New relationship, need advice

It’s really important to understand that having OCD is definitely not your fault, it’s never something to be guilty too, to be honest most people would be really understanding too, if he’s an caring and empathetic person, for sure he would understand that, don’t worry!!

when you feel like you can trust him with that information, it is best to be honest with him. the sooner the better because if it turns out he is unwilling to deal with something like that, it will hurt less. it will also give you incite on whether or not he is the right kind of person for you. it is always best to communicate, especially in new relationships.

Take a deep breath and be gentle with yourself. You are so much more than your OCD. I have definitely felt like I don’t deserve good relationships and that I’ll ruin everything. Love yourself first. People say that and I didn’t really get it until I finally did. (Hooray for therapy!) I learned to be supportive of myself, to change my critical inner voice into a support system. I wouldn’t tell him until I was coming from a strong, solid place of “I want you to know me better, to reveal more of who I am to you.” If you are just telling him out of fear, because you’re afraid you’ll ruin it, then you’re basically seeking reassurance and probably feeding your OCD. You’ll always be afraid that he’ll leave you because of it. But like I said, you’re more than your OCD. And we are loved not because we’re perfect, but because we exist. You just have to be yourself. I feel the urge to share my flaws with new people early on…it is a protection against rejection and I feel like I need to be honest. But again, I now try to share out of a place of wanting to be known, wanting connection, rather than out of fear. And I can wait—it takes time to really get to know a person. I don’t have to be in a big rush to share. Hope things go well when you do decide to share. And by that I mean, he knows that you are still the same wonderful person—just that you’re human and you have struggles like everyone else.