- Date posted
- 33w
Did i cheat? Should I confess?
To keep a long story short here are the reasons I feel like I cheated: - I’ve fantasized and daydreamed about this person. - I’ve looked up their social media and scrolled through it (secretly) in an attempt to learn more about them because of my crush on them. I NEVER interacted with their social media in ANY way shape or form (liking/commenting/following/etc). - i’ve spoken with them in a group server (that my partner is also a part of) but i’ve always put a big emphasis on the fact that I am in a relationship with my partner and I talk about him often. The only interaction where I worry I crossed a line was when I mentioned that my ex had a certain trait. Then the person commented on that and said he was surprised I was willing to date people with that trait (he has the trait as well and kept asserting that nobody would date someone with that trait so he was surprised I would). I worry that I said it with the intention to elicit a reaction from him. Would this make it cheating? I definitely found it funny and I told my partner right away about the interaction. I should clarify that I have NEVER interacted with this person on a one-on-one basis, nor have I ever messaged them privately or secretly. Our ONLY interaction has been in a big group server that my partner is also a part of. I have also made a serious effort to stop responding to their messages if we are having a group conversation and only reply to other people and just ignore them. I worry because i know there have been times where i’ve replied to their messages kind of excitedly because i had a crush on them. But these were completely appropriate messages like he was talking about eating lunch (in the group server). I have told my partner about being attracted to them and having fantasized about them. My partner has also admitted to having a crush on a coworker and he said “fantasizing is nice as long as it stays a fantasy.” I completely agree with this but for some reason I really feel like I have crossed a line. I feel like a horrible cheater. I feel so guilty. I don’t know what to do.