idkausername
- Date posted
- 1y
Intrusive thoughts during seggs
I need some help, my intrusive thoughts and counting compulsions have been very present during seggs with my boyfriend. Does anyone know how to deal with this?
JerseygalJerseygal
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Not the exact compulsions but I have other intrusive thoughts. I'm the boss not my OCD brain. Now I just acknowledge that my brain is having those thoughts, again and again. I don't give it any meaning. Once you do that, the thoughts don't bother me. I just have to believe that it's just a thought! Random thought. Nothing special.
idkausernameidkausername
- Date posted
- 1y
Thank you!
iwantnocd iwantnocd
- Date posted
- 1y
I’m so sorry you have to deal with this! sometimes when my brain think of something it’s disturbing and I try to brush it off and get back to it and it can kind of take a second to get back to that place you were in. ocds mission is doubt. to make you doubt everything and anything so if your ocd is acting up during seggs it’s trying to make something positive (hopefully) a negative, it’s already very not true. a positive thing for you is a positive thing. ocd isn’t fun at all and these thoughts especially during moments that should be enjoyable are just trying to get you when you’re vulnerable. tricks: 1, when you have an intrusive thought, you can do the shaking method where you shake a part of your body almost releasing it. 2, when you have an intrusive thought try to combat it with a fantasy involving you and your partner- it redirects the thought. 3, if they’re doing something to you, maybe switch it up and do something to them, it makes your ocd confused cause it came up with a thought based on your other situation 4, pinch ur arm or finger it moves the sensation from ur head to somewhere else. again these are what works for me but everybody’s different hope this helps! sorry you’re dealing with this!
idkausernameidkausername
- Date posted
- 1y
Thank you a lot!
Liv24Liv24
- Date posted
- 1y
I don’t have any tips I’m sorry but I can relate to this😩😩😩 I find my myself counting to also avoid the thoughts I know I’m going to have !!
idkausernameidkausername
- Date posted
- 1y
And then the counting makes it worse :')
Liv24Liv24
- Date posted
- 1y
@idkausername Yes!!! It’s got the the point I dread having sex because of the thoughts I know I’ll have 😭
Flower152Flower152
- Date posted
- 1y
I relate so much!!! Sounds so crazy but every time I have an intrusive thought I try to think of a celebrity just to distract myself. It’s probably not the best way to help it but it can prevent them occasionally! Hope u start to feel better
idkausernameidkausername
- Date posted
- 1y
Thank you!
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