Never been into dudes at all but I have recognized when a guy is good looking. I have been getting the thought that a coworker of mine is "cute". About 5 years ago I had some pretty bad hocd thoughts. I discussed it with a therapist. But is it normal for things like that to come back? Like I try to imagine myself with him and it doesn't feel right at all but I have the thought and I'm like. Uh ok..... I'm 31 by the way.
True. It kinda came out of nowhere a while ago and it came up again today and I sort of mentioned that in my original post. I guess it sort of caught me by surprise since it is a friend of mine. Also you're good. You didn't trigger me
It’s normal for OCD to try to come back at some point. It’s up to us to use our tools that we have learned to combat it. You got this.
You know, you can recognize that someone is good looking without necessarily having a crush on them or anything. I'm married to a guy, but there are tons of girls who i think are very pretty, and i recognize that, but at the end of the day, I'm personally feel like it doesn't matter too much, because even if they are cute i don't want to date them or anything, and i want to be true to my husband, so it doesn't matter what i think about their looks. However, i do consider myself straight, so someone who identifies differently might have other thoughts on that. But, that's my take. Maybe you think people are attractive, but it doesn't matter, because you can think that and it doesn't change anything about you or influence your actions. I dunno. Other's thoughts?
I hope that doesn't trigger you, and i didn't say it quite the way i wanted to. I guess I'm just saying, some people are attractive. You can acknowledge that as a fact, and then move on, and leave it there.
Yeah, it can for sure be disorienting when you're like yo i thought i was over this??? I used to freak out a lot about sexual orientation. Someone told me it's a spectrum. I am a religious person, and also straight, and so that kind of freaked me out, but at this point I'm like okay sure, maybe i like girls to some extent, but what does it actually matter. I liked my husband enough to marry him at least, so beyond that oh well. Again though, that's one perspective, and a straight religious one, so others may disagree.
Yes! Those are good points you can find someone to be pretty but that is all. People like what is pretty and attractive to the eye :)
Is it normal for even straight people to question their sexuality at times? Before HOCD I was like I’m probably bi or whatever based on NOO CONCRETE EVIDENCE bc in real life I was only attracted to men and am in a stable relationship with a boy...but I got these random thoughts and they didn’t bother me as much that’s until HOCD hit :( and now I’m like NO IM STRAIGHT STOP ?
So my hocd started over 2 years ago (I’m 20 yrs old now), when I was having a conversation with one of my friends and the thought popped into the back of my head what if the reason I don’t have a crush on any guys at my high school is because I’m a lesbian. Since then my sexuality has been on my mind 24/7 I didn’t know this was ocd until about a year ago but i’m only seeking treatment now. The hocd ramped up when I felt super aroused watching a movie with topless women, something that had never happened when watching men. Thing is I genuinely think I’m gay now, I’ve had this for so long that at first the thoughts disgusted me and caused me anxiety but now they don’t anymore. I saw so many tiktok videos about “pipelines” of certain interests gay people have that triggered me and read the comphet masterdoc which made me cry when I read it because I related to so much of it. When I was a child I was never boy crazy, I never really crushed on boys in my class (to be fair there were only 7) however I do remember writing a love note to a boy in first grade and having an immense celebrity crush on a disney channel star. I remember to certain things I did as a child that lead me to think I am gay and they keep replaying over and over in my head. Thing is over the past year I’ve had crushes on 3 guys I’ve met through dating apps. The last one I actually hung out with and I had my first kiss/makeout session 2 months ago. After that my hocd calmed down I enjoyed kissing him it felt euphoric the whole drive home just replaying our dates in my head. But now I can’t get the thought out of my head what if I didn’t like it enough? I didn’t get butterflies when we kissed (i do when I think back about it though) and didnt feel super aroused like that time I watched that movie. I feel nothing when I look at pictures and videos of men but with women I started getting this warm feeling in my chest which stressed me out even more. Idk what I am anymore and it is driving me insane. Does anyone relate?
so i’m straight, but one thing that’s always bothered me was i was never the type to look at a guy and automatically think dirty thoughts about them like some girls do i would think they’re good looking and move on. but lately i have been looking at guys and think ways i never have before because i don’t really care for sex but this time i actually think about it when i find someone attractive and it started to worry me because i was like i never thought that much sexually before so why am i now? and then i get thoughts in my head that say why are you worried aren’t you straight why are you worried to think sexual about guys? and it’s the anxiety about the fact that i actually think dirty thoughts when i see a cute guy and before i never would and then hocd coming in to play making me wonder that i shouldn’t be anxious if i was always straight but it’s not that i get anxious because i never thought that sexually before but ocd makes me think i’m worried about liking a guy but that’s not true sorry if it’s a bit confusing
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