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Is anyone truly 100% straight or gay? I identify as straight but then i get caught up in if anyone is 100% one way or the other, and if they are I feel bad because idk if i’m 100% straight
Is anyone truly 100% straight or gay? I identify as straight but then i get caught up in if anyone is 100% one way or the other, and if they are I feel bad because idk if i’m 100% straight
Dealing with this right now, I don’t know if I’ve done so many mental reviews to the point where I don’t even know anymore. I used to be able to say I’m straight, had a little anxiety because I thought I was lying. My mind now says I need to accept the bisexual label but I don’t see myself entering a relationship with a woman. I hate how OCD manifests and continues to grow
Honestly, I feel like sexuality is a spectrum, like following Kinsey's theory that only a small part of the population is genuinely 100% gay or straight and everyone else is somewhere in between. I have read research done that says that more neurodivergent individuals tend to be queer than neurotypical individuals because us neurodivergent people tend to have a harder time understand gender norms and social expectations of femininity/masculinity so we tend to be more fluid when it comes to gender and sexuality, this doesn't go for all neurodivergent individuals obviously but it's just that it's a more common pattern amongst us than it is in neurotypical individuals. Also, I read that women tend to be more sexually fluid and open to exploring their sexuality than men are, I don't quite understand why and have to read more on it but something about women feeling more comfortable in their femininity than men are in their masculinity that just allows them to be more open to experimenting with their sexuality. Anyways, I think it's common for many neurodivergent individuals to question their sexuality and romantic or even platonic attractions to others because most of us don't understand like social standards of relationships as well as neurotypical individual, so if you're questioning whether you're truly straight or maybe slightly less straight like finding the same sex individuals attractive but still liking the opposite sex more that's completely normal. Sexuality is such a complex thing and it's different for everyone so don't feel bad feeling that you may or may not be 100% straight. You are valid in your feelings and you're allowed to be attracted to whoever you are. Hope you feel more certain in your sexual identify as you grow and explore yourself as a person ❤️.
@DeeDoo thanks i appreciate this! do you identify as straight or queer?
@DeeDoo - And do you have OCD related to that?
@DeeDoo But If you see women are atractive that doesnt make you queer, if you feel some sore of desire, like romantic or sexual, then that's something else
You use to worry about that before?
@Nicolas:) what do you mean?
@ocdhelplol - Like, before you starting obsses with this theme, you ever worry about "how straigh" you were?
@Nicolas:) not that i can remember!
I feel exactly the same! I’ve done so much mental review that it makes my brain so confused! I know I want to be with a man it’s all I’ve ever wanted but this little voice in my head keeps saying I’ll never feel fulfilled and that I’m more turned on by women and that I’ll always feel like something is missing with a man …but being with a man is all I’ve ever wanted! I’ve lost some of my attraction to men too out of the anxiety! It sucks!!!!
I’m trying to live with uncertainty but it doesn’t feel right. The “I may or may not be bi/gay” really sucks because I can’t stop ruminating, analyzing, or checking. This especially sucks because I feel like literally EVERYTHING in my life leads to the fact that I’m a fraud which feels horrible. I can’t even talk to my friends the way I used to without feeling like I’m lying about myself. The false attraction and loss of attraction to men is literally horrible because now I feel like the life i fantasized for myself isn’t something I want.
Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
So I’ve been recovering from my obsession from my sexuality bc I am attracted to men 100% but when I was a child, a cousin I was really close to had me do things to her and ever since then my perspective on things have changed. After that experience I would sit in corners and watch girls kissing and when i got older and learned what pornography was, I would watch girls to learn how to pleasure myself and I would hide and watch women on women in the same room where I was sa’d in. When I became a teen I started learning about wattpad and teen stories and i got so into men and dating in the books and I ended up forgetting about all of those things that changed me. I never thought about any of the girl things till a old friend brought it up and said I should explore but it really makes me uncomfortable to do something like that because it doesn’t feel right and it makes me feel sick to my stomach to be with women or even talk to one that way bc I’ve never perceived women in that way. I’ve always fangirled over men and male celebrities and I have my favorite singers like Sabrina carpenter but I’ve never thought about her in that light nor have I done any other women. I even read this document called am I a lesbian and it’s very good and it helped me realize that I am straight and it definitely took a bit of weight off my shoulders but then I saw a video of a therapist saying how being sa’d doesn’t change your sexuality and so I looked up how did people know or what clues did they have to know if they were bi and a lot of people usually know from a young age as young as elementary and having crushes on women and men but i never thought about women in general even tho I watched porn on it. I simply did it because it was really all I knew and I guess it was familiar to me?? now my new obsession is what does this mean for me ? And how do I know if im attracted to a women? I’ve never had a crush on one before. I never even thought about any of this until my friend tried to convince me to explore and it all just sparked from there. Ever since that day I’ve been avoidant of women and giving them genuine compliments like I used to. Everything all of a sudden seems inappropriate or gay to do. I get anxious and my lower body part starts to ache (groin) and it keeps making me wonder if that is attraction or fear or am I uncomfortable? But when im around a man I clearly find attractive or a male celebrity I find hot, or if I have a crush/relationship with a guy, I start smiling and trying to act all pretty and squealing like a kid who just got the best Christmas gift and I know that I clearly want to bone him. And my biggest dream is to be a mother. I want to get married to a man who will be the love of my life and have a happy family and I just personally never seen myself doing that with a woman and i can’t even imagine myself doing so. I know that probably seems cliche and I know this probably is a lot but what does it mean ? Am I just in denial or is it something more ?
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