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accept uncertainty
how do you accept uncertainty I find it impossible and so distressing? It’s ruining my life😔
how do you accept uncertainty I find it impossible and so distressing? It’s ruining my life😔
I have found it tremendously helpful to actively try to challenge some of my black-and-white thinking on my themes. I have found that I can’t really “live with the uncertainty” if that means trying to straddle an extremely sharp good-vs-evil or hell-vs-heaven line. That simply doesn’t work. You must try to soften that line, learn and think more deeply about your fears, and try to identify grey areas where you can perhaps find some peace when required. Check out OCD Recovery videos on youtube for helpful advice on this. By the way this is not at all an exercise in abandoning your values or moral judgement, it’s more about trying to see things more clearly, calmly, compassionately.
If it helps, as a starting point, here are some irrational beliefs you might find helpful to try to challenge: - I am my thoughts - This thought/ urge/ bodily reaction means I want this - OCD is not the reason I am obsessing about this - If people knew, they would totally reject me - If people rejected me, my life would be over - Etc. Etc. Etc. If you’re anything like me, you probably have a whole range of these waiting for you back there! I hope this helps!!
I’m really struggling with this too. Something that has been helping me is Matthew Marshal on YouTube. He has some shorts about his ocd that relate to accepting uncertainty. I’ve yet to achieve acceptance for the uncertainty but really striving to hopefully one day be there
I struggle with false memory ocd and accepting uncertainty makes me feel sick
I’m trying to live with uncertainty but it doesn’t feel right. The “I may or may not be bi/gay” really sucks because I can’t stop ruminating, analyzing, or checking. This especially sucks because I feel like literally EVERYTHING in my life leads to the fact that I’m a fraud which feels horrible. I can’t even talk to my friends the way I used to without feeling like I’m lying about myself. The false attraction and loss of attraction to men is literally horrible because now I feel like the life i fantasized for myself isn’t something I want.
Hi All, just wondering if anyone here has any tips with dealing with uncertainty? My OCD centres on my being worried that I have committed a crime and can’t remember doing so, I was out last weekend and my mind is telling me I attacked somebody as I got an intrusive thought to do so when passing them in a bar, my therapist says I need to sit with the uncertainty that maybe I did and maybe I didn’t and have to be ok with that But if the answer is yes then how can I be ok with committing a crime and going to jail??, it’s affecting my relationship and I’m going on holiday on Friday and I’m worried it will ruin that, any tips would be greatly appreciated.
I've been told a lot that in order to get better, we need to tolerate uncertainty, which yea I get that and I'm trying every day more and more to reach that point!! But I've also been told that we need to tolerate uncertainty AND "our worst fears becoming true". Like how does that work, especially with POCD, OCD about a///ault, SA and all of that? Like that is really difficult for me and I don't really understand how I'm supposed to just shrug stuff like that off
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