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- Anonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Regret my decision
Any tips for accepting a decision you regret that you can’t undo and will have long term (10+ years) consequences?!
Any tips for accepting a decision you regret that you can’t undo and will have long term (10+ years) consequences?!
I can relate . Embrace and enjoy your cat . Cats are very therapeutic for their owners . Please keep her or him and pet them daily and take good care of . It will be extremely beneficial to you once you adjust. I have had my cat for about 12 years that is 64 in human years and she has provided ongoing comfort and support to me more than most people ever have 😊🐈.
Thank you for understanding. My cat is freakin adorable, has a silly sense of humor, erupts into purrs as soon as I reach to pet her, and gives the best hugs. She’s a squishy one!! She also has some unexpected medical issues which I hope will be resolved soon and are definitely contributing to the stress. I think a lot is OCD because I notice many of my thoughts are related to being evil for this decision (my main OCD theme) and wanting everything in order. So maybe this fluffy cat will help me heal in multiple ways—her therapeutic purrs and a forced ongoing exposure!!
Yes sounds very much ocd to me, especially as someone who has a ton of ocd related things around my cat (different, but still!). OCD attaches to the things we care most about and it sounds like you probably care about this cat and the things surrounding it. Try to remember there was no right decision. You made the best decision with the info you had available and will continue to do so. Try to stay with what is, not what if. Try to find those moments of joy with your cat. Pets can bring a lot of stress (esp with ocd) but also SOOO much peace and happiness. I think all of this will subside for you in time, hang in there <3
I respect your privacy, but without knowing a little more hard to respond.
Two paws up !double meow 😻 😻. Truth be told I was lying down the other day and when I woke up I had discovered I had fallen asleep while petting her because we were still curled up . That’s the life nap with your cat very relaxing 😎.
I should add that from the outside it was a fairly neutral decision but my moral OCD is also latching on and telling me it was evil
I am embarrassed to write this which is why I wasn’t specific but the decision was getting a pet. I do love my cat so much and I really thought through the pros and cons before getting her but I haven’t been a pet owner before, so it’s new. The time and financial commitment, as well as the responsibility and just feeling less in control of my space, has led me into a spiral of regret but then feeling awful for the regret. The biggest thing, though, is it’s affected my relationship with my parents (even though they live in a different state) as they don’t like pets. The relationship feels ruptured and has changed my availability to visit them. I’m feeling so much regret and guilt and self anger, but I I’m trying to accept my sweet cat and be thankful. It just feels like the decision is constantly eating me and telling me I’m evil and irresponsible and a bad decision maker (which I know is largely ocd).
I could really use some help knowing how to move forward and not stay stuck or spiral down? I press forward for a few days but then feel like I’m lying to myself and spiral back
Anytime I make a big decision (like getting a new pet) I react similarly. Give it time, it’ll even out. Pets are wonderful. I felt the same way after getting my cat 8 years ago, my dog last year, getting engaged, literally every big change or event, I panic a little, but I know they were all the right decision. It happens.
Hey! I read that in order to better manage my OCD and be less worried all the time, I have to be okay with uncertainty. For me, it's coming to term with the fact that I might be attracted to a man someday (I'm a lesbian) even though the thought feels terrifying. I don't have anything against men or against bisexual people obviously it's just not who I am and I'm so so afraid of losing my identity. Anyone got tips on how to be okay with accepting that you can't be 100% sure your worst fear won't turn out to be true?
And guilt and need to confess. Any tips? - it’s making me having suicidal thoughts.
How does one take the step to except uncertainty especially when the thoughts are so disturbing and ones you know do not reflect your values and true feelings, how do you do this but remind yourself it’s not truly who you are, how do you not feel guilty?
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