- Username
- Anonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
How to you tell someone about your ocd
I don’t think I will for a while because I just started dating someone but how do you tell your partner about your ocd? And how did they react?
I don’t think I will for a while because I just started dating someone but how do you tell your partner about your ocd? And how did they react?
I told my fiancé pretty early on. I think i mentioned it after a few months, but maybe went into more detail when things got a little more serious between us. I explained how it first started, and what it targets, what my compulsions are, etc. He’s honestly been amazing about it, my biggest compulsion is confessing to him because I have ROCD, and he’s never once made me feel badly about it. Just encourages me and offers support when i need it.
I was honest pretty early on. I just let him know that I struggle with it and he was super understanding
@Bbqueen How did you explain it to him? If you don’t mind me asking? Because I’d want to explain erp but not make him scared or anything
@Anonymous I just explained that it is different for everyone but explained how it works for me. So I told him that it can make religion hard for me and messes with my body image. I just explained more about OCD in general too to help him understand it isn’t just cleanliness. It really helped bc know how knows how to help and can be more understanding when I’m having a hard time.
@Bbqueen Good luck!! My relationship is pretty new too. But the right one will be supportive
I told my lady every theme of ocd I get the questioning if I love her the doubting she loves me the sexual orientation theme and she is still by my side and we’re 4 months in now .. she could of left .. but she didn’t .. she’s been amazing so far ! And try’s to understand me big time
I told my fiancé about it and she has been so kind to me. We are married and have a daughter. My wife got me started on meds and comes with me to all my visits to the psychiatrist. I’m glad I have her by my side
@Ocd surfer What ocd themes do you struggle with ? If you don’t mind me asking ! And that’s also a beautiful thing ! That’s what I want.. I seem to have found it but my relationship ocd I got I’m always doubting it doubting I love her or when I doubt she loves me I get scared but as soon as she shows me she loves me and is here for me I go right back to thinking do I really love her ? Or do I wanna be single and play around even though I didn’t give a shit about playing around with anyone before I got with her lol. Ocd is a bitch I swear .
I was open today to my partner about my harm ocd and just explained how I’d never want to do anything or do anything and what the ocd cycle is and how the intrusive thoughts give me so much anxiety and how my amazing therapist helped me overcome it and he was very understanding and supportive which I am so happy about I had a feeling he would react this way but I feel a weird weight Being left of my shoulders
@Anonymous Thats really awesome 👏 I’m so proud of you and happy for you
@Anonymous I’m glad you feel relieved 😌
Thank you I appreciate it!
Thank you!
I am in the same boat, dating someone casually but it’s been a few months and things are progressing. Not really sure when to tell. Kind of scared
@dorseela000 I would say something right away .. that’s just me though. With every relationship I’ve had I made sure to lay it on the table within the first month or so .. it’s better than not telling and your hiding your disorder . If the person can’t handle that then they weren’t the right partner or support system .. that’s just me though .
Hi all! I have posted about this before and still not sure about what to do. I am struggling with the question of whether or not I should tell my partner (getting married this week) about the fact that I have OCD and my past experiences with it. And if so how? On the one hand, I think it would be good for them to know that I have this issue (to know me better, and basically strengthen our bond), but on the other hand, I am not sure about how they would react to hearing some of the past manifestations of OCD that I suffered with (mainly POCD and other sexual OCD - about 10 years ago now). My OCD today is mostly checking things around the house to make sure everything is safe - a more “plain” and “non-threatening” (to people without OCD) kind of OCD that wouldn’t be too challenging to discuss. I guess I want to share my experience but wondering if it makes sense to if I am going to leave out the more challenging (but also what has been for me the most impactful) stuff out. And of course keeping that stuff in the disclosure would carry risks as well. Looking online for expert opinions on this is a bit inconclusive. Expert opinions range from “don’t do it, it’s reassurance and these thoughts are meaningless and don’t define you”, through “you don’t have to do it if you don’t want to but it can be helpful”, to “you should probably do it, but maybe don’t share everything”. Any thoughts from anyone who has gone through this? Thanks!
I have never dated anyone bc of the fear that ocd would flare up too much and cause problems but this time i have taken a leap of faith and thought to myself that whatever ocd is gonna throw my way I will deal with it cause that's what I should be doing cause I can't not do anything in my life. What are your tips to when my ocd flares up due to me dating
So i use to get a lot of relationship OCD. I recently got into a relationship two months ago. i have been experiencing some relationship OCD thoughts like “do i like my partner enough” and to complete the compulsion of telling them that i am having this thought. I use to be able to conquer them but after bringing it up in therapy it got worse. does anyone have any recommendations on how to conquer this compulsion and thought? I don’t want to scare my partner away.
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