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Emma00

Date posted: 43w

I haven’t thought of it this way before I’ve always thought of giving that reason as a way of letting the person down easier so they understand it wasn’t them and that there was another reason so they aren’t so upset at being shot down. I understand your perspective tho

Mimi <3

Date posted: 43w

My bf is a very kind and loving person so I cannot imagine him ever saying anything BUT “sorry” before following up with his rejection. Saying sorry doesn’t always mean you are regretting the opportunity to be that person, rather it’s you apologizing for subsequently having to hurt their feelings by saying no. If that makes sense? Whenever I’m in a similar situation, I ALWAYS find myself reaching for the apologies….Not because I wish I could accept their feelings, but because I’m widely uncomfortable with the situation and want to prevent it from escalating by being rude. Saying sorry is just a customary kindness but it doesn’t have to have any meaning beyond that.

Mimi <3

Date posted: 43w

@Chibee also love the image choice lol i’d regret not saying anything about it

Sitwithit

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 43w

Ocd loves to control. I let my partner say whatever they want to.

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 43w

@Anonymous This is definitely something I’ve been learning lately!!! A lot of my behavior at the start of my relationship points SO clearly towards OCD. I can’t even begin to describe how I was like. Honestly, I’ve been giving my bf “more freedom” and I thought it was out of all the guilt my OCD caused with other themes, but I think I’m realizing that I’m just relinquishing my OCD’s control on my relationship and my boyfriend. More grey than black and white for sure!

Sitwithit

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 43w

@issphra 🫶🏻 It's hard. And sometimes I don't notice the control. I've noticed if I say certain words I'm like oh, fuck..that's Agatha (my ocds name) and I'm like do whatever. Words like should,check, be sure, what if, or if I have this feeling of doom..all Agatha (ocd). For me Agatha I believe is the scared 7yold child. When I feel myself going down OCD lane I talk to her and I'm like oh Agatha what's wrong? We're safe right now. Your feelings are valid AND we're OK. Let's put it to the side and worry about that later. Your brave and strong. We're safe now. I find saying it aloud helps more than saying it in my head. Might seem odd or weird idc cause it works for me.

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