Intrusive thoughts at inconvenient times

From what I’ve seen from quite a few people on here and Reddit, dealing with intrusive thoughts during “private” time seems to be something i and many others sadly deal with. I’ve “sort of” gotten used to it but I wish I can enjoy myself sexually the way I used to before these thoughts took over my mind. It’s literally what started the POCD obsession for me in the first place, and why it’s so hard to believe it’s OCD when these thoughts are so prevalent when I’m engaging in something sexual. I always feel reluctant to actually do the deed sometimes cause of how present the thoughts are before I do it but I force myself to cause avoiding it isn’t gonna help. And honestly, I just want to get it over with before my sex drive and these thoughts clash and make it infinitely worse. I try my best to focus on what I know I want (gay porn) but it’s like windshield wipers during a storm. I see clearly for like 5 seconds then boom there’s something that shouldn’t be there and I have to stop. Over and over again. It’s even worse when I finish and it finds its way back on mind when it should be the last thing on it at such a moment. I can’t believe the one thing I used as a stress reliever is now something that cause me nothing but stress.

Username: aglaesiaaglaesia

Date posted: 38w ago

I get this too, either pocd or trauma while im trying to enjoy myself. Its the worst. Idk how to help but youre not alone

Username: Jay222Jay222

Date posted: 38w ago

@aglaesia I just don’t know what to do about it or go about it let alone feel about if. How am I supposed to go about it and NOT question as to why these thoughts appear when they shouldn’t be. It’s so confusing and frustrating. It’s good to know im not alone but I wish we didn’t have to deal with this at all.

Username: JosieSimonsJosieSimons

Date posted: 38w ago

I also get this but it’s usually me saying “what if I’m forcing this” because my main OCD is ROCD and I get scared that I’m not attracted to my partner because I don’t get the butterflies I used to get when we first started dating, and I need to just know that long term relationships plateau and that’s ok.

Username: ambermayxambermayx

Date posted: 38w ago

I get this all the time Everytime I’m by myself doing it it just gets in the way then I tell myself I’m just gonna ignore it and continue to try enjoy myself and then it pops up when I’m finishing and then I regret it and get so upset after You’re not the only one and I’m not sure how to help because I need it too It’s so unfair we have to deal with this when it’s meant to be something to give us pleasure and for us to enjoy I enjoy doing it but that just makes it unenjoyable and disturbing

Username: Heaven1sonearthHeaven1sonearth

Date posted: 18w ago

i don’t feel like porn can be a stress reliever. it’s unhealthy and i don’t think the brain should input that, especially on a regular basis because then it becomes a whole other thing. a compulsion of sorts, a habit, a hobby but it’s an empty hobby, you will never get anything from porn and i think it can be even more detrimental for people with ocd. is it possible that you can stop watching porn and just think of scenarios instead? i understand you’ll be missing out on dopamine but it’s cheap dopamine and isn’t actually helping you.

Username: Jay222Jay222

Date posted: 18w ago

@Heaven1sonearth It’s complicated. I tried to just use my imagination before but sadly it’s hard to do that. Especially since my mind will just change into something else. Idk if it feels worth it.

Username: Sero82

Date posted: 1y ago

Horrible Sexually Intrusive Thoughts

Sometimes, there are pop ups in my mind of sexually intrusive thoughts and feelings of strong urges of acting out on severely inappropriate things, and it makes me terrified. I feel like a predator honestly, with intrusive thoughts that make me severely anxious, distressed, and uncomfortable. I do not agree with these thoughts, I do not want them, I hate them. I don't know how to stop them. I don't know how I even got them, but they make me feel like a bad person. The urges make me feel like I'd genuinely act on them, but I'd do anything to stop myself from that, anything. I don't know how to make them stop, and I don't know what this signifies of me as a person. The feelings and strength behind them feel so real and so strong, it's difficult to convince myself otherwise. And, oh my god, being able to visualize things in your mind is a quality I wish I did not have. Seriously, it's horrible. I don't want to see images of what I'm getting a sudden intrusive urge to do, and I try to shove it out of my head and it doesn't work. I feel like there are some components that I grew up with that made me learn of things of a sexual nature at a young age that could have made me into a hypersexualized individual, and the discomfort I feel surrounding that (which I am committed to resolving and unpacking) is fueling these intrusive thoughts and makes me feel like they are real because of the fact that I am dealing with a problem of hypersexuality and issues surrounding arousal. Typing this all on here is also distressful because nothing online ever goes away and it makes me anxious thinking of someone linking this to me one day, but I understand it's a public forum to discuss OCD-related issues and so I hope everyone here is kind about that and undissmissive because I'm just looking for some help from this nightmare. Thank you.

Username: jojojuhjojo

Date posted: 33w ago

Intrusive thoughts during sex?

Does anyone else have intrusive thoughts during sex that make you lose your ability for focus/make the experience less enjoyable? I have POCD so having intrusive thoughts of this nature during sex not only make sex with my boyfriend way less enjoyable, but also make me feel perverted for having them while simultaneously aroused. It feels like they’re causing my arousal even tho I know rationally that they aren’t. Any advice? Feel kind of alone in this.

Username: Bwillbebetter

Date posted: 29w ago

intrusive thoughts during sexual activities (+18)

Has anyone gone through this or is still going through this and can give any tips on how to make it stop? The intrusive thoughts during sexual activities are simply bothering me so much that I'm afraid to do anything like that because of the thoughts. I couldn't do it for weeks because I was always thinking about some atrocious thing, but yesterday I failed and now I'm feeling bad because even though I tried not to think, it's like I had an open folder in the back of my head and I blame myself for not being able to delete or block it. I'm afraid that avoiding it will become a compulsion and disrupt my sex life, but I also don't feel comfortable doing it often because of the thoughts. Does anyone identify? any tips to improve? I'm repressing myself because of this and I know it's not something that will do me any good. Sorry if this is inappropriate.

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