- Username
- ocdhelplol
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Spectrum
Is anyone truly 100% straight or gay? I identify as straight but then i get caught up in if anyone is 100% one way or the other, and if they are I feel bad because idk if i’m 100% straight
- Username
- yessyessyessyess
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Dealing with this right now, I don’t know if I’ve done so many mental reviews to the point where I don’t even know anymore. I used to be able to say I’m straight, had a little anxiety because I thought I was lying. My mind now says I need to accept the bisexual label but I don’t see myself entering a relationship with a woman. I hate how OCD manifests and continues to grow
- Username
- DeeDooDeeDoo
- Date posted
- 1y ago
Honestly, I feel like sexuality is a spectrum, like following Kinsey's theory that only a small part of the population is genuinely 100% gay or straight and everyone else is somewhere in between. I have read research done that says that more neurodivergent individuals tend to be queer than neurotypical individuals because us neurodivergent people tend to have a harder time understand gender norms and social expectations of femininity/masculinity so we tend to be more fluid when it comes to gender and sexuality, this doesn't go for all neurodivergent individuals obviously but it's just that it's a more common pattern amongst us than it is in neurotypical individuals. Also, I read that women tend to be more sexually fluid and open to exploring their sexuality than men are, I don't quite understand why and have to read more on it but something about women feeling more comfortable in their femininity than men are in their masculinity that just allows them to be more open to experimenting with their sexuality. Anyways, I think it's common for many neurodivergent individuals to question their sexuality and romantic or even platonic attractions to others because most of us don't understand like social standards of relationships as well as neurotypical individual, so if you're questioning whether you're truly straight or maybe slightly less straight like finding the same sex individuals attractive but still liking the opposite sex more that's completely normal. Sexuality is such a complex thing and it's different for everyone so don't feel bad feeling that you may or may not be 100% straight. You are valid in your feelings and you're allowed to be attracted to whoever you are. Hope you feel more certain in your sexual identify as you grow and explore yourself as a person ❤️.
- Username
- ocdhelplolocdhelplol
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@DeeDoo thanks i appreciate this! do you identify as straight or queer?
- Username
- Nicolas:)Nicolas:)
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@DeeDoo - And do you have OCD related to that?
- Username
- Nicolas:)Nicolas:)
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@DeeDoo But If you see women are atractive that doesnt make you queer, if you feel some sore of desire, like romantic or sexual, then that's something else
- Username
- Nicolas:)Nicolas:)
- Date posted
- 1y ago
You use to worry about that before?
- Username
- ocdhelplolocdhelplol
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Nicolas:) what do you mean?
- Username
- Nicolas:)Nicolas:)
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@ocdhelplol - Like, before you starting obsses with this theme, you ever worry about "how straigh" you were?
- Username
- ocdhelplolocdhelplol
- Date posted
- 1y ago
@Nicolas:) not that i can remember!
- Username
- jag92jag92
- Date posted
- 1y ago
I feel exactly the same! I’ve done so much mental review that it makes my brain so confused! I know I want to be with a man it’s all I’ve ever wanted but this little voice in my head keeps saying I’ll never feel fulfilled and that I’m more turned on by women and that I’ll always feel like something is missing with a man …but being with a man is all I’ve ever wanted! I’ve lost some of my attraction to men too out of the anxiety! It sucks!!!!
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- AyseTetik
- Date posted
- 24w ago
Asexual?
Guys I’m super confused. I know I’ve posted about this before, but I feel like I may be on the asexual spectrum, but then it’s giving me a lot anxiety. Why? I can’t get used to the label, but I think it makes sense? But it doesn’t feel right. I don’t know if it’s the desire to be straight as that is how I’ve always identified. Idk. I feel very distressed. Hocd does not make this easier. I’m 16. Any advice or ways to be calm? X
- Username
- Fr0ggy
- Date posted
- 24w ago
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This post will be for people 18+ and it is a topic on sexual attraction, if you are comfortable you can read but it’s completely up to you. I know I’m not the only woman that watches lesbian love for pleasure as we are all humans and our hormones go up. I’ve been watching lesbian love for years now (about 3 years) and in most of that time, not once did I question my sexuality until someone asked me a question that triggered my overthinking. Today after watching that, I was asking myself questions like what it would feel like to do this with a woman? How would it feel like to be with one? And because these thoughts came to my mind I freaked out because I keep thinking that I like females but never in my life and even till this day have I ever fallen in love with a women or even thought about marrying a women one day. I always want to have a husband one day and at least have a kid or two. But lately all this questioning has me confused to the point where I question if I’m bi or lesbian and if I even have SOOCD or if it’s generally just me tryna figure out my sexuality or if I’m just in denial. I am also talking to a man romantically and whenever I’m around him I feel happy and I’m always excited to talk to him and he also makes my heart flutter and my body burn for him. But because of these recent thoughts I’ve been having, it just confuses me and adds some stress. Any tips for how I can go about this?
- Username
- matchalover123
- Date posted
- 22w ago
genuinely dk
idk how to even make this make sense but i’m gonna try so i think i’ve convinced myself that im like afraid of more feminine men??? especially straight ones. like i was watching a tik tok of this guy who i would consider pretty feminine and he was talking abt his girlfriend and all of a sudden i just felt really weird??? and today i saw a more feminine guy holding hands with a girl walking around town and got that same feeling again. idk what’s even wrong. i don’t think it’s bad for guys to be feminine at all. if anything im glad people are able to express themselves the way they want. i’ve mentioned in my others posts that im scared of being a lesbian bc that means i won’t like my bf and i think im forcing myself to think im like hyper straight and super feminine and maybe im pushing that onto how i view other people?? like i think that if i look or act even a little bit lesbian then i am. but how does one even look or act lesbian?? anyone can be a lesbian!!! now i’m worried that if my bf does something more feminine i won’t like him. i feel so stressed sexuality literally does not matter why am i freaking out!!!! as long i like love him and he loves me nothing is wrong and it’s not wrong for other people to love who they love either!!! sorry if this absolutely made no sense i tried to explain it the way im feeling it. i’m scared that im like being homophobic or something but im not!! i genuinely think love is such a beautiful thing and that you should get to be with whoever you’re attracted to even if it’s a feminine man (which there’s nothing wrong with at all) i just don’t know why these feelings don’t align with my views. im sorry
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