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Can my anger issues be resolved with ocd therapy
I have extreme anger issues and it's ruining my life and people around me. Can I address this issue of mine with ERP/ocd therapy?
I have extreme anger issues and it's ruining my life and people around me. Can I address this issue of mine with ERP/ocd therapy?
Possibly but it depends on the issue of why you have anger issues.
I have anger issues too. And since OCD has gotten bad for me, it made my mood worse and promoted anger. (But personally, it's not just OCD that made it worse, but my overall bad life situation -- as well as how people have hurt me recently)
Possibly. OCD can sometimes make people take out their stress and frustration on other people. When I was in highschool I would blame my triggers on other people when in reality I was the one taking it out on them. A couple years later I realized I was the asshole for making people jump through hoops for my OCD. Especially when I wasn't doing anything about myself. If you have OCD and you realize your hurting your friends and family then YOU have to change something and learn a new way of dealing with your anger and stress. Therapy and treatment can also teach you a lot of tools to make your stress and triggers easier to deal with. I'm sure it's not just you and other people have a part as well in arguments but by working on your self and getting treatment you are going to be able to handle conflict better and stay calmer and probably make them look a lot worse. If you don't go to treatment I would at least maybe buy a couple books on OCD or maybe meditation.
Does anyone else struggle with this? It's been the main thing powering my POCD, and it's only been getting worse. Especially when I see posts online of people sharing their personal stories relating to CSA, specifically grooming. It's so triggering now, but before this theme developed, the most I'd feel while reading posts like that would be disgust targeted towards people who did those things. Now, my first thought is, "What if I do something like that one day? What if I've done it before and I don't remember or didn't know I was doing it?" I have many, many different intrusive thoughts or worries related to this theme, but it all circles back to this specific fear that I'll become like the people who hurt and took advantage of me. Does anyone have advice for this? I'm not sure if I've asked a similar question in the past or not, but is this something I need to deal with separately before beginning ERP for OCD? I'm just curious and also lost on where to begin with all of this. I'm just glad I'm able to begin working through all of these issues now, rather than later in life when I'd probably have a lot more responsibilities. Anyways, any feedback is appreciated! 🤍
My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
What would I do for ERP if my OCD says because I didn’t do something correctly or remember something I will have panic attacks that don’t end?
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