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Should I be worried?
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That is the problem of not working with an OCD specialists. Even if they have PhDs they don't know how OCD works.
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Yeah i also went to a therapist that isn't specialized in ocd,and at one point she tried to use logic to change my ocd irrational thinking, lmfao she got absolutely destroyed by ocd it wasn't even funny ?. Ocd requires special training so i recommend finding an ocd specialist if you can
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When originally read your post I immediately knew your therapist was not an OCD specialist because an OCD specialist would never ask something like that.
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You shouldn't really argue with intrunsive thoughts. You should either agree and amplify or just disregard. The More you "fight", the harder it gets because Your brain thinks the thought is important so it keeps sending it. So for example, if you get the thought "My boyfriend is unattractive" the responce should be "Ok ocd. Thanks for the update!" Or "Yah right?? Like he is the most unattractive!" With a sarcastic tone. This is not easy but you have to fake it till you make it. Over time, you will see this thought becomes less and less because you acknowledge the thought but keep moving Your boyfriend anyway.
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Cheeky therapist...
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I mean it's Kind of weird that an ocd therapist would throw Your trigger like that at you as if she was your ocd herself. Is she always like this?
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She’s not an ocd specialist tho
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The therapist probably doesn't understand how triggering her question was, especially if she never had OCD firsthand. One of the pitfalls of OCD is always looking for proof that this isn't OCD, etc. One way you can work around this is by choosing not to do your compulsions and doing recovery work, despite the uncertainty of this not being OCD. Like, "I'm going to treat this as OCD and do recovery work for OCD. If it's not OCD, then that's when I'll deal with it, but for now, I'll treat it as OCD no matter what it says". I
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I have been to so many therapists throughout the years and it was the absolute best decision I could have ever made to go to a therapist that is trained specifically in OCD and utilizes ERP.
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She also told me she was like “what if you’re trying to convince urself to love him and forcing urself to love him” Bc I always like convince her that I love him but I do that to reassure myself but I think she asked Bc I said sometimes I find my bf unattractive and she was like “maybe u don’t like him as much as he likes u” but now I can’t get her words out of my head Bc what if I am lying to myself even tho a part of me actively wants to stay but what if that’s just me convincing myself ugh
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*loving. German keyboard...
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I get worried me worrying about what she said is Bc it’s true
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i worry tho about what she said but even if she was right and the doubts were “true” I still wanna love my bf and stay but I get worried that that’s just Bc I have trauma from breakups
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Hi everyone, I recently had a chat with a coach on Instagram about my relationship anxiety, and they said I probably don’t have ROCD — because what I’m experiencing sounds more like real doubts, not intrusive thoughts. In her opinion I have signs of real doubts: – There are understandable reasons, like lack of sexual desire – The thoughts show up in specific situations – Talking about the issue or seeing changes in the relationship brings relief They also asked: “Would you still have these doubts if you knew for sure that your relationship was healthy?” And now I’m just stuck. And now I’m wondering: am I just in denial? Or is this still OCD? Have any of you been through something similar — where someone told you your doubts are real, and it made things worse? Thanks for reading. I’d really appreciate hearing how others have navigated this.
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my thoughts are screaming at me telling me that i dont want my relationship anymore and that i realized i lost feelings. i have a beautiful relationship of two years with a beautiful boy that loves me dearly and i deal with this thoughs for a year and a half. Im so scared it feels so real im scared i have changed and my last therapy session made it worse she basically told me i have to realise the thoughts are true and stop lying to myself. And made me think i am so scared and heartbroken bc i put high expectations on myslef to be with my boyfriend for all my life. Maybe i dont want to hurt him??? im always questioning my feelings for him 24/7 for over a year. I wm tierd
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I know it’s long but plz read :( have been having really bad ocd about my relationship and my partner and it has gotten worse and worse over the span of like about nine months I’d say. I do acknowledge there are flaws and legit issues about him and the relationship like there are with anyone but I also know ocd has clouded my judgement and perception by analyzing everything and compulsions. For a while I kept feeling this need to get out which I know was ocd. I was really scared to spend the weekend with him because I thought I would just be annoyed and irritated cause it’s been that way for a while but he also was going through a period of high stress so maybe I was resenting him for that and I also wasn’t communicating how I should have been when I was upset because I’ve done that too much in the past. This weekend I was told in therapy to just be in the moment and not have to worry about trying to answer the question of do I love him or should I break up. It did help but It’s weird cause this weekend ended up better but I also was kind of numb? Like I was enjoying myself but didn’t feel what I always have felt in the past? Anyway, I am really anxious because i feel like if I loved him I would be supportive of when his parents compliment him or when he does well at something when instead all I think of are that I’m not happy or annoyed because of things he does that upset me or make me mad and it’s like that’s the only way my brain wants to see him as a person. Or when he is upset it feels like I don’t care like I used to because I think of how he doesn’t deserve this when he does this or he shouldn’t have this when he is like this etc. Why does my brain automatically go there? That’s horrible! I feel like I should be excited for him, rooting for him. But it also feels like I do care for him? But my thoughts keep changing. I am afraid I only am with him because I love that he loves me and how he treats me. This makes me feel selfish cause I can’t do that. I notice I still like when he cuddles me and is sweet to me and does fun things watching movies etc. And that’s not how it used to feeel which scares me because I don’t want to be without him. I also love his parents am I only with him cause of how his parents treat me? I feel so selfish and like I have to tell him and break up with him cause it’s the right thing to do. I never used to feel like this. I’m scared. Is it possible I’m just I’ve been mad and resenting how it’s been cause he’s been stressed mix with my ocd? My therapist said relationships can go through phases. Can I fall back in love with him again? I feel like I have to try to start with someone else like this is too far gone. I don’t want to stay in something where I don’t feel toward him the way I want to but I really don’t want to leave him. I feel like such an awful person cause he doesn’t deserve this and is so caring and loving despite everything the major thing that bugs me is how he gets irritable a lot which is an imperfection that makes me get anxious and question him😭 trying not to read into this and just follow what the therapist said but this is scaring me because I feel like if I loved him I wouldn’t think like this or feel like this.
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