I had a major breakdown last night in front of my husband and he said that it’s fine but I know it’s frustrating for him bc I deal with relationship ocd. He told me he just wants me to be myself. Which isn’t so easy when u are so confused by all the contradicting thoughts and feelings in my head. I also felt REALLY intense pains in my chest today where my heart is. I’m really afraid that my anxiety will ultimately cause me a heart attack. I’m CONSTANTLY STRESSED and I’m afraid it’s actually killing me.?

Anthomy

Date posted: 5y ago

It is fine to breakdown. Especially to those who support you. That's healthy to let it out in my opinion. It can be frustrating to your partner but if you're together there has to be understanding from both of you. Of course it's hard on his side but it's hard on your side too. Communicate to help eachother. What if thisvwas cancer? It's be equally as hard. Trust yourself and do the best you can not knowing if he's the one.

llamaduck

Date posted: 5y ago

I think saying be yourself can be confusing for us with ocd. I think we have to use erp and whatever other tools help to get to our true selves and not let intrusive thoughts define us.

Ania85

Date posted: 5y ago

Be compassionate with yourself. You're doing the best you can. And Anthomy is right. Embrace the uncertainty. There is no test you can take to make sure that he's the one. You just have to wait it out and see what happens. And that's really scary and uncomfortable, but all the billions of people before you didn't have any guarantees in their relationship either, and they turned out okay. And so will you.

Anxiousashley

Date posted: 5y ago

I do know he’s the one. Well, I want him to be my one

Anxiousashley

Date posted: 5y ago

I just don’t want to loose him bc of my OCD

JaeJae20

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23w ago

Panic attack advice

Yall these panic attacks are getting FOUL. please give some good advice. The ocd brain in me be telling me I’m dying and bout to head to the Gates of Heaven. Helpppp

Mariabae

Date posted: 16w ago

i feel so bad about this i cant stop

Lately, I’ve been struggling with feelings that I might be sabotaging myself in my relationship. By sabotage, I mean that I find it hard to stop engaging in compulsions, like seeking reassurance or overanalyzing my thoughts. I also sometimes behave badly with my boyfriend, and the intrusive thoughts I have can completely change my mood. I love my boyfriend—he’s such a good, beautiful, and wonderful person—but I’m afraid these thoughts are going to ruin things. I truly want to love him, but I’m scared. I know the thoughts are anxiety-driven, but they still make me question if I’m forcing myself to stay with him. Today, for example, I felt okay earlier, but when he called me on video, I suddenly felt like I didn’t feel anything, and I started thinking I don’t like how he looks. These thoughts hit me like a wave, and I panicked. Usually, I find him very attractive, but when these thoughts come, I feel sad and disconnected. What’s confusing is that I also have many moments—like today and in the past few days—where I’ve felt really good and I’ve felt love for him. I feel awful writing this because my boyfriend doesn’t deserve this, and I feel like I’m posting out of habit. It makes me scared that I don’t want to accept the truth, even though I know I care about him. I hate feeling this way because it feels like I’m betraying him by having these thoughts and posting them. Has anyone else dealt with these feelings of sabotaging their relationship or feeling like they’re forcing themselves to stay? How do you cope when the thoughts feel like they’re true, and how do you work through the fear of letting go of anxiety

Anonymous

Date posted: 13w ago

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I'm having awful stomach pain and nausea and it's really worrying me and scaring me

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