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Should I be worried?
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That is the problem of not working with an OCD specialists. Even if they have PhDs they don't know how OCD works.
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Yeah i also went to a therapist that isn't specialized in ocd,and at one point she tried to use logic to change my ocd irrational thinking, lmfao she got absolutely destroyed by ocd it wasn't even funny ?. Ocd requires special training so i recommend finding an ocd specialist if you can
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When originally read your post I immediately knew your therapist was not an OCD specialist because an OCD specialist would never ask something like that.
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You shouldn't really argue with intrunsive thoughts. You should either agree and amplify or just disregard. The More you "fight", the harder it gets because Your brain thinks the thought is important so it keeps sending it. So for example, if you get the thought "My boyfriend is unattractive" the responce should be "Ok ocd. Thanks for the update!" Or "Yah right?? Like he is the most unattractive!" With a sarcastic tone. This is not easy but you have to fake it till you make it. Over time, you will see this thought becomes less and less because you acknowledge the thought but keep moving Your boyfriend anyway.
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Cheeky therapist...
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I mean it's Kind of weird that an ocd therapist would throw Your trigger like that at you as if she was your ocd herself. Is she always like this?
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She’s not an ocd specialist tho
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The therapist probably doesn't understand how triggering her question was, especially if she never had OCD firsthand. One of the pitfalls of OCD is always looking for proof that this isn't OCD, etc. One way you can work around this is by choosing not to do your compulsions and doing recovery work, despite the uncertainty of this not being OCD. Like, "I'm going to treat this as OCD and do recovery work for OCD. If it's not OCD, then that's when I'll deal with it, but for now, I'll treat it as OCD no matter what it says". I
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I have been to so many therapists throughout the years and it was the absolute best decision I could have ever made to go to a therapist that is trained specifically in OCD and utilizes ERP.
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She also told me she was like “what if you’re trying to convince urself to love him and forcing urself to love him” Bc I always like convince her that I love him but I do that to reassure myself but I think she asked Bc I said sometimes I find my bf unattractive and she was like “maybe u don’t like him as much as he likes u” but now I can’t get her words out of my head Bc what if I am lying to myself even tho a part of me actively wants to stay but what if that’s just me convincing myself ugh
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*loving. German keyboard...
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I get worried me worrying about what she said is Bc it’s true
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i worry tho about what she said but even if she was right and the doubts were “true” I still wanna love my bf and stay but I get worried that that’s just Bc I have trauma from breakups
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i went to therapy today and i told her about the lack of feeling i gave with my boyfriend, when we do anything, and all the anger i feel for no reason and she somehow told me im not sure i didnt understand it that , it dosent make sense that i want to love him but i dont feel love and i feel disgust when we kiss and thinngs and that i cant accept the truth????? like she is telling me i have lots of fear in me and im telling her im scared that i dont love him but this relationship is making me feel sad and uneassy when i want to be happy and calm bur i kept telling her all of this is bc of the thoughts and she told me that the thoughts are suppose to ease ar least when i am with him… i didnt tell my bf i wrnt to therapy bc he thinks they only want money, and that they can help me but i hav to help myself, and last time i went to therapy i wasnt feeling better and he is wondering how i wasnt feeling any better and that its strange to him to do “steps “ like this bc they only want money. And i left more confused and sad because she confirmed my fears somehow? i dont understand. im just scared i dont actually love him and that i only put high expectations on this relationship and i cant accept the truth. She told me , after i told her i always told people that these thoughts are not true bc they felt out of place, that we can say one thing and feel one thing and i felt like she was telling me again that these thoughts are real. I know im sad and miserable but i dont want to be like this, im scared that i iust matured and i simply dont love him
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I talked to my therapist about the emotional disconnection I feel in my relationship — how I often feel nothing when I’m with my boyfriend, how I feel irritated or even disgusted during intimate moments, and how all of this creates constant fear and sadness in me. I told her that I want to love him, that I used to feel more, and that I believe my thoughts and reactions are part of something deeper — like ROCD — not necessarily the truth. But she said something like, “It doesn’t make sense that you want to love him but don’t feel love,” and suggested that I might just be lying to myself and need to “accept the truth.” That crushed me. I kept explaining that these thoughts feel obsessive, that they don’t align with my values or how I see myself — that they’ve taken away my ability to feel joy or peace. And yet, I left with this terrible fear that maybe she’s right, that maybe I’m just in denial. She even told me that I have two choices: accept that I don’t love him and stay while lying to myself, or leave. And that… that made me feel like she was confirming my worst fear — not helping me explore it safely. I don’t want to hurt him. I don’t want to lie to myself. I just want clarity, and peace, and the ability to feel again. I also didn’t tell my boyfriend about the session, because he’s skeptical of therapy — he thinks therapists just want money, and that I have to “help myself” if I want to feel better. I kind of get where he’s coming from, but it still makes me feel a little alone in this. I guess I’m posting here just to say… I feel really lost right now. I don’t know if what I’m experiencing is ROCD or just the truth I’m too scared to accept
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Im scared that if I start to think it too much, I will start to believe it, and it becomes my reality. I always have thoughts like, “Do I love him, what if I lose feelings, how longs is this going to last, when will these thoughts finally go away, is he the one for me, is this how love feels like or am I just convincing myself?” I start to search things up to make myself feel better but the longest that works for is a few hours and then that gut wrenching feeling comes back. I love him I’m sure of it, but then why do I feel like this? I know if I didn’t love someone I would let them go and would t even fight for it or try to get better, but for him I’m trying ever second of everyday and sometimes I just feel so hopeless. I can’t afford a therapist and I’m too busy to talk to one. I don’t know what to do or how to feel, sometimes I just feel numb and I hate it, sometimes I feel like crying but can’t, and most the time I don’t feel jealous anymore and that scares me because I’m a jealous person. Then I get thoughts and reminders of my ex. Not in a way that I like them but the hatred and the trauma and pain they left me with. The mental, verbal and physical abuse. Sometimes my current relationship reminds me of him and why I shouldn’t be in one because I always fall into this deep hole that feels impossible to get out of. I just get so scared.
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