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- Madeline
- Date posted
- 5y ago
The thing is I love my boyfriend so much but I’m so scared of my thoughts. I’m terrified of doing ERP because I’m afraid my thoughts are actually true and have nothing to do with OCD. I keep telling myself about how special he is and how much I love him but my thoughts tell me I’m lying to myself...
Don’t worry. My boyfriend is really talkative and social and has a lot of friends, and I get anxious when he talks to other girls. Once we met a couple of classmates while at the movies (they’re both girls) and spent like 15 minutes talking with them. Not gonna lie I got super jealous. I’m not the jealous type either?
Oh god.. I have the exact same thing! I’m truly sorry because I can’t help because I’m struggling with this too, but I wish you luck. You can do this!
I get feelings of happiness then an intrusive thought of but u don’t really want to be with her then I get upset at thought of not being with her so sort of clarify that I actually do only for like a guilty sinking feeling comes back in saying don’t and not to kiss her or have sex etc it’s a nightmare but I just kee Trying to ignore thoughts feelings and urges seems to work for a while then something different pops up
Thank you! My boyfriend is awesome and is always willing to talk about what’s going on with me
And it’s pretty damn good at convincing :’) we’ll get through this
I keep coming to the conclusion I don’t think it’s that I don’t want to be with my partner it’s more the thought of not being with her that gets me worked up my ex wife was physically and emotionally abusive also cheated numerous times my therapist says although she doesn’t really diagnose she has no doubt at all I have a severe case of ocd and need to be more compassionate to myself I love my lady more than anything my therapist says my exes actions will have triggered me somewhere along the line .... keep fighting we can win this war
Dude, I’m really hoping you’re okay. You really will win this war, I promise you. You clearly know that you love your girl, and the thought of being without her is just a thought you can let go. We’ll all get through this!
Been suffering since June a few days of being “ok” but sort of learning to accept and ignore the thoughts etc just some days harder than others also getting like a jealousy feeling towards my partners ex because he was with her first ? I know crazy isn’t it I’m 100% not the jealous type I never have been but all of a sudden I seem to be
It’s up and down for me which is what’s hard. When I hit the lows and feel anxious I’m like “What happened from an hour ago until now?” I’m working through it though. What helped too was being honest with my boyfriend and said that I’m just in it for the moment and I’m not trying to look to far into the future. So many people around me my age get married right out of college and marry the person they date in college so I feel like that’s what freaks me out sometimes
Does anyone have any advice on how to get through this?
You too! I really like my boyfriend and when I’m with him I feel fine, but afterwards I start to freak out and I don’t know how to feel and feel like I did something wrong.
I know what you mean. It all feels very real. But one thing OCD does is try to convince you that it’s not OCD
I was doing better until a few days ago. I have ROCD and I keep thinking that my boyfriend and I aren’t right for each other. In some way we don’t match despite me not thinking this before the ROCD kicked in. I went from thinking we were a perfect match to for without reason thinking differently. But I have to remind myself it’s ROCD and as long as your happy then that’s it. That’s all you have to worry about.
Anybody with HOCD/ROCD that can relate? Sometimes when I’m around my girlfriend I get really irritable and anxious cuz I’m so in my head and I feel bad because all I want to do is be away from her in those moments when she doesn’t really understand what’s going on. I have a tendency to focus on her negative attributes and they get so loud in my head that I just can’t function around her sometimes. What can I do? I feel like I can’t escape these thoughts anywhere I go.
I always wonder “what if I’m not attracted to my partner” “what if I still have feelings for other people” “what if I cheated on my partner” “what if my partner cheats on me” “what If my partner annoys me and I don’t actually want to be with him” and I’ll do this so much over and over that I get so worked up I’ll criticize him, over analyze him, feel as though I don’t like him. But then an hour later after I find relief ( from telling him, looking things up, talking to my sisters about it) I’ll be in love with him but I won’t fully feel it because I’ll just be thinking about how I just felt before and how bad it was or anticipate it again for the future. So I’m constantly ruining it for myself, and it hurts so bad because he’s so perfect for me and so kind to me and everything about our relationship is right but my mind tries to convince me of other things and it feels so real.
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