Has anyone gotten over hocd?

starboiklem

Date posted: 5y

Im not sure if that's getting over it but i had hocd for 5 years it started when i was 15 and i couldn't even imagine life without it after some point.4 months ago i triggered a much more severe symptom (for me) and now hocd is gone completely and i can't ever see it coming back but it was more like replaced than gone on its own. Idk if it's temporary but after my new theme hocd feels like a joke,id pay to go back to that

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

What's your theme now?

starboiklem

Date posted: 5y

Solipsism/existamental, basically i went from questioning my sexuality to questioning the existence of other minds,for me this one is much more serious because for me thinking im alone in the universe is worse than thinking i may be gay

butwhatif

Date posted: 5y

I have gotten over it for periods lasting up to years. I saw my first therapist for it when I was 15, and I'm now 27. When it affects me, it can last for 6 months to a year or two, but because I have been dealing with it for so long, I also am (relatively) skilled at tolerating it once I realize that it's OCD. I'd say I started up again around 6 months ago and I'm guessing it's because I re-entered a previous committed relationship, which has always been my main trigger. I had nuances of OCD and black/white thinking even as a child, and it feels like so much of my personality at times that I don't predict it will never come back, but the symptoms have gone away so fully at times and for so long that I am completely unbothered by the thoughts that would bother me during an episode. I also have to be careful of theme shifts during these times, because although I'm not worried about my sexuality, I have become very depressed before thinking I was a narcissist, and I am also prone to existential thoughts. I hope this is helpful/informative.

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

Yes it is. Thank you so much. The first time I dealt with hocd I was 11 and 12 it went a way for nearly a decade with some intrusive thoughts here and there. I don't remember how I got over it honestly.

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

I know I had other themes, but I can't remember what came directly after that. Maybe I just shifted themes and that's how I got over it. I'm not sure.

butwhatif

Date posted: 5y

@hateocd123 Yeah, for me, I got over it with ERP therapy, and I would try to utilize those skills outside of therapy. My therapist seemed to like hour-long exposures, so for HOCD she had me watch lesbian porn for an hour and for thoughts about personality disorders, she just had me do hour-long mindfulness exercises. I'm mostly trying to avoid porn atm because it becomes a compulsion for me, but I have gotten back into mindfulness/meditation, which I've found helpful in the past. It's strange because when I was single in the past, I didn't have many concerns about my sexuality. I just thought, "yeah maybe I'm bi," but didn't have any interest in pursuing anyone and didn't put much stock in fantasies, or concern myself with finding a partner that was a 'true' representative of my tastes and desires. I'm trying to get some of that spontaneity back, and I think mindfulness helps with that. So even though it's a small step, right now I'm doing a 10 minute mindfulness meditation both in the morning and at night.

butwhatif

Date posted: 5y

@butwhatif Well, I don't know if I "got over it" either, per se, but it was manageable and not much of a thought in my mind. For some reason, this one is particularly bothersome to me because of the element of guilt.

confused

Date posted: 5y

Yes I have had a couple small bouts with it even though my main fears are harm ocd so that one dominates usually. But even with both of those I have gotten past it and had like 10 years of freedom from it each time in between. During those times I actually laugh at how silly it is I ever got worries about it. Its so strange how that works..

Elpresador

Date posted: 5y

No I’ve never been able to

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

And I know EXACTLY where you're coming from because I think about dying every single day. I can't do it. I have to stick it out because I know there's a light at the end of the tunnel even though I've been flailing around in the dark for months. Are you religious?

Animallover065

Date posted: 10w

How do I get past this last bump with my OCD?

I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?

RW95

Date posted: 7w

Has anyone gone through this, or currently going through it, need to know that I am not alone in this (18+)

I can't look at 18+ videos, comics, etc. I am straight, but SO-OCD tries to make me think I am not And the thoughts turns to feelings, and makes me scared, uncomfortable, sad, because I know this is not me. And when I try to imagine myself being with the woman on adult videos, and comics, my OCD gives gronal response not at the girl, and it fills me with fear, and anxiety, I always loved, and was attracted to women but I can't and it caused me to be depressed, and I keep ruminating I keep trying to focus on her, but it's so bad that I avoid those all the time now. I am wondering has anyone gone through something like this, or currently is, and wondering how you have done to combat this!

ocdsurviver

Date posted: 6w

How do y’all deal with this?

I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.

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