Dealing with an ex who’s dating again

Dating with OCD was hard, but having broken up with OCD is even worse. I broke up with my ex after he ditched me at a party and accused me of cheating. (I never cheated, I wouldn’t flirt with another guy or cheat whatsoever). He was a consistent liar which I also didn’t like. We were on good terms for a while until two months after we broke up. He stopped talking to me and started pretending I don’t exist. I can’t avoid him because I have to see him everyday, unfortunately. He went out of his way to tell me he’s “seeing” someone. I struggle to let go with things and he was my best friend for two-ish years before we dated for a year. To watch him stop caring about me so quickly has made me miserable. I still care about him but it’s clear he doesn’t care about me. I keep crying and checking things over and over again. It feels uncontrollable. I don’t know how to make this stop. Or how to feel better. I feel so alone and I don’t know how to get over it.

Relationship OCD

Username: MainardMainard

Date posted: 46w ago

OCD can flare super hard during a break up. I'm sorry to hear of your experience, it sounds like a really challenging time for you. From what I've heard, it can be good to practice ERP steps as much as possible, label the OCD when you get the urge to check over things, try your best to sit with the feelings, label the emotions you feel amidst the discomfort and if you can, move onto a regular or gentle activity

Username: alissaaalissaa

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 46w ago

Hi🫶🏻 I’m experiencing the same thing. Went through a breakup in October after 4 years together. The relationship was psychologically abusive, as he was a narcissist. My OCD has taken ahold of it and I have intrusive thoughts about him all the time. I have checking rituals as well with his social media and even just checking my thoughts to see if I’ve thought about him that day or hour or minute etc. It’s an interesting theme for sure. Having OCD become intertwined with real life situations. I wish you peace, just know we are not the only ones who have these kinds of obsessions

Username: Ross Lyn Ross Lyn

Date posted: 46w ago

Anyone have any tips for coping with extreme anxiety/panic attacks triggered by seeing an ex. Or thinking about them.

Username: Mcat

Date posted: 6y ago

My boyfriend of almost two years just broke up with me. I’m hurting a lot and the ocd has skyrocketed because of it, especially since I haven’t been feeling the best already. I also always have a physical reaction to stress, and have been dealing with feeling sick all night. Does anyone have any tips or advice for how to deal with this?

Username: kittea

Date posted: 2y ago

I just went through my first breakup. My ex and I dated for almost 5 years and the breakup was mutual but it still hurts so much. I had ROCD throughout our entire relationship that I’m sure took a toll on us both but what led us to the end was completely separate—he hurt me in a way I couldn’t get past after it happening multiple times before. Even though the breakup was mutual and I know we need this to move forward either with or without one another, I am in so much pain. We both are still in love with the other and it’s making this breakup 10x harder because I am freaking out over whether or not I overreacted and I am throwing away something amazing just because of my ROCD sabotaging everything for us. It wasn’t the only issue but I guess I’m freaking out thinking it could’ve been the root of many of my frustrations. I just feel nauseous and depressed and exhausted (I can’t sleep). I guess I just need some guidance here. I have no idea how to navigate a breakup, let alone one where OCD is involved.

Relationship OCD

Username: kittea

Date posted: 2y ago

another post break-up day that just completely wrecked me. i hate how much this shit won’t leave my mind. i can’t stop going over every detail and bringing myself to the verge of a panic attack. these last few days have been absolute ick. it’s been almost two months—i don’t understand why i’m not better. and it feels so stupid to feel this way and not have my best friend to confide in because he’s not by my side anymore. i just feel sick to my stomach and like walking away from everything i’ve been doing to distract myself because clearly it’s not working. if you have any advice on breakups and navigating them with ocd, please share—i’m struggling more and more every day.

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