lituuuu
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- 5y
liveedgesliveedges
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- 5y
I was married 39 years and I hit my wife and she just divorced me and moved away. I am crushed I cry all day like a tired baby relationships are precious and marriage is forever. I looked at girls like all men do my wife helped me! We were a beautiful pair and I ruined it. I say that because I value relationships and forgiveness. life will be even tougher, these little issues help us build our defenses for the big problems . Thank you for hearing me out and good luck.
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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- 5y
Thank you for being honest
Fifi96Fifi96
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- 5y
Decide if you can trust him in the future after this - if this is going to make you feel like you can’t trust him, the relationship will suffer and won’t be worth the pain. Trust is the most important element to a relationship and he has betrayed yours to an extent. No one can tell you what to do, but he did was hurtful and not acceptable within the bounds of a relationship, whether you guys are young and inexperienced or not. Ask him what his intentions were by doing that and if he wants to be in a committed relationship, but ultimately it’s about if you’ll feel secure in the relationship or not. I think this is a justified reason to worry, it’s probably not your ocd.
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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- 5y
What's up?
lituuuulituuuu
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- 5y
@nocturnalgyal my boyfriend and i got in a fight we were on good terms, we both messed up i guess. while such happened he went back and texted a girl “ i wish u were single” i talked it out i got mad he apologized it semeee genuine and i took it i’m anxious it isn’t right what i decided should i forgive him? it’s so weird i’m so scared i don’t wanna feel like breaking up but i kinda do. ): should i just let it go i don’t know i feel gross
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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- 5y
Sorry, it's hard to follow. So you guys got into a fight and he ended up texting some random girl "I wish you were single"? And he aoolized and now you're conflicted with ending the relationship right?
lituuuulituuuu
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- 5y
@NocturnalGyal Yes ): i don’t wanna end up but everyone’s telling me too and i feel like i havw too i wanna forgive him but it’s impossible to wrap my mind around that right now i’m so overwhelmed ): idk what i need to do
lituuuulituuuu
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- 5y
wow Thank u so much for ur honesty really helped me look at the bigger picture .. do you personally feel like rhis is just a small issue that can be let go or would that be dumb of me ):
lituuuulituuuu
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- 5y
I’m somewhat young i’m still in highschool i guess i’m immature and i need mature advice on if this is worth ending it or what ):
lituuuulituuuu
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- 5y
it’s slowly turning into an obsessive thought i have rocd so it would make sense but my heads telling me i just say that because i don’t wanna break up and want reassurance on what to do hm..
Ridethewave Ridethewave
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- 5y
Honestly, what you need to do is have a serious convo with him. And tell him how that text message made you feel. And just ask him what he was thinking when he texted that. Communication can go a loooooong way, even if it's hard. So before making any impulsive decisions, just have a talk with him about it. How long have you guys been together?
mochimochi
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- 5y
I've had a very similar experience. To be honest it depends how you feel about your relationship. I was completely destroyed at first because like you, I did not want to end things but felt like I had to. We ended up just taking space for a few days then meeting back up to talk it out. We are still together. In the end, I found out that my boyfriend was struggling severely with mental health issues that I had no idea about. I'd say you have to talk to him and tell him to be honest with why he did it and you need to evaluate if you both want the same thing for your relationship. You need to see if he really regrets his mistake or if there is something else going on. Take some space to breath before making any decisions okay? Don't decide what you should or shouldn't do based on what you think others will think of you.
lituuuulituuuu
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- 5y
thank you so much @mochi i think i am going to talk to him about it in person ): and forgive him because he did it out of anger and impulsiveness and he seems really genuine ,, hm
lituuuulituuuu
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- 5y
you’re right @fifi95 thank you so much ?❤️
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- 18w
ugh help.
my ocd and anxiety has been so bad a couple of days… so i started liking this guy that i am friends with and we also went to prom together… after prom, i caught feelings for him even more because he’s so respectful and nice… but he is also a boy that acts like one… but overall he’s rlly sweet.. the other day though since we go to the same school we were in the parking lot after school with our friends just talking and socializing… but once he was leaving i went to go give him a hug and hugged me… my other guy friend was with us who’s also friends with him and hugged him too and whispered in his ear and said “yo u and sav would be a good couple” and he nodded saying “yes” (my guy friend told me that) so eventually i told him saying “yeah i like him” blah blah but there is a problem that bothers me so badly… my friend likes him… i didn’t tell her for a while until i think my OCD was just bothering me sm if i didn’t tell her so i told her how i felt and i was just saying like “i don’t want this to ruin our friendship or anything but i have feelings for him…” yada yada… she was like “i understand but if i’m honest with u if u ask him out i will be upset” i’m just like i wasn’t planning to rlly i can’t tell if he rlly likes me anyways but i didn’t say that… i said “i’m just telling u how i feel” and she goes “i mean i would see u guys anyways because u guys are closer” then she says “can i ask u something and a non rude way” and i was like sure…. she goes “since i’m the first person that liked him can i give it a try if it doesn’t work that’s that” and i was like girl idk it’s Gods plan if it doesn’t work it doesn’t if it does it does” and i’m saying that in the most mature and respectful way yk? because i am christian i’ve been praying about it also. so we were good after that but my anxiety and OCD has been so horrible… i’m uncomfortable around them because she flirts with him but i don’t and she did it on ft when i fell asleep on ft and my best friend was on there and had to hear it….she told me that he does it back she just can’t tell if he’s joking or not… but i’m so overwhelmed about it i’m having thoughts like “what if u and him stop being friends” … “what if something bad happens” …. “what if ur not confident in yourself enough where he won’t like you” …. “what if this is a love triangle” i’m just so sick of this and i don’t wanna be so distraught over a stupid boy because i’ve been through sm with my past talking stage thinking it will work but now im like rlly cauious over being in a relationship now…
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Doopydoowa
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Please help-relationship advice
Hey everyone. I hope you all are doing okay. I’m currently struggling in the worse way I have through the course of my relationship. We are doing long distance right now, and I am unfortunately in the worse place I have been in. The uncertainty is absolutely unbearable. He is doing a cool new, consuming job 7 hours a way. He loves it, but I fear him loving the job so much that he stops caring about me. I have definitely noticed a shift in the amount of time he texts me and the energy he can give to the relationship. The job actually started off with 2 weeks of no phone. He has it again now though. We saw each other a couple of days ago in person for the last time we would in about two months. I was okayish when we were in person though I knew I would spiral later. And spiral I did. He left and I broke down. I am worried I will lose him. I start a really intensive EMT program in a week. It will be all-consuming for me. I can’t sleep very much and I don’t feel like eating. I know it’s pathetic. I am constantly consumed by these fears. I think I know what I need to do to combat them. Accept uncertainty but it feels like the possibly of it ending feels more real than ever. And I literally can NOT stop thinking about it. My brain feels in danger!!! I just worry that bad stuff is actually happening. I think we are going through a rough patch, but I also just feel more alone than ever. Drowning in my mind. What do I believe? I have a past of ocd, so it wouldn’t be surprised if it’s getting intertwined. Most people would say: it’s okay to ask him for reassurance about the relationship!!! But I feel like that’s the trap for me. I don’t know how to move forward. I know things are tough for us right now. But I’ve been floating back and forth on a spectrum of well maybe I just have trust to maybe this literally won’t work out!!! Texting and communicating over text is really hard for me. I am constantly analyzing it: how much energy is he giving? How much energy am I giving? Well I don’t want to do all the emotional labor, and be the main texter. But I also don’t care about texting that much and get exhausted with this back and forth.
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