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Okay so i’ve had harmful thoughts about my boyfriend for some time now and i know that i don’t want to hurt him in any way but when i get an intrusive thought sometimes, it seems like im happy. i know that im not and when this happens i get so anxious and want to throw up because wtf i don’t want to hurt anyone. does anyone else experience this?
That sounds like a lot of what ocd does messing with my thoughts and trying to make it seem like I like them
yes sometimes it’s so so distressing and trying to block it out only does so much honestly talk to him I’ve spoke to my girlfriend when I feel this way and she was very understanding maybe have a conversation so when you find a trigger coming or that sense of inducing harm to him give him a key word so he knows exactly how to comfort you 🫶🏻I’m only diagnosed a few months and I’m still young yet but let me know how you get on rooting for you !!
I experience this almost every day, my nocd therapist says it can be an obsession with safety or harm that can manifest itself into fearing that youll hurt the people you love most (ocd attacks your core values). The way my nocd therapist approaches this is to use uncertainty or externalization. You could hurt him or you could not, you dont know the future but you can sit with the discomfort of the thought while resisting compulsions & i can be confident based on past experience that i can sit with my discomfort❤️an externalization example is to say “i just had an intrusive thought/ ope thats an obsession” and simply addressing it as such can help loads. This probably isnt what you want to hear, rather reassurance but that will only feed ocd. I wish you the best on your journey!❤️
Dealing with the same thing
Does anyone else’s intrusive thoughts at times make them ‘feel’ things? Like if you have an intrusive thought about your boyfriend you then begin to feel you don’t want to be with him. And afterward you feel extreme guilt and shame because you do love him so much. I used to call them “fake feelings”
does any one else have an intrusive thought and you go over it in your head and try to see if you react in a good or bad way? i’ve been having bad intrusive thoughts but i sometimes have this feeling inside that i like it? and i feel it’s right and i agree inside but my other thoughts are saying no i hate it ?!
Everyday i have unwanted thoughts and images in my head of me harming my loved ones in horrible ways, also urges too. i’m not like that at all, i don’t want to be like that at all and i also have an extreme fear of becoming a bad person and harming the people i love, or snapping out of anger and harming people. These thoughts scare me a lot and im really sad that i have these thoughts at all and its taking a toll on my mental health. whenever i see something like a gun or a knife or something like that i get anxious and scared at the thought that i could hurt someone with those things and i get thought about me in a position where i hurt someone. the last thing i want is to hurt anyone. i just wanna make people happy and i wanna treat others with kindness. i don’t want to do any of that i don’t wanna be a bad person. i hate these thoughts in my head and im so anxious at the thought that im gonna commit them. can someone help me and give me some advice on what to do?
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