I’m worried about ERP. I don’t have any physical compulsions, and struggle to see any mental ones either. I don’t feel scared about anything and uncertainty doesn’t bother me (I’ve accepted that if my relationship ends it’ll suck but I’d be ok) so if ERP is the best treatment for this- how will I ever get better? Does that mean it’s not OCD? I feel like I’m literally going insane!!!!

OCD symptoms are not only fear and anxiety. Sadness, guilt, anger and worry are symptoms too. - You say that it is all you think about all day. Well, it looks like rumination is a huge compulsion of your than needs to be cut out. The thoughts will still come just don't answer back and don't entertain them.

Okay, that’s good to know- I didn’t realise rumination was a compulsion as I can’t help it (I know that sounds stupid because none of us can help any of this) it just happens. But thanks so much for that comment!

You are unhappy and can't relax?so these thoughts do cause distress i asked because you said it doesn't bother you which isn't true as that clearly stresses you,erp specialists will find your compulsions you have pure o which has hidden compulsions you aren't aware of

So these doubts don't cause distress why do you care then?there is something that makes you want to remove these questions what is it?why can't you relax while having these questions?

Bingo,the doubts do cause stress and worry (i knew it or you wouldn't obsess over it) what you need to do is accept these doubts without wanting them to go away,you definitely have compulsions you don't see like you probably suppress,rationalize avoid these thoughts that's why they stick. It's tricky but you need to allow these thoughts to be there while focusing on your choices not how you feel or think that's out of your control

Yeah I dont even feel like things are compulsions anymore. It’s weird because I was sooo anxious 3 months ago to still be anxious but not feeling it. It’s been constant for about 3 months now, so it’s hard to see a way out but I’ll keep going. Thank you both.

We’re on holiday from Friday and I’m scared it might push me over the edge but I’m going to try and be positive and enjoy it

If you don't feel scared about anything and uncertainty doesn't bother you why do you seek therapy?what are your symptoms?

I have constant relationship doubt, whether or not I love my partner, whether I truly want to be with him. I can’t think about anything else. It’s the first thing I think about in the morning and is on my mind all day. I constantly question whether I have OCD. I’m immensely unhappy and can’t relax. 3 months ago, I was perfectly happy and enjoying my relationship, now it’s all changed- for no reason at all.

I mean- whatever I’ve read online states that OCD stems from fear but I don’t feel obviously scared of anything. Plus I can sit with the uncertainty that my relationship may end at some point (I think I have rOCD) and know I’d be ok if it does so I’m struggling to see what ERP would find. Does that make sense?

The doubts in my head cause my stress and worry- my anxiety has subsided a lot though. I can’t think about anything else though but when trying to get to the route cause I can’t think of any reason this is happening which makes me think ERP won’t help. I don’t want to feel like this, I want my relationship to work & there is no reason it shouldn’t other than these thoughts/feelings. I can’t relax because I don’t want to feel like this but I feel like I always will unless I end the relationship.

It’s hard to understand. If I wanted my relationship and did love my partner why is this happening? But ok, I’ll really work on it. I know I google/use this app to much so I’ll start by reducing this I think

Totally agree with @starboiklem u can be anxious with out feeing the anxiety it’s causing distress because ur wanting it to go away but won’t Iv had a bad relapse last 2 days but I believe it will pass I’m trying so hard not to do any compulsions to the point I think it’s becoming a compulsion not to do compulsive actions so so frustrating

Iv been same for around 3 months had 4 great days and it’s back with I don’t want to be with my partner not the what ifs but it will pass I know that Iv not really felt anxious about it I believe my body has just numbed itself to it for now