Im having a hard time forgiving my self for my past and it holding me back i feel like im not worthy of love and acceptance. How did you guys move on and forgive yourself? I appreciate any input thanks
Personally I am trying to be the best version of myself. It is ongoing work in progress. Whenever appropriate I make amends to people that I have wronged over the years. I feel with a small amount of things that may never get turned to 100% of being resolved, you just have to make your peace with certain things. I believe in the old saying at least applying it to some things “ some bells can never be unrung “ .
By practicing being kind to yourself. Here is some ways you can be kind to yourself: eat nutritious food, exercise, and do an activity that you really enjoy. As you were doing any of these activities tell yourself kind of things. I beat myself up all the time and it’s just not helpful. Also, a loving kindness meditation can help. Beating yourself up for the past is not helpful and does not serve you so it’s OK to let it go and focus on anything that serves you.
@AfraidOfFood For me what helps the most is an exercise routine coupled with lots of fruits and vegetables.
Starting to realize I am worthy despite the thoughts or the way I see things, starting then doing things for myself such as reading and sport
How can I forgive myself for the mistakes I made as a teenager (maybe 15 through 18 or 19 I don’t remember exactly) when at the time I had no bad intentions I just didn’t understand what I was getting into? How can I forgive myself for being so dumb? I should of known. But unfortunately now dealing with real event and other themes trying to find “proof” it’s so exhausting and unsettling especially when the worst case scenario about my self and my past comes up literally every day and I have to fight it with “maybe, maybe not”…when will it ever go away. Do I even deserve for it to go away? No matter who I’ve told whether it was a parent or a therapist they all say the same thing…….let it go……..how am I supposed to do that. I want to do great things in life. I want to make up for all I have done wrong. I want to help people but I can’t even help myself. I hate myself. I don’t even like myself at all. I would go back in a heartbeat. But I can’t. I’m stuck in this mental hell. Will I ever be ok again…….
When I was 12 I made one of the biggest mistake in my entire life. Last night, my brain decided to replay that feeling over and over again to the point of starting to hate myself for it. Now I can't stop thinking that I need to be punished for it, I should never be forgiven and that I am a bad person. My partner should break up with me because I am a bad person and they don't know about it so I don't deserve to be loved at all. I know, however, that I made that mistake a long time ago, that I am a completely different person and that I am a good person now, and that's what matters. But I can't get myself to forgive my past self because if I forgive him, that means I'm a bad person for condoning what I did. Do you have any advice on how to overcome this? Thank you in advance
I fucked up in the past, the individual I did wrong has forgiven me and wants to move on from this “mistake(s)” but I simply cannot. I hate myself and can’t fathom why I would even do or say such things and now all I do is feel shame and guilt. I can’t be in the now and I can’t seem to move on. Please anymore help…..
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