I don’t think I will for a while because I just started dating someone but how do you tell your partner about your ocd? And how did they react?
I told my fiancé pretty early on. I think i mentioned it after a few months, but maybe went into more detail when things got a little more serious between us. I explained how it first started, and what it targets, what my compulsions are, etc. He’s honestly been amazing about it, my biggest compulsion is confessing to him because I have ROCD, and he’s never once made me feel badly about it. Just encourages me and offers support when i need it.
I was honest pretty early on. I just let him know that I struggle with it and he was super understanding
@Bbqueen How did you explain it to him? If you don’t mind me asking? Because I’d want to explain erp but not make him scared or anything
@Anonymous I just explained that it is different for everyone but explained how it works for me. So I told him that it can make religion hard for me and messes with my body image. I just explained more about OCD in general too to help him understand it isn’t just cleanliness. It really helped bc know how knows how to help and can be more understanding when I’m having a hard time.
@Bbqueen Good luck!! My relationship is pretty new too. But the right one will be supportive
I told my lady every theme of ocd I get the questioning if I love her the doubting she loves me the sexual orientation theme and she is still by my side and we’re 4 months in now .. she could of left .. but she didn’t .. she’s been amazing so far ! And try’s to understand me big time
Comment deleted by user
@Smile97 For me I was the same .. I didn’t wanna do anything but play around I was too afraid of getting heart broken cause I’ve been through a lot.. so I went two years just focusing on myself and my daughters and I met a woman who was down for just freinds with benifits and that’s all I wanted .. but we ended up liking eachother a lot .. so it became a relationship .. I just liked her to much to let her go.. but then I remembered why I was afraid of relationships .. I’ve been in and out of my head ever since.. but I like her to much to wanna leave .. and she’s very understanding .. but still.. I don’t like disappointing .. every time we try to get intimate I get in my head thinking I won’t do good or work cause I’m in my head .. and I get scared and it pisses me off lol.
I told my fiancé about it and she has been so kind to me. We are married and have a daughter. My wife got me started on meds and comes with me to all my visits to the psychiatrist. I’m glad I have her by my side
@Ocd surfer What ocd themes do you struggle with ? If you don’t mind me asking ! And that’s also a beautiful thing ! That’s what I want.. I seem to have found it but my relationship ocd I got I’m always doubting it doubting I love her or when I doubt she loves me I get scared but as soon as she shows me she loves me and is here for me I go right back to thinking do I really love her ? Or do I wanna be single and play around even though I didn’t give a shit about playing around with anyone before I got with her lol. Ocd is a bitch I swear .
I was open today to my partner about my harm ocd and just explained how I’d never want to do anything or do anything and what the ocd cycle is and how the intrusive thoughts give me so much anxiety and how my amazing therapist helped me overcome it and he was very understanding and supportive which I am so happy about I had a feeling he would react this way but I feel a weird weight Being left of my shoulders
@Anonymous Thats really awesome 👏 I’m so proud of you and happy for you
@Anonymous I’m glad you feel relieved 😌
Thank you I appreciate it!
Thank you!
I am in the same boat, dating someone casually but it’s been a few months and things are progressing. Not really sure when to tell. Kind of scared
@dorseela000 I would say something right away .. that’s just me though. With every relationship I’ve had I made sure to lay it on the table within the first month or so .. it’s better than not telling and your hiding your disorder . If the person can’t handle that then they weren’t the right partner or support system .. that’s just me though .
I’ve struggled a lot with mental illness (severe social anxiety, depression, OCD), but have done a lot of work to get to the great place that I’m at now. I feel like a different person compared to how I felt a few years ago. Here’s my question: I started seeing someone really important to me. We’re not official yet, but we’ve been in each others lives for years and it feels like it’s the real deal. He struggles with OCD, and it’s much worse than mine ever was. My question is, do you think this is healthy for me, as someone who has done the work to get to a better place? He’s not in therapy, he’s against medication (I love my meds — they changed my life), and is generally in a different place than I am mentally.
Hi all, I would really appreciate some advice on how you told a loved one about having ocd, specifically a significant other. I’ve been with mine for over 5 years, and I just had a recent diagnosis of OCD. To be honest, with the subtype I have, it’s really crippling to deal with, and I have a major worry of my partner not understanding the subtype. I would love to get some advice on how to best approach it and how to provide understanding that I’m still the same person. Thanks!
I have been in ERP therapy for my OCD for nearly a year now. Before my diagnosis and doing ERP, I really didn't drive a car for five years and rarely left the house. Now I drive to work, coffee and other outings. Most of the people close in my life don’t really know about my OCD. They do see me doing lots of things I haven't done in the past. I don't really know if I should explain about why this progress happened. I hope they don't think I was just being lazy up until then. They will talk about how someone is “so OCD” because they keep their room clean and really enjoy things neat. Anytime I hear this, I just think that if they hear about my diagnosis of OCD and what it entails they will think I’m crazy. I feel very conflicted about how to go about this, so advice is welcome.
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond
