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- 5y ago
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- 5y ago
What always settles me down is remembering that feelings will ebb and flow. Our feelings are constantly changing, just like how you'll wake up one day in a good mood, or wake up in just an okay mood. Feelings are unreliable measure for love and therefore becomes irrelevant in a relationship. Love is a choice :) if you and your man vibe and you enjoy his company and want to be with him. Then that is enough. Checking will only cause you more stress
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- 5y ago
I’ve gone through this before, unfortunately it’s an episode and it will pass even though it feels like it won’t. It’s normal for people who don’t have OCD to feel like they don’t like their partner sometimes, but when we have OCD we over analyze it.
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- 5y ago
Yeah literally had the exact same thing it ruined my relationship with my now ex as my ocd and other mental illness took control of me just trust me that if it is anything like I went through you have to find a way to talk about those thoughts and feelings on here or talking to a therapist as talking to him constantly about what you are confused about and not knowing because of the thoughts that are pushed into your head because of ocd will make it worse I found as my head made me need to say it when I shouldn’t as it created a cycle and fed it in a way I guess. But yes to your question ocd can make you constantly worry and second guess how you feel you just have to know that before you had this invasion of thoughts you loved him and he was special to you as otherwise you wouldn’t be with him so just reassure yourself with the fact that you just gotta work through this and then you will slowly get more of your real thoughts about him which are the opposite to what the ocd wants you to think however I know it is hard and I have only recently since being separated has my ocd connected with our relationship cleared slightly so I see some of what I truly feel eventhough my ocd still fights I think it sounds crazy Ik but I think I’m right lol
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- 5y ago
yes i experience this too
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- 22w ago
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