quentin
- Date posted
- 6y
ChichiChichi
- Date posted
- 6y
hm that‘s actually a little bit trickier... things said I‘m no professional but from a general perspective consider this: try to really picture what I‘m about to say (do not worry it‘s not about sexual orientation)... try focus on your bladder, really badly, do you feel where it is? now I want you to feel it even more focus your whole attention to your bladder, how full it is, wouldn‘t it be great to go to the toilet right now, can you feel your bladder expanding getting fuller and fuller? so how do you feel? I bet it felt like you kind of need to go to the bathroom... if you focus your attention to certain parts of your body it WILL result in a feeling in that area! so you may be aroused yes but you also may be just focusing too much attention to your sexy bits (I‘m very articulate I know?)... maybe this will help looking at it from a different angle... again live with the uncertainty, yes it may be arousal but it could also be focused attention so accept it and move on, stop checking for reassurance live with the fact that it might very well be arousal... just say (as a erp experiment) yes I‘m aroused, so you will not have the need to check, if you accept this fear than it will vanish... at least that‘s my own humble opinion✨
ChichiChichi
- Date posted
- 6y
just accept it... if you tell yourself: well yeah maybe I am aroused and that‘s okay. that way your anxiety will be like: okay so this is no problem so I‘m not needed anymore... if you want to go one step further you may tell yourself: yes I really think this guy is attractive, damn those abs and that face I really really like him, imagine a closer relation to that guy and how it would feel of course first your anxiety will go up and in that moment you have to absolutely resist ANY compulsions just repeat the whole scenario over and over till your anxiety lessens... this is also called ERP therapie by the way... the scenario after repeating it over and over will kind of become ridiculous, that‘s the sweet spot you want to optain and give yourself compassion it‘s hard in the beginning but I promise it will get better, stay safe✨
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 6y
Just reading that have me anxiety...I’ll try it out. Thank you so much
ChichiChichi
- Date posted
- 6y
it‘s supposed to do that so that‘s good now just do not do your compolsions, and remember compassion✨
quentinquentin
- Date posted
- 6y
Sorry for all the questions..but what if your compulsion is checking for arousal..it’s kind of impossible to not know if u feel that ya kno?
I Need An Off SwitchI Need An Of...
- Date posted
- 6y
So so so relate! It’s just more uncertainty. You have to ride the wave of it. You will never know, but once you except the uncertainty even though it hurts like hell, everything will be clearer.
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Meg4n
- Date posted
- 20w
so-ocd seems to be flaring up again
I haven’t posted on here in a few days because I was feeling better but the past two days I’ve climbed my way back down the rabbit hole it seems. There’s this guy that I’m interested in and he seems to be interested in me. He keeps calling me pretty and how he’d like to meet me (he’s friends with my friends but I haven’t met him properly yet lmao) But I keep getting thoughts like “you’re not interested, you like women” and so on. I was feeling giddy about the whole thing up until two days ago where everything just seemed to shut off like my attraction, excitement and so on. I can’t believe I’m going through this again and I’m really trying to accept the thoughts but it’s so debilitating as I really want a bf but my brain keeps passing through thoughts that I do not want at all. Does anyone relate? Or have any coping strategies to help?
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- Date posted
- 19w
Does false attraction change?
When first triggered it was every male possible. I couldn’t even go shopping… it was all ages of male, all sizes, and the groinal response was non stop. Like always a feeling there. Then it calmed down but male voices… I couldn’t listen to the music I use to enjoy or movies I’ve always been interested in. Then it kinda dyed down to people who are good looking but I’ve never in my life been attracted to males and beards. I couldn’t even always say they are good looking but never had this fear, the head ache constantly pounding feelings before. Now it’s still good looking males but I’m noticing body shape now? What is this!? Soon as I see a male figure my body feeling like it goes into shock, preparing for the anxiety feeling of ‘false’ attraction. It makes me sweat, and nauseous. Is this OCD or after 32 years of loving woman now gone? I don’t really have attraction towards woman (brief moments but not how I use to be) and this makes me so depressed. I don’t want to live like this. The only thing stoping me is my children and wife.
Anonymous
- Date posted
- 19w
HOCD or not?
Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
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