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going through a breakup and my intrusive thoughts are having a field day. making me feel like everything is my fault when that wasn’t the case at all. im struggling so much.
going through a breakup and my intrusive thoughts are having a field day. making me feel like everything is my fault when that wasn’t the case at all. im struggling so much.
I’m sorry you’re going through a breakup. Give yourself time, sit with the unknowns and do nothing to try to figure them out 🫶 you can do it
This is always difficult. I recommend doing something you like in the physical world, like a sport, going for a walk, using your voice like singing, etc. Also ERP would help for sure.
I am sorry you are going though this. It was always hard for me to give myself to process stressful situations because I did not want to be ruminating. But when trying to force it away it just makes the intrusive thoughts stronger. What helped me was to allow myself time to be in my brain, processing it and going over what happened, but then choosing, ok my good ol brain has had enough time to process so I am going to start pulling myself back into the present moment and allow the thoughts to be there without engaging and trying to figure them out or putting judgement on them. Hope this helps some. Remember self-compassion.
I'm so sorry you are going through that. It sounds really difficult. When any type of big life change happens (or really any type of change whatsoever) it can be so hard with OCD. Self-compassion has helped me in similar situations. Even though I don't always feel like I "believe" it, I do my best to treat myself well. With OCD that can be an exposure even because sometimes OCD makes us feel like we need to beat ourselves up. Sending strength!
Ok guys this is so embarassing. I absolutely hate this. But pretty much I’ve been going through a breakup and now I’m getting intrusive thoughts/memories about us being physically intimate and cringing about it. I’m not sure why I’m cringing because it’s a normal part of a relationship, and he’s the first person I’ve ever been intimate like that with. I guess I’m embarrassed. I don’t know what I looked like and I’m embarassed I didn’t look perfect and that’s apart of why he broke up with me. I don’t know why my brain is doing this. I hate this
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
My partner broke up with my about 10 months ago. It came out of nowhere, and I got no explanation before they ghosted me and blocked me on all forms of contact. I have been horribly struggling since then with this obsessive need for closure. For a while I continued to try to reach out to them, on my own accord or through other people, but it just kept ending with more blocking. For months, I was going through the relationship and the breakup in my head over and over, picking it apart to try and figure out what went wrong, but without a conversation with my ex, I couldn't get anywhere. I am definitely doing much better now. the compulsions to reach out to her and the spiral obsession with figuring out what went wrong have both lessened. but they are still present, especially when I sleep. I really just want to be rid of the whole situation, but i want to do it in a healthy way without locking up my feelings. i really am at such a loss though. i still want answers and i still miss my ex in a lot of ways, but at the same time, the though of running into them scares the shit out of me. ive heard some horrible things about them since then, and how they have been spreading rumors about me behind my back. the situation cant seem to get any worse and it just keep happening. and it makes my ocd triggers so much worse too. idk, i will take literally any responses and any helpful advice.
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