I think I’m nearly over this..The only thing left is the anxiety if i see a handsome man and the on tv I get anxious that I might be aroused but I never am... Any tips on how to overcome that anxiety?

hm that‘s actually a little bit trickier... things said I‘m no professional but from a general perspective consider this: try to really picture what I‘m about to say (do not worry it‘s not about sexual orientation)... try focus on your bladder, really badly, do you feel where it is? now I want you to feel it even more focus your whole attention to your bladder, how full it is, wouldn‘t it be great to go to the toilet right now, can you feel your bladder expanding getting fuller and fuller? so how do you feel? I bet it felt like you kind of need to go to the bathroom... if you focus your attention to certain parts of your body it WILL result in a feeling in that area! so you may be aroused yes but you also may be just focusing too much attention to your sexy bits (I‘m very articulate I know?)... maybe this will help looking at it from a different angle... again live with the uncertainty, yes it may be arousal but it could also be focused attention so accept it and move on, stop checking for reassurance live with the fact that it might very well be arousal... just say (as a erp experiment) yes I‘m aroused, so you will not have the need to check, if you accept this fear than it will vanish... at least that‘s my own humble opinion✨

just accept it... if you tell yourself: well yeah maybe I am aroused and that‘s okay. that way your anxiety will be like: okay so this is no problem so I‘m not needed anymore... if you want to go one step further you may tell yourself: yes I really think this guy is attractive, damn those abs and that face I really really like him, imagine a closer relation to that guy and how it would feel of course first your anxiety will go up and in that moment you have to absolutely resist ANY compulsions just repeat the whole scenario over and over till your anxiety lessens... this is also called ERP therapie by the way... the scenario after repeating it over and over will kind of become ridiculous, that‘s the sweet spot you want to optain and give yourself compassion it‘s hard in the beginning but I promise it will get better, stay safe✨

Just reading that have me anxiety...I’ll try it out. Thank you so much

it‘s supposed to do that so that‘s good now just do not do your compolsions, and remember compassion✨

Sorry for all the questions..but what if your compulsion is checking for arousal..it’s kind of impossible to not know if u feel that ya kno?

So so so relate! It’s just more uncertainty. You have to ride the wave of it. You will never know, but once you except the uncertainty even though it hurts like hell, everything will be clearer.