So because of these hocd thoughts feeling so real and me feeling like there is enough proof of me being bi I just said that I was. Any thought that comes in I agree and agree. The problem is then I think about being with girls and finding them hot or sexy and it doesn't feel right but all the sensations and "attraction" feel real I'm literally so confused. I know I don't want to be with girls but the doubt feels unmanageable so I just agree with it but I don't feel happy I more just feel numb. Like it gives me anxiety even thinking of finding girls sexy or hot and makes me feel a little nausea but then my brain is like you're not nauseous at all you don't have any anxiety this is you and who you've always been. Ughhhhhh.

Girllll it just sounds the same as my storyy

i just feel like I could be with girl even though I dont want It i want a boyfriend

That is a great step. But when you say yes, said it like: Yeah, yeah, whatever. Answer to hocd to a point where you don't care anymore about it. You don't need to think about girls to proove anything, always respond to ocd, not to compulsion ♡

The chance is something that you choose. Not something that exist. We can't be waiting or being afraid about things that has not happened. We are not coming to terms of any kind. Ocd is a disorder about doubting everything. It attacks your sexuality, your identity, because is important to you. Our sexuality is not what matters here, is our obsessing behaviour.

Thank you

Don't worry, this shit is hard. And is not fair that is happening to us. But you are not gettin any terms with your sexuality. You get terms with OCD. Repeating thoughts everyday, thinking about the same all day, the cage, the feeling of no scape, everyday feeling the same, the routine, the loneliness the compulsion thoughts, waking up like nothing has any sense, feeling numb or disoriented in your own life, in your own body, missing every aspect of your life before this. This is not normal. This is not about us turning shit. This is something more important than being lesbian or bi or harm someone or whatever. So get attached to that, fight what is making you feel miserable. It doesn't matter the content :)

Thank you for the comment Brooklyn33 I can really relate to that and I also agree with you pam I have this for a long long time people who are gay or bi don't spend years trying to figure out if they are or not they just eventually know and they aren't scared of the thoughts and get anxiety they like and want the thoughts.

You’re seriously making strides by agreeing with the thoughts no matter how difficult it is. Keep that up !!! That’s what you have to keep on doing so until you start to wonder why you feared being bi in the first place. Accept that it’s a process and that the anxiety won’t go away right away , so that you aren’t putting any pressure on yourself. Best of luck ?

I'm in the same situation and I'm so scared and tired of this thoughts... I'm always distressed and always checking...

@LinaD10 I understand that but I’m saying you should work towards getting to the point where your response to thinking the thoughts is true is to say so what ! You will definitely get there. And you have all my support ❤️

Ik the scary part is that the opportunity is there. I remember it was the same thing when I had harm ocd that the opportunity was there to hurt myself or my family if I wanted to. That is the scary part. I'm afraid to even be around females for the chance that I might have a crush on them or something. Also I'm scared cause you and I are the only ones agreeing on this that that means we are "coming to terms with our sexuality" I hate it lol. It sucks.

Honestly harm ocd was miserable but I would take it over hocd any day

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I'm scared though that if I agree with the thoughts they will come true and I really will be bi. I'm not homophobic I just dont want to be bi or be with girls. I just want to be happy with guys. I dont want to look at boobs or butts. That is why im afraid of being bi. That is not what I desire.

@LinaD10 you can’t turn bi from agreeing with the thoughts , you either or you aren’t , but what you can do is accept the idea of turning bi because of it. Tell yourself “ maybe I’m bi , so what ?? If I was , I wouldn’t have to date any girls , it’s just attraction. “ and that it won’t change who you are. And you don’t have to look at boobs or butts either ??? being bi doesn’t automatically mean you wanna look at everything you see. And if it were the case , so what ?

Ok ty

It isn't so what to me though I wish it were and I didn't care at all then it wouldn't be a problem.