Anyone here a Christian and dealing with ROCD? I’m in a really great relationship with my boyfriend who is a Christian like myself. We both have our own solid relationship with God. However, every time I pray specifically about my relationship (and have for 4 years) I feel like God gives me affirmations or feelings soon after that conclude with my boyfriend just not being the person God has for me and I know God loves me and wants the best for me no matter what. Every time I pray about this, the ROCD comes in, like, “God has more for you”, “God has someone better for you”, “Am I disobeying and disappointing God if I stay in this relationship?” “Am I missing out on someone more fulfilling that God may have for me?” You get the point. After that part of the process, I beat myself up in guilt both for my boyfriend and thinking that I’m not listening to what God wants for me and I’m just holding onto something that’s good but I could have better. Then I just stop praying about that question and feel like I avoid God. And lastly, inevitably, I feel numb around my boyfriend because I’m exhausted from the whole process and I live in a feeling of settlement even though I do love him. My boyfriend believes that God has put me in his life and that God has grown him so much in part for me and because of our relationship. He is amazing, and I agree slightly, but that just leads me to more questions. Why don’t I feel that was too or why don’t I feel love for him the way I should If God out us together? Sorry if this triggers anyone. I have just been dealing with this for 4 years and have never actually typed it out this way. Any comments, advice or anything is welcome

Just be sure to consider if it’s relationship OCD on its own or if it’s also religious OCD

My partner has ROCD and we are both Christian. I know one of his base fears is "what if there's someone better out there?". And when people give different religious advice particularly about discerning the will of God, it can get very confusing! Maybe there is someone better out there. I am okay with doubt. And together with my partner we are learning about being okay with not having 100% certainty about our relationship. We choose to be together now and ongoing choose to love each other. One thing as we have prayed is that GOD GIVES US CHOICE! You are free to make a choice, and you are not stuck with your boyfriend. But you don't have to leave him either :) Have you ever worked through these 'what if's with a psychologist?

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This sounds very exhausting, I too deal with similar things. You have OCD so you can trust those thought necessarily. Your best bet is to ask WHY would God not want you to be with him? Make a list, if there are legitimate reasons, then ask what’s Gods thinking about those reasons, can I live with those things. God is not harsh he will not make you suffer in relationship just because you think he may not like this decision. There must be real reasons why. Writing it down can get you out of your head and see things more clearly. If you can’t find any real reasons then just remind yourself that it’s just the OCD talking not God. God is aware of your OCD and knows your struggling. he’s compassionate and sees you trying to put him and his choice first but also knows what your dealing with. He doesn’t want us to just make decisions based on our feelings and black and white thjnking.

Hey girl! I wrestle with this too. My boyfriend is Catholic, and I’m Protestant and it caused a lot of anxiety because of how different the two are. He’s a wonderful man and has been an incredible leader for the both of us. But I’ve had a lot of ROCD type thoughts recently, and one way I’ve been speaking truth to myself is to say “if these thoughts are the product of overthinking, this is not from God this is straight from the enemy.”

*You can’t trust those thoughts

Hi, I know this thread is old, but was wondering if I commented on it that someone would notice? This situation is so so very relevant to me and I would love to discuss it with you.

My main thing is sometimes I’ll have these fleeting thoughts that are like “but what if he ISNT” or “what if he DOESNT” do these certain things. And sometimes I have a hard time trusting that my partner has a relationship with Jesus. But one thing I’ve been really trying to practice is to (1) trust my partner at his word, and (2) one thing this lady that disciples me told me is that the two most important things in a relationship are: (1) does he love Jesus, and (2) is he teachable

This is relevant to me as far as worrying if thoughts are from God or my ocd! Hope you are doing better!

Hey there, I know this post is really old but I’m struggling with this so much. Was wondering how you are doing and if you’ve had any break throughs since.