Okay so i’ve had harmful thoughts about my boyfriend for some time now and i know that i don’t want to hurt him in any way but when i get an intrusive thought sometimes, it seems like im happy. i know that im not and when this happens i get so anxious and want to throw up because wtf i don’t want to hurt anyone. does anyone else experience this?
That sounds like a lot of what ocd does messing with my thoughts and trying to make it seem like I like them
yes sometimes it’s so so distressing and trying to block it out only does so much honestly talk to him I’ve spoke to my girlfriend when I feel this way and she was very understanding maybe have a conversation so when you find a trigger coming or that sense of inducing harm to him give him a key word so he knows exactly how to comfort you 🫶🏻I’m only diagnosed a few months and I’m still young yet but let me know how you get on rooting for you !!
I experience this almost every day, my nocd therapist says it can be an obsession with safety or harm that can manifest itself into fearing that youll hurt the people you love most (ocd attacks your core values). The way my nocd therapist approaches this is to use uncertainty or externalization. You could hurt him or you could not, you dont know the future but you can sit with the discomfort of the thought while resisting compulsions & i can be confident based on past experience that i can sit with my discomfort❤️an externalization example is to say “i just had an intrusive thought/ ope thats an obsession” and simply addressing it as such can help loads. This probably isnt what you want to hear, rather reassurance but that will only feed ocd. I wish you the best on your journey!❤️
Dealing with the same thing
Does anyone else’s intrusive thoughts at times make them ‘feel’ things? Like if you have an intrusive thought about your boyfriend you then begin to feel you don’t want to be with him. And afterward you feel extreme guilt and shame because you do love him so much. I used to call them “fake feelings”
can someone explain what this could be? so whenever my boyfriend talks so happily about his car and how happy it makes him and how much fun he has with it.. thoughts about him getting into a car accident always come to my mind .. whenever he talks about the car i always think "what if now that he’s talking so happily about his car something happens to it or he gets into a car accident" and i hate that i get these thoughts they make me so sad… and then this one time me and him got into an argument and without even wanting to think this and without any warning this thought came into my head "maybe i do want you to get into an accident" and i hated that that thought popped into my head it makes me cry i wouldn’t want a single thing to happen to him is this intrusive thoughts??? is this ocd is this normal for ocd pls help?
does any one else have an intrusive thought and you go over it in your head and try to see if you react in a good or bad way? i’ve been having bad intrusive thoughts but i sometimes have this feeling inside that i like it? and i feel it’s right and i agree inside but my other thoughts are saying no i hate it ?!
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