Needing advice to know if im doing the right thing

Hey everyone, yesterday i went to my counseling appointment,what was supposed to be my last session. But as me and my counselors spoke they gave me two options. We can continue counseling with the idea that i have OCD but not be diagnosed. Or, that i can have my diagnoses and we can begin therapy with goals in mind, exercises and many other things that sound appealing to help me with my issues because as my counselor said, that it seems that im struggling to get through the day and i agree. I want to go through with the official diagnosis because i feel like it can help me so much! But im afraid, mostly of what my parents would think. I hate lying and keeping secrets when it comes to me i feel dirty and sad when i dont tell them everything now a days. I still live with them and my family, im 18 years old so i really don’t have to tell them anything about this dissuasion i might make but-i keep going to what if they some how find out? what if i get in trouble? my counselor told me that even if they came marching to my door they don’t have to tell them anything which is nice but-how long can i keep this a “secret”. Ik im illegally an adult but im still just a teenager what do i know? Im making the right choice by doing this? If i were to tell them how do i bring this up? How i tell them? I just need advice thank you for reading:(

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 43w ago

You are impressive and a squared away person for only 18 . Here is my point of view on this , nothing is 100% private or confidential in this world. Depending exactly where you will live and perhaps you might excel in greatness at some point in your life people can access certain information about someone and there is a possibility it could unknowingly work against you at a later date . Let’s say you really go far in life in a positive direction. People can do a “ deep dive “ and really find out a considerable amount about someone including social media and many other things . Each person needs to do what is best for themselves though . Feel free to ask me other questions and I will give my best advice. I am not expert on anything, just seen a lot happen through a long life .

Username: ughhhhughhhh

Date posted: 43w ago

@777Q thank you for your perspective on this i had the same concerns and knowing this i will ask my counselor further questions regarding this. Thank you so much for this :}

Username: 777Q777Q

Date posted: 43w ago

This is my personal perspective only if I was 18 I wouldn’t want an official diagnosis in my records. I would take care of all aspects of my health, but stopping short of having the official label of diagnosed OCD in my files . There are several reasons behind this .

Username: ughhhhughhhh

Date posted: 43w ago

@777Q can you go into detail about the reasons? When i asked my counselor about this since i had the same concerns they said it wont be on like on my state records or anything government official and if i did want to share this information with any parties like jobs or family or whoever id need to sign off on it.

Username: haydensmithhaydensmith

Date posted: 43w ago

personally i’d say go in for treatment and get treated as soon as possible, just a quick question if that’s okay, how are you dealing with your sexual orientation OCD?

Username: ughhhhughhhh

Date posted: 43w ago

@haydensmith first i agree just hope i can get more advice later today. Second, its fine for me to answer, My soocd may be different from yours but, what i use to cope with it is that i try to think, do i truly want to do those things with the opposite/same gender? If i were in that situation where it was romantic or sexual would i actually go for it like my thoughts say i would? Or would i politely decline and get out of it because thats just not want id want. As for like body reactions to the thoughts-i still struggle with that but i try to remind myself that ny ocd is an asshole and is just attacking something i thought i was comfortable with not sleeping with the opposite/same gender. Sorry if this isn’t as helpful since i know the struggle and its not easy but i hope this helps with your questions.

Username: haydensmithhaydensmith

Date posted: 43w ago

@ughhhh thank you for the advice, i think our experience with this theme is different, i don’t suffer from images of the same sex or doing things with the same sex, i struggle from my mind telling me i’m gay when i’m not and constantly analysing who i am attracted too, thanks for the advice though, hopefully we can come out of this stronger and better then we were before.

Username: melissaspahovicmelissaspahovic

Date posted: 43w ago

If this was me I would be fully honest with them and say like “while talking to my therapist, they diagnosed me with OCD” because once you say that, i’m sure there’s not much they can do about it. It’s not your fault. you didn’t diagnose yourself. the therapist did. so if they really have a problem, they could blame the therapist and not you. Unless maybe your situation is different and that’s not the problem.

Username: ughhhhughhhh

Date posted: 43w ago

@melissaspahovic the situation specifically is that im scared that they’d found out im doing the process of getting a diagnoses. Yk what i mean? One of my parents are really scared of getting a diagnosis about anything will ruin my chances at getting a job and be on my record or something. I have asked my counselor about that though and was told id need to sign off with permission to share that info with jobs or people etc etc

Username: melissaspahovicmelissaspahovic

Date posted: 43w ago

@ughhhh ooo i understand. i would then tell them that ocd doesn’t mean that you’re a ruined person or even defected. it’s something that stays in the back of your brain that gets in your way. you are still a great person though and capable of so many things. i think that they are worried about facing truth and instead of giving that truth attention and trying to fix it, it would be better to just ignore it. though it can pile up and later this can really be something that affects you when you do have a job. get help now while you are young, than later when it may be more difficult and when you may have less time. btw i’m 18 too!

Username: ughhhhughhhh

Date posted: 43w ago

@melissaspahovic its so nice know im talking to another teenager omg😭 i get what you mean i think my parents know that but its more so that one of them want to keep things private ig? But if i do tell them ill bring this up and other stuff my counselor told me about confidentiality and stuff

Username: melissaspahovicmelissaspahovic

Date posted: 43w ago

@ughhhh ikr me too! 😂 ahhh yes keeping things private. yea like you said your therapists have a policy that they have to follow where they do keep things confidential and cannot share information about patients to anyone. so yea it would probably be a good idea to bring that up if you tell them! i hope that everything ends up being ok!

Username: Jay

Date posted: 4y ago

hi everyone, i’ve been using this app for about 2 weeks now, maybe a little more or less than that, i can’t remember exactly when i downloaded it because these past 3 weeks have all been a blur. ive mostly just been lurking and observing other people’s posts and conversations. i’m currently suffering from some bad existential ocd. i haven’t been getting a lot of sleep since lockdown started. i’ve known i’ve had ocd for awhile now but i’ve never gotten any kind of help for it. i don’t talk about my problems to anyone and keep all my thoughts bottled up until i get over things on my own. but every time i go through a phase like this it gets worse each time it comes back. i haven’t felt like this in over 3 years and i thought i was done a finally free but now it feels like my life is over. i had a doctor’s appointment this past Tuesday and i’m going to be getting counseling (i’m not sure if there’s a difference between counseling and therapy, the word my doctor used specifically was counseling. she might have just said that but meant therapy or maybe there is a difference im not sure) but i don’t see the point. everyone tells me to ‘embrace the uncertainty’ but i don’t know how i can go on living happily with the possibility of my worst fears being true. i won’t say what they are in this post but if you’re curious I’ll tell you. i put a trigger warning just in case i get into the conversation of what exactly my worst fears are with anyone and i don’t want to trigger anyone who’s also dealing with the same problems as me. i just thought, in case im wrong-which i hope i am-that it wouldn’t hurt to talk it out right now. my mom and dad don’t fully understand and i don’t want to scare them and it might be a few more weeks before i start counseling.

Username: Celi

Date posted: 2y ago

Advice For Someone Undiagnosed

i'm sorry in advance for how long this post is and if it's to much information. i'm undiagnosed but have been struggling with compulsions and intrusive thoughts since i was 7 or 8. My worst intrusive thoughts theme has been about p*d*phil*s. I've been dealing with it since my freshman and sophomore year but these thoughts didn't become debilitating until June of last year. I had a panic attack and confessed to my parents about these intrusive thoughts. They were obviously shocked and share. I felt so ashamed and like a monster. After talking with my dad he said we would see a therapist about it. Sadly we never did the first appointment we were late and missed are spot and the second appointment i sprained my ankle the night before so instead i was in the hospital. After that i closed myself off i tried dealing with them on my own using sources like NOCD and stuff. I did try to bring up going to therapy to my parents. Every time they would ask me if the intrusive thoughts were back and I would lie saying "no i just would like to go to therapy" I was so scared they'd be afraid of me and stop loving me, especially my mom. Eventually after awhile my parents forgot about it and I tried ignoring these intrusive thoughts because I was so focused and stressed from school. I decided I could just wait till I turn 18 and schedule myself into therapy. recently though my intrusive thoughts have gotten worse. I recently had a convo with one of my friends who has intrusive thoughts as well and she's encouraging me to talk to my parents. I'm asking y'all what should I do. As much as I'm scared I want to get help because I'm sick of living and feeling like i'm day away from acting on my intrusive thoughts.

Username: Hanna!

Date posted: 1y ago

Scared of getting help

I’m scared of going to therapy/counseling incase I slip up and tell to much and get put into a mental hospital or CPS will get involved (I am 18 but the age of majority is 19 in my state so until next year I can still be taken and put into a foster home) I’m scared of being on medication, when I was around 8-9 my mom had me so medicated for my anxiety and OCD I would sit there and drool on myself…as embarrassing as it is it’s true. I’m scared of being diagnosed with something else and it limiting me in the future. I’m scared of my therapist/counselor going home at the end of the day and making fun of me or telling my story to people. Anyone else have any experiences like this or advice? Thanks!

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