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Yes. I’ve experienced it and I see people every day talking about it on this app. Recover from OCD and you’ll recover your attraction. Are you in therapy right now seeing an OCD specialist? Are you practicing ERP?
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Your anxiety may have started to subside, but you can still be feeding the OCD cycle with mental compulsions. Many people don’t even realize they’re doing them. That’s why an OCD specialist is so helpful.
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Isn't sex drive about sexual attraction, not aesthetic attraction ?
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Unfortunately I will not be able to see a therapist until the end of September. I have never seen a therapist and have never practiced CBT/ERP
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I hope it's just that, I'm afraid my attraction won't come back. I miss it so much :(
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It can cause a lower sex drive
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I’m glad you’re going to see someone! They will help you habituate to the thoughts so they lose their importance and power. Over time, they’ll stop happening as much and you’ll slowly feel like your old self again more and more. Stay strong! I know September seems far right now but it’s really just around the corner.
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The thing is, I don't really have a thought... Let's take an example: I look at a girl I thought was beautiful and she doesn't seem pretty at all. It all started a year ago, overnight. Before that I was constantly wondering if I was gay, in denial, I had intrusive thoughts, constant anxiety, I was always ruminating, I was testing myself on scenarios and many other things, but there were always thoughts. Now, now, nothing, just negative effects. I haven't really had any anxiety for a long time now, but nothing has come back.
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It will! It might just take some time. Mine came back 100%. And I feel more secure in my sexuality than ever. Everyone’s different as far as timelines, but once you’re in treatment, ERP takes about 2 months to see significant changes. Keep your head up!
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I hope my attraction will come back. I'm sobscared my attraction won't return like before HOCD :c
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Can I ask you how did the ERP go? Since it no longer seems like a simple thought I do not see how to expose myself
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You can do lots of little exposures: - watching tv shows with gay characters - listening to songs about being gay - readings articles or watching YouTube videos about coming out - going to local pride events or a gay bar (if you’re old enough) But that’s just the E in ERP: you always have to do response prevention with your exposures. That means not responding to the anxiety these things cause with compulsions. It can be tricky to identify all of your compulsions, especially the mental ones. Which is when an OCD specialist comes in handy. They will help you identify compulsions, create a proper hierarchy of fears, pace out your exercises so they’re not so overwhelming that they’re debilitating, and make sure you know how to do things properly.
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But.. I'm not afraid of being gay anymore. I underdtood I'm straight.Looking gay movies or reading coming out stories won't make me anxious.
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Than you’ll need different exposures. If these triggers don’t make you anxious, your therapist will be able to help you come up with ones that do. I was just providing very common ones for HOCD when the person is afraid of being gay.
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- 25w ago
Hi everyone, Lately, I’ve been feeling confused and anxious about my sexuality, which has been challenging to navigate. I’ve always identified as straight and am currently in a happy relationship with my boyfriend. However, I’ve recently started questioning if I might have some attraction to women, which has caused me a lot of anxiety. To be clear, I’ve never experienced romantic or physical attraction toward women in real life, but I have watched lesbian porn in the past. Now, I can’t help but worry that this might mean I’m attracted to women after all. On top of this, I’ve noticed a decrease in my sexual desire for my boyfriend, which only intensifies my concerns about both my sexual orientation and my relationship. This confusion is something I’ve never dealt with before, and it’s starting to take an emotional toll. If anyone has experienced something similar, I would really appreciate any advice or insights on how you worked through it. What helped you find clarity? Someone mentioned that my anxiety might be OCD-related, though I’m not familiar with OCD in this context. I’d love to hear from anyone with experience in navigating these kinds of thoughts or anxiety. I’m open to any personal stories, resources, or guidance on how to approach this situation, both for myself and in communication with my partner. I want to better understand what I’m feeling without being overwhelmed by fear. Thank you in advance for your support!
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SOOCD sufferers! Do you sometimes worry that you're true attraction is your false attraction and vice versa? and that you actually dont really know what true attraction is but if you go with the unwated sex you will know? Ima actually really struggeling between finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone.... I'm a straight female (I think) and I recognise a beautiful women more than a handsome men. Like I wasnt really attracted to my bf's body before actually being with him. However since in my mind, the female body has "more" if feels like I'll feel more if Im with a women? ughh soo weird. Like I dont see a men's naked body and automaticcaly get turned on, I have to be intimate with him for that to happen? honetsly between that and the romantic feelings that I feel like are not "enough" it really sounds like denial even if my therapist really diagnosed me. UGH
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- 22w ago
Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I don’t want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, I’ve always liked men, but now I’m questioning whether or not that’s real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? I’m single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes I’m less sure, and I’ve never been particularly boy crazy. I’ve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say I’ve never found other guys attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I don’t want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I don’t know what’s going on every time I say I’m straight I feel like I’m lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t feel like something I would want, but is that just because I don’t want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
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