Someone told me it's a spectrum. I am a religious person, and also straight, and so that kind of freaked me out, but at this point I'm like okay sure, maybe i like girls to some extent, but what does it actually matter. I liked my husband enough to marry him at least, so beyond that oh well. Again though, that's one perspective, and a straight religious one, so others may disagree.

Username: Anna,hi! Anna,hi!

Date posted: 2y ago

Yes! Those are good points you can find someone to be pretty but that is all. People like what is pretty and attractive to the eye :)

Username: nicky310

Date posted: 6y ago

Is it normal for even straight people to question their sexuality at times? Before HOCD I was like I’m probably bi or whatever based on NOO CONCRETE EVIDENCE bc in real life I was only attracted to men and am in a stable relationship with a boy...but I got these random thoughts and they didn’t bother me as much that’s until HOCD hit :( and now I’m like NO IM STRAIGHT STOP ?

Username: Beatocd

Date posted: 5y ago

I’m in my late 20s and when I was 6 years old I remember being in bed with a buddy and I pretended to hump him pretending it was a girl. 20 years later that moment causes me a lot of distress with HOCD. Even tho the thoughts never bothered me in past and I been attracted to girls and been in intimate relations with women why does that one moment bother me so much. The exposure therapy works for looking at pics of men but I can’t seem to fathom that one. What is y’all a advice?

Username: honorroll1

Date posted: 5y ago

Anyone with hocd ever had the urge to kiss their female friends but then freak out? Like the hocd is making feel like id enjoy it. But i know deep down (even though the feeling is murky rn because of the hocd) that i want a husbamd/bf one day. It keeps bringing up the fact that when i was a kid id watch cartoons and see the female characters and think they were attractive. But never where i wanted to be with them ya know? This is really unhinging me. I just want to like guys again normally ?

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