lrmgry
- Date posted
- 2y
breakup
going through a breakup and my intrusive thoughts are having a field day. making me feel like everything is my fault when that wasn’t the case at all. im struggling so much.
hellopeoplehellopeople
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 2y
I’m sorry you’re going through a breakup. Give yourself time, sit with the unknowns and do nothing to try to figure them out 🫶 you can do it
DevuDevu
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 2y
This is always difficult. I recommend doing something you like in the physical world, like a sport, going for a walk, using your voice like singing, etc. Also ERP would help for sure.
NOCD Advocate Jess, CPSSNOCD Advocat...
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 2y
I am sorry you are going though this. It was always hard for me to give myself to process stressful situations because I did not want to be ruminating. But when trying to force it away it just makes the intrusive thoughts stronger. What helped me was to allow myself time to be in my brain, processing it and going over what happened, but then choosing, ok my good ol brain has had enough time to process so I am going to start pulling myself back into the present moment and allow the thoughts to be there without engaging and trying to figure them out or putting judgement on them. Hope this helps some. Remember self-compassion.
Cassie - AdvocateCassie - Adv...
- Date posted
- 2y
I'm so sorry you are going through that. It sounds really difficult. When any type of big life change happens (or really any type of change whatsoever) it can be so hard with OCD. Self-compassion has helped me in similar situations. Even though I don't always feel like I "believe" it, I do my best to treat myself well. With OCD that can be an exposure even because sometimes OCD makes us feel like we need to beat ourselves up. Sending strength!
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