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- 24w ago
Is this rocd?
One minute I’m like omg I like him so much I care so much about him this has to work out and the next minute I feel so detached and numb and I’m like do I even really want him
One minute I’m like omg I like him so much I care so much about him this has to work out and the next minute I feel so detached and numb and I’m like do I even really want him
It's partly OCD. Its definitely OCD that is causing you to have these random thoughts where you question your relationship. But I say it's only partly OCD, because its normal that every relationship has its ups and downs. There will be some days where you dont feel madly in love with your partner. Sometimes for no reason at all, just a bad day. It's perfectly natural. But unfortunately, the OCD gives these bad days way too much importance and meaning. I don't know you at all, but I can tell you just from this short post that you really do like him a lot. Because people who don't like their partner, never really go through stages where they think "I like him so much". So try think about it like that. Hope that makes sense
I’m going through the same thing rn. It’s weird cause there’s this one guy in my life and I think “omg he’s beautiful” like inside and out and I feel like I can fall in love with him. To the point I start happy crying over the thought of he and I being together and becoming extremely anxious of losing him. And then other days I don’t feel anything for him and I forget he exists. It’s confusing. I’ve never heard of ROCD, but I understand you.
I have ROCD and I’ve gone through the exact same thing. Even within one day I go from being so totally in love with my boyfriend to questioning if I actually do love him and if we should be together or not. Sometimes I feel like the times where I’m so in love with him is just me trying to convince myself that I am. But I have to take a step back and remember that if I’m ruminating on these fears and becoming so distressed by them then it is my OCD and not my true feelings.
How old are you?
I’ve been struggling with relationship OCD and differentiating between what is an intrusive thought and what is a real doubt. I was really happy with my partner then I got one aggressive thought that I didn’t love him and this spiralled into noticing all his flaws. I struggle being around him because I feel a huge sense of guilt that these thoughts even come into my head and I cannot figure out if this is my brain lying to me or this is how I feel. It’s really impacting a relationship that is so important to me.
I’ve just recently found out that Relationship OCD is a thing. I feel like I relate but it also feels like relationship trauma. I’m in a fairly new relationship and I keep telling myself that things are going great, we are good, he cares for me, but does he? There’s this unbelievable amount of self doubt that sits in me because of what my ex did to me many months ago. I kept getting told that I do too much, i smother, need constant reassurance, then got told that I don’t care enough, the things I do aren’t enough and that I’m not enough. I feel like I am waiting for the day that I get broken up with because of these “problems” just so I can be proven right at the fact that I should be considered unlovable. I go through this every month around my period because I get so emotional and nervous that I stress over the idea that he doesn’t like me. How does someone continue a relationship with Relationship OCD? How do I explain it?
Does Rocd make it nearly impossible to forgive your partner for anything. Whether it is big or small? My situation is so gray area where there’s something my bf did that I feel like I’m not okay with but he did this when we were first dating (not bf and gf yet). I ruminate all day about it bc I don’t want to lose him and see a future with him and I know he loves me so purely. But I also feel like I’m going against my morals here bc I do feel betrayed by what he did. I try to forgive him by diminishing my feelings and telling myself “he never did anything physical with a girl or went out with another girl while we were together” but still feel so hurt that he even messaged another girl while us dating. He’s given me an explanation and has proved how much I can trust him so I’m just completely stuck on whether I should forgive something I know I would’ve never done to him or leave him even though the only thing he’s done wrong was before us becoming official. I’ve broken up with him countless times over this situation bc I feel like I “can’t live with it” but then immediately when we break up I want him back and I kind of understand his explanation and reasoning. I don’t know what is ocd and what is my real intuition anymore. I genuinely think it’s both. Are any of you guys in the same boat?
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