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If you check to see if you're in love, you'll be unable to feel love even though it's there. Telling your brain "come on, show me how much I love him" is putting too much pressure on yourself to feel something, so you only feel anxious and definitely not loving. As long as there are no actual relationship issues (because you haven't mentioned any), just do your best to not do any compulsions, let your life go back to normal and I think you'll eventually think "oh hey, I do really like him so much" But then the problem might be that if you start thinking about it, even in a positive way, you might start doubting yourself all over again...
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I very much relate to this
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thank you so much. i really appreciate this.
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@landhouse No problem, I really hope it helps!!
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what if there are past problems in the relationship.. could that drive rocd?
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Yeah I go through this exact thing often and it comes in waves. Sometimes im head over heels in love and then the next moment i get an intrusive thought or my emotions get misbalanced and i question everything about my relationship. I experience rocd often
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okay thank you ?
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SAME I'M GOING THROUGH THIS EXACT PHASE RN BUT I FEEL NUMB IT STRESSES ME OUT
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@alexandra.rocd same
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I am going through this. I recommend a YouTube channel: Awaken into Love. Remember love is a choice. Not a feeling. The feeling is infatuation, and that doesn't last all the time it will happen in spurts. Please show yourself compassion, because this healing process and battle are really tough. I suffer this as well. Know that love is something you must choose daily and even on the days your brain makes you feel nothing, know you are strong and you've got this.
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It sounds like what I'm going through. I have rocd right now too, and it sounds like what you're experiencing is rocd
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thank you ?
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IM GOING THROUGH THIS RIGHT NOW
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THIS EXACT THING
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i hope it gets better for you i’m sorry i know how hard and frustrating and sad it can be
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Im going through this now,unfortunatly we will always have this nothing is perfect so what ive done is ive accepted it. And if there Are no Relationship problems then ignore the thoughts. This is very common for alot of ocd people like myself
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I'm going through this now. I know from past experience when you're actively trying to feel a feeling you won't feel it. I try to remind myself of that.
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I’m going thru this right now , can anyone please give me advice
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SO RELATABLE YES
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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These past few days I was fine. Minimal intrusive thoughts ,no anxiety etc(to add I'm on medication so maybe it's starting to work although it barely is 2 weeks) and today I got a sudden wave of anxiety and it started latching on some thoughts like" what if I'm in denial and I wanna break up with my bf? And what if erp doesn't work for me because I actually wanna break up with my bf?" But they didn't really stay long usually those thoughts would make me spiral for days or so, now they lasted for some hours. And now I'm trying to trigger myself into being anxious again because if I don't it means I don't have ocd and if I don't have ocd it means I don't love my bf and if I don't love my bf it means I have to break up. Idk if it makes sense but the lack of anxiety makes me wonder if I actually have ocd or not.
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I struggle with rocd, and a big intrusive thought that I have is that I’m no longer in love with my partner. I am going through a depression right now, and I am struggling to feel any kind of passion towards anything at the moment. I am withdrawing from the people I love because I just feel like I want to be alone. When I’m with people I just feel exhausted by it. I guess my question is, has anyone ever felt like this from depression? Does it take feelings of love and attraction away? I can’t tell if this is my ocd or depression or a combination of both. But it’s starting to impact my relationship which makes me panic because losing it is my worst fear.
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