ROCD help!

As someone who also has relationship OCD, breaking up with your boyfriend will not solve anything, nor will it prevent the thoughts in your next relationship. My advice is don’t tell him any of your intrusive thoughts that you think will hurt his feelings. While yes they aren’t how you feel, the fact you decided to tell him can come across as them being relevant to your relationship.

I try to find a balance with my wife and read the situation. I too struggle with ROCD and having a therapist I go to helps me a lot. This phrase always helps me with navigation “it’s not always about right or wrong but it’s about is it helpful.” Trust yourself and lean into what you think is helpful to you and your boyfriend. I’ve always found that going to couples therapy has helped me communicate hard OCD thoughts I’ve had with my wife in a safe space.

Thank u so much

Hey there, Welcome to the app. I strongly recommend ERP therapy. It’s helping me. I use NOCD therapy and get my therapy on my phone from my apartment. Please keep in mind that regular therapy is ineffective for OCD and can actually make it worse. ERP therapy is the gold standard. My recommendation is that you get the help you need starting as soon as time permits. I waited because I didn’t know any better and my struggles became debilitating. As to what to say to your partner, that is always murky and never clear cut. I don’t say anything to my boyfriend because I think this can be confusing and cause a lot of pain to someone who is doing nothing wrong- especially where the problem may not have to do with them. I understand the microscope statement and always feel like I have my boyfriend under a microscope, personally. Always around and happy to talk. =]