Is this common? What should I do ?

Right now I'm dealing with Pocd, and my main obsession is like age checking ? Whenever I see someone somewhat attractive I always have a thought saying "what if they were underage and you found them attractive " do I just dismiss the thought? Because it really does bother me but at the same time I'd like to know. Or one time some girl appeared on social media to look older and I found her attractive but once I saw her age I freaked out & felt so uneasy and uncomfy.

Username: ivrecivrec

Date posted: 1y ago

Since you can’t always tell age by appearance I wouldn’t get too freaked out. I would just try to sit with uneasy feelings and let them pass. It is always our actions and values that define us. Thoughts can get very weird and don’t need to be taken seriously because they happen to everyone.

Username: Brooklyn_99Brooklyn_99

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

That’s very common. I have it too sometimes. Just another symptom of OCD. Don’t react. Don’t age check. Don’t do compulsions. Let it go. It means nothing!

Username: Rachel2727Rachel2727

Date posted: 1y ago

I do that too ! Age checking definitely

Username: schocalischocali

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

I also have these moments. I would like to share with you how I've learned to cope with it. Going back to the trigger and rechecking if that feeling/thought happens again only enforces it to happen again because you're looking for it. The more you recheck the more you condition your body to feel the intrusive unwanted thoughts and feelings at those triggers. The intrusive/unwanted feelings will never be factual. When these things happen remind yourself of your morals and what you believe to be true, accept that the thoughts and feelings happened but it doesn't mean anything that they happened because thoughts and feelings are not fact. You are strong and you have the ability to be more in control of your OCD than it is over you. You got this!

Username: AstrophsicaAstrophsica

Date posted: 1y ago

My response might be controversial, but I think it's find to find to think underage people as attractive. For example, At the gym I went up to a girl and told her that she is pretty. Then I asked later on if she is over 18, so that if she is over 18, I'd ask for her number. She said no and that she was 16. I then wished her a good day and left. I still think she is physically attractive based on look and believe she appreciated the compliment, however I didn't try to date her after I knew she was under 18.

Username: Martin1

Date posted: 2y ago

Please help me rationalise is this OCD

I found myself looking at a girls legs most days for a while. She's 15, I'm 36 now, maybe I was 35 then as it was a few months ago or less. It started 1 day as I thought nice legs, then went on and on. However I felt bad about it as she's 15! It kind of latched onto me and I remember thinking I won't look today but then I did anyway? Now my problem is why. Did I think they are a good set of legs and is that normal regardless if she's 15 but then that's that or am I a perv or is it OCD making it an obsession, as I used to feel bad about it! Then came looking at her butt one day as she was wearing tight leggings, I even said to myself how could a male not find that attractive (as a way to rationalise maybe it's a normal biological thing?)as I think it was an attractive image? but felt bad again because of her age! Then 2 different days came the feelings of arousal (which I tried to halt straight away) and a few sexual thoughts which I also did not want and was feeling crap about straight away. This is something that is bothering me considerably now and I even remember feeling bad and thinking I never want to see her again (not in a bad way, just a normal way) cos I'm feeling guilty about this! I do have OCD and it's latching onto all sorts of stuff, so is my anxiety and ocd on this girl making this all seem out of proportion?

Username: jordyng09

Date posted: 1y ago

Pocd attractions😓

Hey everyone! I struggle with POCD and struggle severely with feelings and attractions towards children. It freaks me out and I get so worried and anxious about it. I just keep thinking it’s not normal to get innapropriate attractions towards children. And it’s not just thinking a child is cute because that’s normal but it’s like I get actual attractions or feelings towards kids and it’s the same kind of attractions and feelings I get towards people my age and I’m 19. I’m so scared and worried and I don’t know what to do!! I’m freaking out

Username: Northern_Dow...

Date posted: 49w ago

Please help (POCD)

I was watching this random tiktok on my fyp and this guy was comparing his art vs how how he looks or whatever. He is 15 and when he showed how he looked in real life I had a thought that was like 'damn that's how he looks??' and immediately after I thought 'he's 15 why would you think that' and im so anxious that's proof that im attracted to minors. I am 22 and I have never been attracted to a kid, nor have i ever considered dating or persuing a kid. Ive had POCD intrusive thoughts before but still, the pictures had his face covered and they looked like those aesthetic pinterest pictures people post, and i wasnt expecting that. I feel like vomiting but that thought felt so natural and im worried i meant it. Why would I have a thought like that?? I know we're 'not our thoughts' or whatever but that didn't feel like an intrusive thought and now I'm worried that was proof im attracted to a minor and that one of my worst fears is true. I'm also worried if I pass It off as an intrusive thought im in denial or making an excuse. Please help.

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