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I was dating this guy for a couple months(we were NOT exclusive.). I had my birthday celebration last weekend where I got super drunk and blacked out, and had sex wigh a guy I met at the club. I told my FWB what happened and he got super upset. He said “sounds like this isn’t the first and second time this has happened and that hurts me.” He’s told me he can’t handle a relationship right now so I don’t know why he’s upset? I didn’t cheat bc I am still single, he knows that. Do I just distance myself from now on? He hasn’t talked to me since

Username: girlfriendgirlfriend

Date posted: 51w ago

If you're getting blackout drunk, you're not in any position to consent, which would be the bigger concern. Sounds like your fwb had more feelings than he was willing to acknowledge.

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 51w ago

Not telling you how to live your life. You do you , of course. But the top thing to me the most important thing in your story is why are you drinking to the point of black out ?

Username: taboo_brain19taboo_brain19

Date posted: 51w ago

@777Q Thank you for your concern. I wanted my mind off of him that night, but I blacked out unintentionally. However, I am hurting and I sometimes feel like I don’t deserve happiness bc of my ocd/intrusive thoughts. I know it might sound cliche but it’s the truth.

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 51w ago

Sorry you are going through rough times . Always put your health and wellbeing and safety first . No one is worth sacrificing your health over . Value yourself always and do your best to put your wellbeing at the top of the list . Personally I have been mixing non-alcoholic beverages with alcoholic beverages to limit my overall alcohol consumption and to better my health and also to always remain in control . Me personally I would never trust anyone to look out for me if I had blacked out.

Username: taboo_brain19taboo_brain19

Date posted: 51w ago

@777Q Thank you♥️

Username: Wolfram Wolfram

Date posted: 51w ago

People have different mindsets when dating. sounds like he liked you and your values didn't match his. Nothing wrong with it, just a clash of values. It happens. Blacking out is a bit concerning though, be careful with that. Most likely hurt him as his feelings as he probably thought you didn't feel the same way. He's protecting himself from being hurt. If you care about him, let him know you'll be there if needed but give him the space he wants. Emotions aren't exclusive to relationships

Username: Wolfram Wolfram

Date posted: 51w ago

Some serious English errors there. I hope you get the idea 🤣

Username: stxrmads

Date posted: 24w ago

please read

why did I have a dream where I basically cheated on my boyfriend???? what I can remember of the dream was there was some random guy (No one who I know he was just random) and me and him were "testing things" like hanging out and we were kissing and stuff???? and then I went through a grocery registration line and my mom was there and looked at me a certain way when I kissed the guy as to be like "you know you have a boyfriend what the hell" and then after I told the guy "hey maybe we shoukd stop doing this I don't think it will work out" and then I don't remember anything else I kinda woke up feeling super guilty. I don't even know why I had this dream I have never wanted to cheat on my boyfriend or had a desire to be with another man like that why did this happen. what do I do. I feel like in some way I'm being unfaithful by having that dream. even if im.nkt I'm worried the dream may mean something about me or my relationship. please someone give insighf

Username: Pinkprincess23

Date posted: 23w ago

Feeling horrible

Is it normal to be flattered when the opposite gender gives you attention and to like to feel pretty? I have a loving boyfriend and I would never cheat on him. I feel like I emotionally cheated because I was dancing at a wedding reception and was enjoying that this MUCH older, popular, “attractive” guy was noticing me. I tried to move my butt or dance “better” when he was looking?? My boyfriend was not at this reception and I was drinking. When the older guy left, I was sad because I wasn’t going to get the attention that I was getting. But we didn’t have a conversation other than him saying a few words to me. I did not say anything back to him. But I did enjoy his attention because I felt pretty. I never ever wanted to cheat on my boyfriend. I just wanted to look good. I don’t know why. This sounds awful. This incident was almost two years ago and I still feel horrible about it. My dad has told me this is human nature and I’m just overthinking it. I’ve already told my boyfriend and he was hurt but he said it would be like him wanting to look good on the beach in front of people.

Username: bxygenius

Date posted: 22w ago

false memory/real event

one time me and my gf got kinda drunk/tipsy but this was a few hours after so we werent as tipsy (btw we werent blackout drunk) but i asked her if she wanted to do anything and i kept saying we dont have to but she said yes and we did and im panicking because im scared this makes me a bad person bc we did it while tipsy and she says she doesnt even really remember it when i do and i also took an extra shot before that and i dont know if she did too i dont think she did but im panicking my brain is distorting the memory ive reviewed it so many times im scared did i do something bad?

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