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- idkausername
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- 33w ago
Intrusive thoughts during seggs
I need some help, my intrusive thoughts and counting compulsions have been very present during seggs with my boyfriend. Does anyone know how to deal with this?
I need some help, my intrusive thoughts and counting compulsions have been very present during seggs with my boyfriend. Does anyone know how to deal with this?
Not the exact compulsions but I have other intrusive thoughts. I'm the boss not my OCD brain. Now I just acknowledge that my brain is having those thoughts, again and again. I don't give it any meaning. Once you do that, the thoughts don't bother me. I just have to believe that it's just a thought! Random thought. Nothing special.
Thank you!
I’m so sorry you have to deal with this! sometimes when my brain think of something it’s disturbing and I try to brush it off and get back to it and it can kind of take a second to get back to that place you were in. ocds mission is doubt. to make you doubt everything and anything so if your ocd is acting up during seggs it’s trying to make something positive (hopefully) a negative, it’s already very not true. a positive thing for you is a positive thing. ocd isn’t fun at all and these thoughts especially during moments that should be enjoyable are just trying to get you when you’re vulnerable. tricks: 1, when you have an intrusive thought, you can do the shaking method where you shake a part of your body almost releasing it. 2, when you have an intrusive thought try to combat it with a fantasy involving you and your partner- it redirects the thought. 3, if they’re doing something to you, maybe switch it up and do something to them, it makes your ocd confused cause it came up with a thought based on your other situation 4, pinch ur arm or finger it moves the sensation from ur head to somewhere else. again these are what works for me but everybody’s different hope this helps! sorry you’re dealing with this!
Thank you a lot!
I don’t have any tips I’m sorry but I can relate to this😩😩😩 I find my myself counting to also avoid the thoughts I know I’m going to have !!
And then the counting makes it worse :')
@idkausername Yes!!! It’s got the the point I dread having sex because of the thoughts I know I’ll have 😭
I relate so much!!! Sounds so crazy but every time I have an intrusive thought I try to think of a celebrity just to distract myself. It’s probably not the best way to help it but it can prevent them occasionally! Hope u start to feel better
Thank you!
From what I’ve seen from quite a few people on here and Reddit, dealing with intrusive thoughts during “private” time seems to be something i and many others sadly deal with. I’ve “sort of” gotten used to it but I wish I can enjoy myself sexually the way I used to before these thoughts took over my mind. It’s literally what started the POCD obsession for me in the first place, and why it’s so hard to believe it’s OCD when these thoughts are so prevalent when I’m engaging in something sexual. I always feel reluctant to actually do the deed sometimes cause of how present the thoughts are before I do it but I force myself to cause avoiding it isn’t gonna help. And honestly, I just want to get it over with before my sex drive and these thoughts clash and make it infinitely worse. I try my best to focus on what I know I want (gay porn) but it’s like windshield wipers during a storm. I see clearly for like 5 seconds then boom there’s something that shouldn’t be there and I have to stop. Over and over again. It’s even worse when I finish and it finds its way back on mind when it should be the last thing on it at such a moment. I can’t believe the one thing I used as a stress reliever is now something that cause me nothing but stress.
how do u deal with guilt caused by intrusive thoughts during sexual activities?
Has anyone gone through this or is still going through this and can give any tips on how to make it stop? The intrusive thoughts during sexual activities are simply bothering me so much that I'm afraid to do anything like that because of the thoughts. I couldn't do it for weeks because I was always thinking about some atrocious thing, but yesterday I failed and now I'm feeling bad because even though I tried not to think, it's like I had an open folder in the back of my head and I blame myself for not being able to delete or block it. I'm afraid that avoiding it will become a compulsion and disrupt my sex life, but I also don't feel comfortable doing it often because of the thoughts. Does anyone identify? any tips to improve? I'm repressing myself because of this and I know it's not something that will do me any good. Sorry if this is inappropriate.
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