How to accept uncertainty

Hey! I read that in order to better manage my OCD and be less worried all the time, I have to be okay with uncertainty. For me, it's coming to term with the fact that I might be attracted to a man someday (I'm a lesbian) even though the thought feels terrifying. I don't have anything against men or against bisexual people obviously it's just not who I am and I'm so so afraid of losing my identity. Anyone got tips on how to be okay with accepting that you can't be 100% sure your worst fear won't turn out to be true?

Username: ocdsuckslolzocdsuckslolz

Date posted: 17w ago

Im also going through the same thing except I kinda know myself as bi but basically a lesbian. I've always said that I'm probably a lesbian with comphet and don't have any emotional attraction to men. However I'm scared of the idea of falling for a man because, although I don't want to be with a man, you sometimes can't help who you fall for. It's a complicated situation as I also feel like I'm losing my queer identity if life ever decides to make me fall for a man. I don't really have a solution because it really sucks to be so confused but I'd say just don't focus so muck on "what if" you fall for a man. It hasn't happened and it doesn't take your queerness away

Username: LV4523LV4523

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 17w ago

Practice and consistency! I definitely have my moments, but they are veryyyy gradually (I’ve been in therapy since February) becoming less consistent, less often, and less distressing. I have practiced this over and over and over and it is just now starting to become more manageable after many months. Knowing that you will have relapses and that you will still have moments where the thoughts feel extremely real is also essential. Today I actually had about 30-45 minutes where I needed to be 100% confident that I am straight and that I do love my boyfriend after a few thoughts. But I can’t have that, and it took probably 8-10 times of saying “maybe maybe not” and creating evidence lists for my brain to get the hint that I can live in the uncertainty and don’t need to ruminate on my sexuality. You will get through this!! Believe in yourself!

Username: Alice1837Alice1837

Date posted: 17w ago

Thank you I'll try 😊

Username: lizaaalizaaa

Date posted: 17w ago

If someone knows I wanna know too

Username: paufli

Date posted: 4y ago

I find it really hard to accept the uncertainty of the thoughts. I mean i used to have HOCD and accepting the possiblility that i might be gay was really stressing, but i manage to control it and now i don't have uncertainty with that. I have a boyfriend now but i think i would be with a girl too. The problem is with this other obsesion, fear about being Trans, TOCD? I find it a lot more difficult to accept the uncertainty. Cause it's like okay it's not my sexuality, it's my identity, i have to change who i am, my gender? And not being certain about that scares me a lot. Im really tired of asking myself so do you identify as a man or a woman? It's hard to stop rumiaiting cause it's all in my head. My question is how do you accept the uncertainty of not knowing and being okay with it? Do you have any tips?

Username: Sum1ne

Date posted: 2y ago

Accepting Uncertainty About Important Things

Why does it feel like we have to accept more uncertainty than most? I know I may be wrong, but I cant help but feel that it is so wrong to not worry about potential issues, if I’m making the wrong choice about my relationship especially if there were and can be real problems involved, if I’ve harmed, if I’ve been harmed, if this is not even OCD. It feels like Im being kept in the dark and it feels so unfair. Is there really no way other than to accept uncertainty? These are such important things (to me at least) and I’m supposed to not be sure about them? How is ERP going to help with OCD mixed with « real » problems? Ive been feeling so sad and frustrated about this lately, especially with « is it even OCD or am I supposed to be doing something else? Can someone please let me know how they overcome this?

Username: ocdgirl123

Date posted: 2y ago

accepting uncertainty

how do you guys really get yourself to accept uncertainty? when i watch ocd videos and read articles, i think i’m understanding what they’re trying to say. after all, i’m okay with not knowing if i’m gonna get covid even though that’s much more likely than, say, running someone over with my car, but the idea of never *truly* knowing the answer to one of my themes is what trips me up when the panic is horrendous. and when the panic is that high anyway, the theme feels real enough as it is. so what can i do? what were some strategies you guys did to better accept it?

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