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Still here and I feel exactly the same, just remember you are not alone ??
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The only thing we can really do is accept uncertainty. Yesterday, I had a bad relapse and did some of my worst compulsions (flipping coins for “answers”) because I was so sick of not knowing. At some point, I kept repeating that I was bi just so I can get over this and because it “made sense,” despite me not actually being bi. I know everyone repeats the same thing like “accept uncertainty and the fear itself” and while it helps a bit, your mind continues going back and forth. What I do in order to let off some steam is kinda say how you’re feeling aloud. Like find something to “talk” to and basically scream at. I was in my kitchen so I yelled at my decorative plant and basically told my “H-OCD” off
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Oh I can relate to you with the whole flipping coins for answers! I do it with an online magic 8 ball! Most of the time it says no but yet I can’t stop doing it just to be 100% sure. Thank you guys for replying.
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It makes you feel insane for a second but I felt a lot better once I got everything off my chest. I learned that sometimes, it’s okay to be angry, like this disorder isn’t frustrating enough. I’ll always be around if you need me ❤️
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I haven’t experienced HOCD as much as other themes but tonight it got me. I was watching tv and a lesbian woman was on the tv and I instantly felt attracted to her and had intrusive images. Then the panic set in because I love my incredible boyfriend more than anything on this earth. I suffer from cheating OCD the fear of cheating on him. He’s amazing. So this HOCD added to the cheating ocd and now I feel like I’m in a panic. I remember being a teen or young adult (20/21) and thinking I was attracted to another female on the tv but I actually think I enjoyed the sexual images that my brain created of her. This was long before I met my boyfriend. But now the ocd is latching onto that memory and freaking me out more. I feel guilty even typing that. I would really appreciate any help guys xx
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Me too! I also do yes/no buttons, random wheel spinners, and yes/no tarot’s online as well. And same here, it said “no” most of the time, “Straight” and sometimes “bi.” It took a lot in order for me to stop doing those because those things are used for small decisions such as what you’re going to wear or where you wanna eat. I also used it for my other obsessions as well. And no problem!
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Yeah @advice, exactly! When I had the thought years ago that this celeb’s character was attractive and had sexual images that didn’t bother me but I felt aroused me, I didn’t care! But now - I feel guilty even typing that because I love my boyfriend so much that I now fear of being gay or bi!! How do I calm my head down guys? It’s 2am and I’m up early but I’m ruminating and ruminating!! Xx
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@ ELO I can relate, about a year ago I wouldn’t have cared if I was lesbian or bi. But now that I have a boyfriend I fear it so much. It might just be that if we were we’d love them. and that’s another fear isn’t it.
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@Esosa yes!!! Uhh I do it with anything still, like “if this says ... then I’m lesbian, if it doesn’t then I’m not” like why do I decide to torture myself this way.
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Omg 2am??? Go to sleeep! Just accept the uncertainty. If you love your boyfriend you can’t be gay, and even if you were bi you can still love your boyfriend. And don’t let that trigger you.
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Thank you @advice! I’ll try and sleep! Goodnight and stay strong!
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im having a unusually hard flare up for two months. ive never had it this bad before (ive had this on and off for many years - thank god not constantly.) lately, i keep having these images in my head and scenarios in my head of me "coming out" in the future and ending my relationship with my amazing fiance who i love dearly. he knows everything but i still feel like i am constantly lying to him, my family, and friends. i need to know that this is something the SO-OCD can do to you? the weird thing is, is that i have never been attracted to woman. i do admire their beauty and wish to LOOK like them or have a specific feature they have, but i dont have any urges to like be with them yet i am dealing with this really bad flare up. My brain keeps telling me that since i have never tried it, i would never know, and i am just getting really distressed from it. i just want to be happy again and it seems impossible. I am convinced i am only person that is using SO-OCD as an excuse. Any guidance or advice, or anything really, will help. i just feel alone and scared and sad all the time.
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I feel awful that I keep coming on here whenever I’m down bad but oh my gosh OCD is the most painful shit that I have EVER experienced in my life and I have a physical chronic illness…. I hate to say it but I hate living right now it’s too painful… im crying as I type to the point where my stomach is hurting, I have pretty severe ocd I do have generalized anxiety and idk if that is connected with ocd but because of that I have most of the subtypes REAL EVENT OCD,POCD,ZOCD,ROCD,SOCD HARM OCD, you name it and I got it!!! a lot of also why I have have those theme is trauma growing up and involving those things^ as of right now i’m 25 and a women with the most loving boyfriend in the entire world before my ocd hit me I NEVER questioned my love and care and attraction with the love of my life I always knew I was going to marry and be with this person the rest of my life! Now with ocd it confuses me soooo much and now I think I’m gay and didn’t realize or indenial and listen I get it “don’t look for reassurance!” “It’s not the thing ocd is attacking that is the problem ocd is the actual problem!” Here’s the thing with that if I’m in a relationship and I’m gay that would mean I would have to leave that said relationship and to say that “oh yeah that stuff happens and you’ll move on” is absolutely devastating to me this is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE and your telling me that iv been lying to myself this whole time or that I didn’t realize?!?!? And that sexuality can change (even though some say it can’t google says otherwise and some people have said it can’t idek anymore) and all this other BULLSHIT I can’t take it WHY?!?! why does this have to happen why can’t I just be with my love the rest of my life?!? and yes before anyone says anything I have been attracted to girls more so when I was younger watching lesbian porn liking the body’s and fantazing them sexually it stopped when I got older but I still don’t get disgusted with women who are pretty it just makes me uncomfortable because I’m with the love of my life and before I remember talking to my partner and discussing certain childhood things I experienced and we discussed that we both could be a little bi and for certain I’m (demi sexual so I don’t even really care about looks) and I truly didn’t care!! NOW I do care even with being bi because again I don’t like thinking about anyone else but my partner but I do also know my parents are homophobic and I do think about if I am gay they wouldn’t be okay with that and I also dont want to deal with that so now I sound like in indenial right?!???? I didn’t even care about labels before my ocd it just didn’t matter but now it’s effected my sex life and it’s hard for me to enjoy sex with being so confused I’m so confused I googled everything can you still have sexual fantasies with same gender but still be straight? Can you fantasize about same gender or imagine marrying them all of it !!! And non of that disgusts me it just makes me uncomfortable AGIAN only bc I just love the partner I’m with right now!!! I’m so fucking confused do I have to leave my partner and accept that I’m gay is that going to happen in the future if I get better with ocd and find out it’s been true all along?!???
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As a lesbian with SO-OCD, I feel so helpless. It's truly exhausting because no one I know understands what I'm going through. The first response is always, "You're just confused" or "You don't have to know yet." But that's not the issue, I do know. I just never see any lesbians with SO-OCD so I feel so invalidated. These thoughts flood my brain constantly, forcing me to analyze my reactions to every man I see. I feel trapped in an endless cycle of "testing" myself, trying to prove that I don't like them. But my brain fights back, telling me I do want to love a man, making it feel real even though don't want it. It's terrifying. At this point, it's hard to even hold onto my identity as a lesbian because I'm so overwhelmed. I don't know if this is what real attraction is supposed to feel like, and that fear eats away at me. The truth is, when I think about being with a man, all I feel is disgust and fear-but my brain twists that into doubt. I hate it. I'm at the point where I'm scared I'm going to have to accept something I don't want because I don't know if this will ever go away. I miss who I was before all this.
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