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- 15w
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
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Ya gotta apply the tools...
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OCD tries to incriminate to the point of overwhelming your and others system. People can reassure once, yet human usually increases the desire and lowers the satisfaction so eventually one comfort is not enough or expected to keep going. That is why it can be upsetting when someone goes even though they may not be equipped to keep helping for a long time, they are human too and when we care we may feel like we adopted the same fears or weight of the fears instead of sharing and halving the burden. That's why usual assurance (ask once) and being a support will be to be managed differently in order to manage OCD. An expert is best to help with this. Sometimes someone that helps facilitate the group support or having multiple individuals can help with these fears as it's a bit shared rather than relying only on one person to be there helps divide the weight of vents. OCD tries to act like if it says the same joke 15 times it'll be as funny as the first time, but with urges. That's why there's a practice with mindset to help get started until that joke, in your case, accusation, will decrease over time rather than get hypervigilance over time. Usually this can be helped by doing ERP. And using the tools provided by NOCD is about consistency so even if you do small things to interrupt the thoughts by not answering "what if they are a minor" or "what if i an attracted to a minor" by facing it like that is the punchline, there is no more to add to the sentence so it's just a very bad joke or accusation. It's about doing it daily as often as you can until you can have a habit and the body syncs with the belief with actual relief no extra noise continue to these bad ads that pop up. It's like exercise, the exercise lasts longer if you do 1 push up and a break and repeat past 10 push-ups than 8 intense push-ups. Over thinking is too intense trying to act like might will give insight. Also some people are not equipped for compassion or reliable opinion so it's easy these days especially online to point fingers to say "just do this" no matter how harmful it is or if it's unintentionally counterproductive. The amount of attitude people gave me to assassinate my character sucks as it made me fears of OCD real but when i finally got real help those hurt less. I was able to give boundaries and handle people as if they were saying I have ugly blue hair when I know I don't have blue hair. It didn't stop all of them right away but it gave me back awareness I'm capable to still continue for myself even if I'm by myself. Those who will be effective to my healing are not those who aren't paying for my therapy or sticking it out through thick and thin. I have to also stick it out for myself too because my own neuroticism was cringe or felt like a crime and I was done feeling that way. I had to owe it to myself to find ways to pay for therapy or pay the price of being stuck in this loop that never seemed to help as it claimed it would help me. Wanting to be attracted to minors isn't a common desire nor what causes people to be attracted to minors. OCD fears are real, yet so it's your character on not fully going through. It's not like you know for sure the other person age, you're just human wanting to be attracted to someone yet your alarms go of instead of a simple checklist that goes "Oh check their age" and stop there without even checking their ID (optional but secure people don't check unless there's evidence and care about trust first). POCD is the hardest to handle since it's not easy to formulate the struggle and receive insight since OCD twists words and stories and dodge facts as if it really believes it's protecting you. The tools have to be a bit more tailored and cut down to smaller goals to practice with ERP to not make OCD play it's gambling addiction with the unknown at the price of your trust. Therapists even have their own specialties in order to find it they are a match and always want the best for their patient so I got referred twice until I found one for both PTSD and OCD which made the exercises so so much more sense and easier. He didn't let me use any excuse or let me tell my story too far (because it triggered Flashbacks) basically and sit with it because I was so scared he'd leave if he didn't know my story or can't help me without knowing any it. Turns out he didn't leave and the story started to fade and these fears no longer my identity. Eventually those who blocked you for whatever reason like you started to remind them if their own ocd or their labrador that passed away as a child, that fades and you'll make better memories with others you resonate better with instead with the new you you are working each day. I hope you get the help because anyone deserves help. If murderers get help, why can't you? There's always someone out there that either accepts, assists, or makes a great cup of tea, just not all in one person. It's a divide and conquer starting with one good kind thought at a time.
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- 15w
@Anonymous Im sorry for continuously bothering you about my struggles... and im sorry about if i annoyed you...
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- 15w
@Givenup Nah I just had to sleep before I saw this post. I'll answer when I can. We're all just trying to human yet keep slipping up on getting stuck in overthinking how to human. We just need to be human, not act human. We flip out because the human handbook is blank and everyone else looks like they are reading their handbook just fine, yet in actually were just trying to figure out if we're missing something looking at it and it turns out these handbook was supposed to be a diary. We also never got a pen with it so takes awhile for people to realize what to do and have moments of tantrums or break downs. Which is also a random generator of how to handle break downs which can be blocking others, over help, over think, tell someone they wrote their diary wrong, or anything goes. Take care of yourself and i hope it gave some solace and perspective
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