Struggling with sexual orientation OCD and doubts about being gay.

Thinking I’m gay cuz of what others said

Does anyone else struggle with sexual orientation OCD? I am a male who identifies as straight but for awhile Thought that I was bi sexual cuz I thought I was experiencing same sex attraction, but now that I’ve become aware that sexual orientation OCD is a thing and has a name, I can see that that is what I was struggling with. Yet, I’ve still had people say to me that I am gay and this n that, and I don’t know why. Maybe it’s cuz I am not as masculine as other men? Maybe cuz I have a higher voice? Maybe cuz i don’t have that strong alpha male posture? I overthink this. Just cuz someone told me that they think i am gay, doesn’t mean I am. This is where my Sexual orientation OCD kicks in, & I start thinking oh my gosh well if this person n that person n that person thinks im gay, then maybe i am! But the thing is is IM NOT! I am attracted to women and I wanna be married and have kids, & I can see how I have been obsessing about my orientation because of what others have said about me. Anyone else dealt with this?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: Camille67Camille67

Date posted: 27w ago

Same! So many people told me "you look lesbian" and I started to obsess over It and here I am.

Username: ZoroarcanineZoroarcanine

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 27w ago

Hahahaha yes! I’ve once had a thought that because I love my wife too much and don’t treat her like a housewife like a real man that that means that I’m secretly gay. It’s ridiculous writing it but OCD love’s the ridiculous thoughts because they get us worked up. If you haven’t yet, I highly recommend getting diagnosed and starting ERP therapy. I’ve found OCD to have affected me in a lot of areas in life that I never realized and I wish I got the help I needed sooner

Username: thebubblyonethebubblyone

Date posted: 27w ago

hey, i totally get where you're coming from. dealing with sexual orientation ocd can be super tough, especially when people around you drop comments that just fuel those obsessive thoughts. just remember, your identity is yours to define, not anyone else's. 🙌 by the way, have you heard about this new ai-powered ocd therapy tool called "unstuck?" when i was in a similar spot, what really helped me was this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyocd.com/try) that my nocd therapist recommended to me. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it's designed to provide personalized support for exactly these kinds of intrusive thoughts. the ai guides you through managing your ocd in a way that's tailored to your specific situation, kind of like having an ocd therapist in your pocket. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have qs or just want to talk more! <3

Username: YouarenotyourOCDYouarenotyou...

Date posted: 27w ago

@thebubblyone Thank you! I’ll check this out for sure !! I think I read somewhere else that someone else used this and it really helped them

Username: Gay

Date posted: 6y ago

So, I’m gay, but I have obsessive thoughts about being straight. The idea of being with a man is not something that I find appealing, but a mix of OCD and compulsory heterosexuality causes a lot of anxiety for me. Does anyone else have similar issues? If so, do you have any advice on how to cope?

Username: crystalwolf1053

Date posted: 5y ago

Does anybody have Sexuality OCD? Because I am pretty sure that I am straight but then suddenly about a week ago I stopped going guys attractive and it really scared me. I was convinced I was gay! I tried to like a girl but my brain was telling me that it was wrong. That was when I thought ‘OMG I DONT HAVE A SEXUALITY’ and I got really scared. Then yesterday I thought a girl was really cute but then saw a guy and thought he was gorgeous! And then I was like no I have to be straight!!!!! What do I do? Does anybody have this problem?

Username: OCDeezeNuts

Date posted: 1y ago

Bisexual OCD?

I feel so many discussions of SO-OCD revolve around (mostly) straight identifying people fearing they are gay, or the reverse. But has anyone who identifies as bisexual or queer experienced SO-OCD? I am a woman married to a man, and while my sexual orientation has been reasonably fluid since I was in my teens, I have consistently felt a preference for men, and never felt the need to put a label on my identity (including straight) - and I’ve never hidden the fact that I’ve had flings with women. About three years ago I had the “brain broke” moment where I suddenly out of nowhere thought: “I am bisexual, I have been masquerading as straight since I’m married to a man, and I have to come out to everyone I know.” It was all I could think about. The fact that I felt shame accompanying it made me fear that I might be using the term bisexual to cover up the fact that I was actually gay. It particularly messes with my head because OCD is characterised as “unwanted” thoughts, but actually I am occasionally attracted to people of other genders, so these thoughts are not always unwanted. Which makes me wonder whether I am just in denial, and I don’t have OCD at all? And thus the cycle continues… Would just love to hear from anyone else if they relate to this!

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