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- 5y ago
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I was married 39 years and I hit my wife and she just divorced me and moved away. I am crushed I cry all day like a tired baby relationships are precious and marriage is forever. I looked at girls like all men do my wife helped me! We were a beautiful pair and I ruined it. I say that because I value relationships and forgiveness. life will be even tougher, these little issues help us build our defenses for the big problems . Thank you for hearing me out and good luck.
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Thank you for being honest
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- 5y ago
Decide if you can trust him in the future after this - if this is going to make you feel like you can’t trust him, the relationship will suffer and won’t be worth the pain. Trust is the most important element to a relationship and he has betrayed yours to an extent. No one can tell you what to do, but he did was hurtful and not acceptable within the bounds of a relationship, whether you guys are young and inexperienced or not. Ask him what his intentions were by doing that and if he wants to be in a committed relationship, but ultimately it’s about if you’ll feel secure in the relationship or not. I think this is a justified reason to worry, it’s probably not your ocd.
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What's up?
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@nocturnalgyal my boyfriend and i got in a fight we were on good terms, we both messed up i guess. while such happened he went back and texted a girl “ i wish u were single” i talked it out i got mad he apologized it semeee genuine and i took it i’m anxious it isn’t right what i decided should i forgive him? it’s so weird i’m so scared i don’t wanna feel like breaking up but i kinda do. ): should i just let it go i don’t know i feel gross
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Sorry, it's hard to follow. So you guys got into a fight and he ended up texting some random girl "I wish you were single"? And he aoolized and now you're conflicted with ending the relationship right?
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@NocturnalGyal Yes ): i don’t wanna end up but everyone’s telling me too and i feel like i havw too i wanna forgive him but it’s impossible to wrap my mind around that right now i’m so overwhelmed ): idk what i need to do
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wow Thank u so much for ur honesty really helped me look at the bigger picture .. do you personally feel like rhis is just a small issue that can be let go or would that be dumb of me ):
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I’m somewhat young i’m still in highschool i guess i’m immature and i need mature advice on if this is worth ending it or what ):
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it’s slowly turning into an obsessive thought i have rocd so it would make sense but my heads telling me i just say that because i don’t wanna break up and want reassurance on what to do hm..
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Honestly, what you need to do is have a serious convo with him. And tell him how that text message made you feel. And just ask him what he was thinking when he texted that. Communication can go a loooooong way, even if it's hard. So before making any impulsive decisions, just have a talk with him about it. How long have you guys been together?
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I've had a very similar experience. To be honest it depends how you feel about your relationship. I was completely destroyed at first because like you, I did not want to end things but felt like I had to. We ended up just taking space for a few days then meeting back up to talk it out. We are still together. In the end, I found out that my boyfriend was struggling severely with mental health issues that I had no idea about. I'd say you have to talk to him and tell him to be honest with why he did it and you need to evaluate if you both want the same thing for your relationship. You need to see if he really regrets his mistake or if there is something else going on. Take some space to breath before making any decisions okay? Don't decide what you should or shouldn't do based on what you think others will think of you.
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thank you so much @mochi i think i am going to talk to him about it in person ): and forgive him because he did it out of anger and impulsiveness and he seems really genuine ,, hm
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you’re right @fifi95 thank you so much ?❤️
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