Valentine’s Day ROCD :(

I'm so sorry you are struggling today, I know the feeling of the all-consuming thoughts about a relationship. Actually, one of our NOCD therapists wrote about ROCD specifically today, maybe something she has shared will resonate? She's also answering questions in the comments related to ROCD if you wanted to get additional perspective there. Sending you a big virtual hug! https://app.treatmyocd.com/community/posts/2141240

I work on the intake team here at NOCD and I had a few calls with people today who have also found V day triggering for their r-OCD for a variety of different reasons. I'm sorry that today has been harder for you. Please know that just like any other day, ROCD is a liar! Thinking of you and sending strength.

Hi Claire12, I can imagine how tough it must be to deal with ROCD, especially today. I’ve been through something similar, my OCD fixated on my husband, making me feel really distant from him. It’s frustrating how OCD latches onto the things and people we care about most. One thing that’s helped me is using no-engagement responses, a skill I learned from my NOCD therapist. When OCD throws thoughts at me like, "Your husband doesn’t love you," I respond with something like, "Maybe," or just "Okay." You can do it in your head or out loud; saying it out loud helped me externalize my OCD. It’s not about debating the thought, just letting it be there without feeding into it. It’s not about doing it perfectly, it’s about practicing and showing up for yourself. You can do it! <3