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- Date posted
- 21w
Tanza_night67Tanza_night67
- Date posted
- 21w
Have a discussion with him about how you feel, if he reacts in a negative way and doesn’t take the time to listen, starts being defensive like he shouldn’t have to change; or makes excuses as to why he can’t or won’t change. Then you may need to have a “come to Jesus meeting” with him or yourself about if that’s truely the type of person you want to be with or surround yourself with for the rest of your life. Theres plenty of people who can give you the good things you have with him. But it’s up to you to chose the only one who embarrasses you and confuses their loyalties and respect towards you and your relationship. Coming from experience I’ll also throw in, make sure to keep an eye out for Guilt tripping, gaslighting, self pitty, and self sabotage. I had an ex just like this and they would constantly promise change while doing all the necessary things I required in the loving part of the relationship, but never followed through with the rest of the issues I brought to their attention. Don’t fall for a trap if they set up one. It will save you time and options.
Brave through Brave through
- Date posted
- 21w
@Tanza_night67 Hello pls help me you seem to have good advice…I cant stop crying pls help me pls …so my bf and i have been dealing with a lot of issues lately we broke up for a few days and then he said he doesnt like my repetitive questions and branching out of topics and stretching conversations so much but i need reassurance and if he cant give me that much also is he just not right for me? I am always scared what might put him off and he will leave me he said i need you to understand me as well and then only come back in a relationship so i said okay and now we are trying and today i couldnt help but ask him if he is in love with me cause when we broke up he was not sure anymore if he was and today he said yes ig? What does ig mean you either are or are not and he said he doesnt wanna have this conversation cause its a heavy one and he wants to sleep cause we have an exam tom while he knew i was in pain he didnt talk and i cut the call cause i was scared if i pushed him he would leave and i just cant stop crying? I asked him if be wanted to be with me he said yes but then if he is not in love with me what even is this point and this is not even ocd he just isnt and there is no point and i can keep hoping he can again and say yes but one thats not guaranteed and he said ig that already means it is not and he doesnt love so what even is the point of the relationship and also very importantly i am fixing and so scared and like what if he leave me is this even rocd or a toxic relationship i am holding on to cause i am so scared pls pls help me what do i so? He doesnt love me and i should leave right? Is this rocd? I have ocd but is this rocd or just wrong and he is not sure if he is in love with me so i should leave right?
LynnielikesleepLynnielikesleep
- Date posted
- 21w
@Brave through If you have to leave a relationship multiple times he may not be the one for you and if he doesn’t listen that is another supporting factor. It’s hard to move on I get it but maybe you should leave him. If you need anything else reply to this message
LynnielikesleepLynnielikesleep
- Date posted
- 21w
@Tanza_night67 Thank your for putting in your advice and your experience it makes me feel a little bit better knowing someone else has struggled with this type of situation as well. I hope you have a good day
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