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Hello, I hope everyone's doing well
How do you guys deal with emotional contamination?
How do you guys deal with emotional contamination?
I don't know how to explain it, but Everytime I study when Im uncomfortable or if someone that I dont like or that I think I have uncomfortable thoughts about (Like I dont like that person or I dont like the way I thought about that person?) touches my books I just want to rebuy them. That happened maybe like twiceOr maybe someone that I think I had a bad past with which may sound not sensible but it happens... I reassured myself said first past this year and order new ones in the summer. Or recently something happend and I still havent touched the stuff that has something to do with it. I avoided touching them. I feel like my stuff gets contaminated by my thoughts. Its not severe but I wanted to share
@sepsomeone yes! I get this so much like if I think it relates to a bad thing that happened I will avoid that object
@ambermayx Im so sorry that you can relate, but Im glad that we aren't alone in this, we will get through it!
@sepsomeone We will it can be so hard
@ambermayx For sure
You should sit with uncomfortable feelings, but you shouldn't suddenly do this. If you can, use therapy. If not, you should learn about not engaging with your mind. They are just thoughts. Learn to be an observer, and then allow your feelings to come up and let them go later. Do the opposite of your OCD. You can educate yourself and then start ERP. If you're still not ready, you can use a wet cloth and a little soap, or even just a clean and dry cloth, to clean the book that they touched. Later, tell yourself that it's okay, whatever feelings you have about them, and let the emotions go. Doesn't need to buy a new book and shouldn't at least give you a little resistance in front of your OCD, but not buying again or throwing out.Remember, you have to break the cycle of OCD; otherwise, it will become harder and create new rules. Cleaning is only temporary relief.
Thank you very much, I actually used to take thetaphy but I left now I go to my phsychiatrist once a month. Im taking medicines and I hope they will help too. I know thoughts doesnt have to be the reality but something I just cant help but overthink it. Ill try my best. I was diagnosed with ocd maybe a year ago or not sure. That is true its a temporary relief... Ill seek for more advices by explaining my situation more detailed to my therapist. Thank you for your message I appreciate it
@sepsomeone You're welcome. I have contamination OCD too. Also, try meditation; it is very helpful. If you are a fan of reading books "Letting Go" by Dr. David Hawkins is great. Also, "From Stuck to Unstuck" by Matt Codde is for OCD. It is also important for your therapist to be a specialist. Wish you success on your journey
@Anonymous here Ill make sure to check them out, and Ill try meditation. Thank you and I wish you the best with your journey as well, we will succeed :)
@sepsomeone Thanks. Yes, we have to believe in ourselves, have hope, and never give up.
@Anonymous here Exactly ❤️
I even feel like my stuff are emotionally contaminated from what I avoided mentioning,
Hi there. I’ve recently joined NOCD and wanted to ask: does anyone have a sort of mental contamination fear, such as believing that interacting with people will “infect” oneself in a psychological manner? Just wanted to reach out and ask if this is an experience others had. Also looking to share experiences with others. Thanks.
So I have pretty intense contamination OCD tied to Moral/Real event OCD, and I'm having a hard time with it because part of me does genuinely believe my logic checks out, and I was hoping to get some insight as to how to change the way I see it from other people who sort of get the mindset involved :). To sum it up as well as I can, I basically have a very souped-up version of the same item-event association most people have. For example, let's say you have a HORRIBLE, GOD AWFUL relationship with a person you can't even begin to think of favorably even years after the event. They had gotten you a stuffed animal for your anniversary at some point. You finally "escape" the relationship, and you throw away the stuffed animal. This is seen as a very normal and sound-of-mind action. Here's where things get tricky: For me, throwing out that stuffed animal wouldn't be enough. After all, it touched my table didn't it? And my table touched the floor right? And these things now carry that person's germs. And if I don't get rid of them, then they'll infect my future belongings. This logic isn't entirely flawed either, as even my OCD specialist said he believes in a "weaker version of what I do". How am I supposed to convince myself that what I'm believing is false when the literal psychologist confirmed that what I'm doing is just a more in-depth version of a normal experience? Ex: I have a new outfit, fresh and clean. I'm unbothered and happy, but I knick the side of a table. The table holds awful associations. I get this awful sense of dread. The clothes are now somewhat sullied, and I'll eventually have to give them away. I don't think I'm explaining this as well as I could, but I feel like those notions are there. Anyways, does anyone have any insight as to how to get my mind to genuinely believe that interacting with these things is "safe"?
(long read ahead, sorry lol) I’ve struggled with ocd for as far back as I can remember. I find that it gets worse with stress, and recently I’ve really been struggling with the contamination aspect of my ocd. I’m worried about it becoming unmanageable and negatively affecting my relationship with my partner. I’ve been living with my boyfriend since January (got kicked out of my house a week after I turned 18, it’s for the better though my house is toxic as hell) and I love living with him, but him and his family aren’t as concerned with cleaning as I am used to. My boyfriend and I have been together going on 2 years and there’s been many times throughout our relationship that his struggle with depression severely impacted his ability to keep up with cleaning his room. This is something I completely understand because I’ve struggled with it too so i’ve often helped him clean, and since i’ve moved in he’s done so much better at keeping up with cleaning (especially because he knows about my issues with clutter, mess, germs, etc.) He is really good at being accommodating towards my needs (not overly so, i’m aware that recovering includes accepting being uncomfortable), but it’s so hard for me to differentiate between what is the normal standard for cleanliness and hygiene and what’s excessive and unhealthy. I get so stressed out every single day over the thought of how dirty everything is. He has 3 cats that mainly stay in his room (he has a catio attached to his window/side of the house) and dogs which stay on the opposite side of the house and backyard, so there is fur everywhere constantly (i’m also allergic to cats but it’s not severe). I can’t stop thinking about how they are getting germs from their litter box all over everything. They also used to piss under his bed and in his closet when his room used to be a mess and it’s soaked into the floor so no matter what it stinks. It’s so hard to bring myself to walk around the house without slippers because my feet will get visibly dirty and my socks would get covered in hair. I always think about how my boyfriend sometimes walks on the rugs in the bathroom in shoes and all the germs that spreads. There’s so many more things but this is already getting long and I am shaking just thinking about how unclean everything is. I want to deep clean the entire house myself so I can get it to where It’s not like psychological torture everyday and it’s easier to maintain but I have been so busy I don’t have the time. I am worried about my boyfriend thinking I don’t like living with him or that I think that’s he’s dirty but i don’t. We have had several conversations about this and he’s reassured me that he knows none of my obsessive thoughts are personal but I still feel so bad about it. I would like to get therapy to help work through this but currently that is not an option for me. I know things will get better once I get through the main things in my life that are causing a lot of stress and therefore making my ocd flair up, but I need advice on what to do in the mean time. I keep having moments where all I can do is shake and cry and clean and I feel bad for my poor boyfriend who can only sit next to me and try to comfort me or help me clean. I also don’t want to make him worried that nothing he does is enough for me (i’ve also already talked to him about this and told him about how I can never even be clean enough for myself and that I don’t think he’s dirty). There’s been many times where I want to tell him to do things that I think might be my own unhealthy compulsions (ex. not wearing shoes in the house or in our room, not getting into bed with socks on, making sure to completely dry off before getting out the shower, put makeup and jewelry back where they belong right after using them, etc.) but i can’t tell if they’re reasonable or not and i try to not tell him unless it’s something that severely distresses me. I’m aware that everything is going to have germs no matter what and have been using NER’s to help manage my thought spirals/rumination. I know that I shouldn’t keep doing compulsions because it just offers temporary relief and makes the problem worse because nothing will ever be enough. I just feeling so overwhelmed and hopeless and exhausted and want some feedback.
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