allyjaz
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- 5y ago
Ridethewave Ridethewave
- Date posted
- 5y ago
What always settles me down is remembering that feelings will ebb and flow. Our feelings are constantly changing, just like how you'll wake up one day in a good mood, or wake up in just an okay mood. Feelings are unreliable measure for love and therefore becomes irrelevant in a relationship. Love is a choice :) if you and your man vibe and you enjoy his company and want to be with him. Then that is enough. Checking will only cause you more stress
vturner6vturner6
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- 5y ago
I’ve gone through this before, unfortunately it’s an episode and it will pass even though it feels like it won’t. It’s normal for people who don’t have OCD to feel like they don’t like their partner sometimes, but when we have OCD we over analyze it.
NatedogNatedog
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- 5y ago
Yeah literally had the exact same thing it ruined my relationship with my now ex as my ocd and other mental illness took control of me just trust me that if it is anything like I went through you have to find a way to talk about those thoughts and feelings on here or talking to a therapist as talking to him constantly about what you are confused about and not knowing because of the thoughts that are pushed into your head because of ocd will make it worse I found as my head made me need to say it when I shouldn’t as it created a cycle and fed it in a way I guess. But yes to your question ocd can make you constantly worry and second guess how you feel you just have to know that before you had this invasion of thoughts you loved him and he was special to you as otherwise you wouldn’t be with him so just reassure yourself with the fact that you just gotta work through this and then you will slowly get more of your real thoughts about him which are the opposite to what the ocd wants you to think however I know it is hard and I have only recently since being separated has my ocd connected with our relationship cleared slightly so I see some of what I truly feel eventhough my ocd still fights I think it sounds crazy Ik but I think I’m right lol
rlrrlr
- Date posted
- 5y ago
yes i experience this too
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- 16w ago
Not seeking reassurance, just prayers
Lately my OCD has been very horrible, it’s been more convincing than ever to the point where I’m genuinely convinced that I like this stuff, when I get a thought, I’ll hear my intrusive thoughts go “oooh, I like that, I’d do that.” and I just don’t freak out nor feel bad, I just feel like I like it even more, and feel like I would do/act on it and like it, and the feeling is strong and it lingers forever? It genuinely feels like I do, and I’m just lying now, i can’t tell if I make these thoughts worse or anything All I remember mostly just being like confused sometimes when these thoughts happen, but since I’m getting strong emotions that I like it, my brain says that means I did and I’m worried about that being true because I don’t understand nor know It’s like I am resisting to like this stuff now, it’s even tougher now than it was before
Elliesmith
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- 13w ago
Is this a symptom of soocd
I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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Anonymous
- Date posted
- 5w ago
HELP PLS I NEED ADVICE
Ii spoke w my bf this weekend and he mentioned that he has thoughts just like me, but his don't bother him like me. I then felt a lot better and he tried dissecting one of his thoughts like I usually do and realized it felt more real for him after. That made me realize that none of my thoughts were ever true and I blew them up. However, yesterday I had a thought ab “wait wut if you liked that one guy? How dare you bc youre supposed to love your bf and not secretly like someone else” and treated it as I usually did bc I accidentally wanted to see if it was true but didn't rlly but I would check to see if it was there and now that thought feels so so so real now and I feel really bad how do Ik it's not real? I feel so bad and guilty bc lividly this makes 0 sense but it feels so prominent. It felt pretty real when it happened yesterday too. And now I feel awful bc how is it possible after my clarity the other day? Why does it feel so prominent 😞😞😞
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