how long should my obsessive thoughts last about my boyfriend if i have rocd ? usually i have a bad period where i think i have lost feelings for him and then it comes back but i’ve been feeling anxious and having these constant thoughts for days now. i’m trying not to do my compulsions but even when i do i don’t get the feeling of loving him back i just don’t get the constant thoughts and anxiety. is this rocd or do i actually just not like my boyfriend ? i’m not formally diagnosed with rocd but i have done so much research and my habits and thoughts sound exactly like examples of those suffering from rocd. i thought that i had it and now i’m scared i don’t and i just don’t love him. but then i also know that that’s another symptom of rocd that the ocd convinces you that you don’t actually have rocd and you just don’t have feelings for them so now i’m scared and confused. can anyone tell me if they think that i have rocd please

If you check to see if you're in love, you'll be unable to feel love even though it's there. Telling your brain "come on, show me how much I love him" is putting too much pressure on yourself to feel something, so you only feel anxious and definitely not loving. As long as there are no actual relationship issues (because you haven't mentioned any), just do your best to not do any compulsions, let your life go back to normal and I think you'll eventually think "oh hey, I do really like him so much" But then the problem might be that if you start thinking about it, even in a positive way, you might start doubting yourself all over again...

Yeah I go through this exact thing often and it comes in waves. Sometimes im head over heels in love and then the next moment i get an intrusive thought or my emotions get misbalanced and i question everything about my relationship. I experience rocd often

I am going through this. I recommend a YouTube channel: Awaken into Love. Remember love is a choice. Not a feeling. The feeling is infatuation, and that doesn't last all the time it will happen in spurts. Please show yourself compassion, because this healing process and battle are really tough. I suffer this as well. Know that love is something you must choose daily and even on the days your brain makes you feel nothing, know you are strong and you've got this.

It sounds like what I'm going through. I have rocd right now too, and it sounds like what you're experiencing is rocd

IM GOING THROUGH THIS RIGHT NOW

THIS EXACT THING

Im going through this now,unfortunatly we will always have this nothing is perfect so what ive done is ive accepted it. And if there Are no Relationship problems then ignore the thoughts. This is very common for alot of ocd people like myself

I'm going through this now. I know from past experience when you're actively trying to feel a feeling you won't feel it. I try to remind myself of that.

I’m going thru this right now , can anyone please give me advice

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