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- 5y ago
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- 5y ago
Yes. I’ve experienced it and I see people every day talking about it on this app. Recover from OCD and you’ll recover your attraction. Are you in therapy right now seeing an OCD specialist? Are you practicing ERP?
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- 5y ago
Your anxiety may have started to subside, but you can still be feeding the OCD cycle with mental compulsions. Many people don’t even realize they’re doing them. That’s why an OCD specialist is so helpful.
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- 5y ago
Isn't sex drive about sexual attraction, not aesthetic attraction ?
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- 5y ago
Unfortunately I will not be able to see a therapist until the end of September. I have never seen a therapist and have never practiced CBT/ERP
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- 5y ago
I hope it's just that, I'm afraid my attraction won't come back. I miss it so much :(
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It can cause a lower sex drive
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- 5y ago
I’m glad you’re going to see someone! They will help you habituate to the thoughts so they lose their importance and power. Over time, they’ll stop happening as much and you’ll slowly feel like your old self again more and more. Stay strong! I know September seems far right now but it’s really just around the corner.
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- 5y ago
The thing is, I don't really have a thought... Let's take an example: I look at a girl I thought was beautiful and she doesn't seem pretty at all. It all started a year ago, overnight. Before that I was constantly wondering if I was gay, in denial, I had intrusive thoughts, constant anxiety, I was always ruminating, I was testing myself on scenarios and many other things, but there were always thoughts. Now, now, nothing, just negative effects. I haven't really had any anxiety for a long time now, but nothing has come back.
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- 5y ago
It will! It might just take some time. Mine came back 100%. And I feel more secure in my sexuality than ever. Everyone’s different as far as timelines, but once you’re in treatment, ERP takes about 2 months to see significant changes. Keep your head up!
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- 5y ago
I hope my attraction will come back. I'm sobscared my attraction won't return like before HOCD :c
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- 5y ago
Can I ask you how did the ERP go? Since it no longer seems like a simple thought I do not see how to expose myself
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- 5y ago
You can do lots of little exposures: - watching tv shows with gay characters - listening to songs about being gay - readings articles or watching YouTube videos about coming out - going to local pride events or a gay bar (if you’re old enough) But that’s just the E in ERP: you always have to do response prevention with your exposures. That means not responding to the anxiety these things cause with compulsions. It can be tricky to identify all of your compulsions, especially the mental ones. Which is when an OCD specialist comes in handy. They will help you identify compulsions, create a proper hierarchy of fears, pace out your exercises so they’re not so overwhelming that they’re debilitating, and make sure you know how to do things properly.
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But.. I'm not afraid of being gay anymore. I underdtood I'm straight.Looking gay movies or reading coming out stories won't make me anxious.
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Than you’ll need different exposures. If these triggers don’t make you anxious, your therapist will be able to help you come up with ones that do. I was just providing very common ones for HOCD when the person is afraid of being gay.
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- 9w ago
Can sexual orientation ocd make you act on your fears and make you have same sex experiences ever and then after the experience realize that’s not what you are or want?
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- 8w ago
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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- 4w ago
So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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