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Should I be worried?
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That is the problem of not working with an OCD specialists. Even if they have PhDs they don't know how OCD works.
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Yeah i also went to a therapist that isn't specialized in ocd,and at one point she tried to use logic to change my ocd irrational thinking, lmfao she got absolutely destroyed by ocd it wasn't even funny ?. Ocd requires special training so i recommend finding an ocd specialist if you can
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When originally read your post I immediately knew your therapist was not an OCD specialist because an OCD specialist would never ask something like that.
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You shouldn't really argue with intrunsive thoughts. You should either agree and amplify or just disregard. The More you "fight", the harder it gets because Your brain thinks the thought is important so it keeps sending it. So for example, if you get the thought "My boyfriend is unattractive" the responce should be "Ok ocd. Thanks for the update!" Or "Yah right?? Like he is the most unattractive!" With a sarcastic tone. This is not easy but you have to fake it till you make it. Over time, you will see this thought becomes less and less because you acknowledge the thought but keep moving Your boyfriend anyway.
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Cheeky therapist...
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I mean it's Kind of weird that an ocd therapist would throw Your trigger like that at you as if she was your ocd herself. Is she always like this?
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She’s not an ocd specialist tho
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The therapist probably doesn't understand how triggering her question was, especially if she never had OCD firsthand. One of the pitfalls of OCD is always looking for proof that this isn't OCD, etc. One way you can work around this is by choosing not to do your compulsions and doing recovery work, despite the uncertainty of this not being OCD. Like, "I'm going to treat this as OCD and do recovery work for OCD. If it's not OCD, then that's when I'll deal with it, but for now, I'll treat it as OCD no matter what it says". I
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I have been to so many therapists throughout the years and it was the absolute best decision I could have ever made to go to a therapist that is trained specifically in OCD and utilizes ERP.
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She also told me she was like “what if you’re trying to convince urself to love him and forcing urself to love him” Bc I always like convince her that I love him but I do that to reassure myself but I think she asked Bc I said sometimes I find my bf unattractive and she was like “maybe u don’t like him as much as he likes u” but now I can’t get her words out of my head Bc what if I am lying to myself even tho a part of me actively wants to stay but what if that’s just me convincing myself ugh
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*loving. German keyboard...
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I get worried me worrying about what she said is Bc it’s true
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i worry tho about what she said but even if she was right and the doubts were “true” I still wanna love my bf and stay but I get worried that that’s just Bc I have trauma from breakups
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This topic triggers me so much because I don’t think I ever experienced “gut feelings” about my relationship until the ocd. I know that generally people get these feelings when something’s off like their values are different, or the partner has strong bad habits, or something they’re doing is wrong. But my relationship is perfect to me: we communicate so well and I feel so vulnerable and safe. He’s amazing and sweet and we share the same values and life goals. We’re not perfect but I wanna be imperfect w him. I’ve never felt the way I feel for him with anyone else before. So why does it feel like the next stage of our life (moving in together) feels like I’ll change my mind later on?.. I get anxious at the idea and thought of sharing our whole life but I know I want to marry him. The idea of us growing old together, I feel like my life would be complete with him. But why do I feel like I don’t want to :( Do people have doubts anout their relationship even when there’s nothing to doubt?? There’s nothing wrong with us at all and I want what we have forever but when I think about our future I feel so anxious like I won’t last long until I decide I can’t do it anymore
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my therapist suggested that some of my less bad rocd intrusive thoughts are actually mine, and not intrusive. She ended up taking it back when she saw the alarm on my face and saw how panicked I got. I feel really freaking anxious. We were only talking about it because I mentioned a lot of doubt surrounding those less bad ones, but it only filled me with more doubt. I don’t want those thoughts to be mine. I really don’t. I feel scared and so discouraged after this session. I feel scared about the worst thoughts, what if those aren’t intrusive. I feel so much doubt.
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I went to a therapist, I told her about the doubts I was having related to my orientation and the continuous compulsion to check again and again and the thoughts. I told her about my resources -podcasts by Ali Greymond, Chrissie Hodges 's videos, and the books I read to overcome and control myself. She said a couple of things that confused me: 1> Her daughter once asked her "what if she liked girls?" As a mom my therapist said, "Start exploring", and the daughter said naahh. I wonder if the daughter had a thought or was it a chain of intrusive thoughts that plagued her day and night like in my case. 2> She said my sources are right, but I should forget that and not think that I have ocd. 3> She also said if there is any chance I am straight, I should walk on that path- because she has seen lesbians and gays have no feelings for the opposite sex. She said she could see that I was not gay or lesbian in any way. 4> She was interested in my education and masters degrees wasted a lot of time talking about that. 5> She said all these thoughts are causing me anxiety disorders (but I don't have ocd, doc?) 6> She pointed out that being happy and in the present removes these thoughts totally but I am causing myself unnecessary distress. I was doing well before this talk with the therapist now I am triggered a bit. Please share your thoughts.
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