ROCD help PLEASE

Ugh...my boyfriend of 2 years just told me that things need to change because neither of us are happy with the way things have been going this is what he said to me "I don’t know just affection I guess. I want to hug and kiss my girlfriend and I want HER to want to hug and kiss me. And yeah sex is awesome. I get it’s not a requirement and it’ll never be for me, I get that’s been a big struggle for you in the past year but like it was a really big part of our relationship starting out and I do feel like it brings us closer personally. But maybe that’s just me. And a compliment or two every now and then would be kinda nice. It’s not that you never do that’s not true at all but I feel like it’s been continually less and less. And I try to at least give you a couple every day. This is by no means a bashing of you Ky I know you’re going through a lot I really do trust me. I’m very proud of the effort you’ve put in. I just want to work on getting back to the point where I get what I give and vice versa that’s all. And remember sometimes you might only be able to give 90 percent and that’s okay, that’s life. There will be times where I can only give 90 too" - I am so scared nobody will ever want me or wanna be in a relationship with me. I am so scared he is breaking up with me

Bella_<3

Date posted: 21w

I feel that. Me and my boyfriend had a talk and he told me what hes hasnt been telling me for a long time now, and it was alot. I was also afraid that he was gonna leave me. But ive just been giving him space for the past couple days (that was his request) and ik that he loves me and has put up with my ocd for the past 10 months, and that he DOES love me. Hes just frustrated with my ocd. I started ERP and its been really hard the past couple days to NOT text or call him, but ive been able to stand strong, but ive felt so depressed and beaten by my ocd. But i want you to know, ur not alone and you CAN DO THIS. i recommend talking to someone about whats been going on (therapy) because they can help (for me its been really good and helpful to navigate my relationship and dealing with OCD) 🫶🏼🫶🏼🙏🏻🙏🏻

faye1010

Date posted: 21w

@Bella_<3 Do you think you guys are breaking up?

Bella_<3

Date posted: 21w

@faye1010 No, i do not think that. You see, in the beginning of our relationship, my OCD was like under control, but then during our second month it got really bad to the point where a lot of things happen and I started to become “ clingy” due to my compulsions, and that was alot to deal with and hes been there by my side even when he felt so tired and couldnt keep up anymore. But he’s told me what he has not been telling me about how he’s been feeling what he’s been thinking because he was afraid of how “i” (my ocd in reality) would react, and it was really overwhelming at the time, but now that I see, it felt really bad because I didn’t know that it was taking this much of a toll on him. But I’ve been giving him space for the past 4 to 5 days and he has texted me saying he really appreciates it and that we will be able to talk soon and I understand that but now I do not think we’re breaking up because we do love each other and he wants to help me and I wanna help him during our toughest times Sorry that was alot of yapping lol just had to explain

faye1010

Date posted: 21w

@Bella_<3 Ugh I hope my bf isn't giving up on me

Bella_<3

Date posted: 21w

@faye1010 I hope not to, idk what ur relationship is like but maybe talking to him about what ur dealing with and ur ocd compulsions? (Just a thought idk🤷🏾‍♀️)

faye1010

Date posted: 21w

@Bella_<3 I tell him literally everything

Bella_<3

Date posted: 21w

@faye1010 Ah i see, me to. But somtimes its good to ask if hes ok to have a big conversation.

faye1010

Date posted: 21w

@Bella_<3 I literally am so sick thinking that me and him are gonna break up, but I feel like something inside of me is telling me that it needs to happen but I don't want to. I hope that's just my OCD speaking.

faye1010

Date posted: 21w

I feel like something inside of me is telling me that nothing is ever gonna change with the way I feel and my OCD is never gonna go away. I hope it's a lie.

Bella_<3

Date posted: 21w

@faye1010 Oh yeah, to me that sounds like the ocd talking. Honestly, once ur able to tell which is which, it’ll be alot easier to gain back ur control from ur ocd

Bella_<3

Date posted: 21w

@faye1010 Me to, it makes me so scared and i cry somtimes because i hate the feeling and thoughts

faye1010

Date posted: 21w

@Bella_<3 Do you think it's my ocd talking

Bella_<3

Date posted: 21w

@faye1010 To me, youve said u DONT wanna break up, and it makes u feel sick and i feel that, and me personally that sounds just like me. When my ocd is telling me that i should leave my bf because im too much or wtv othet stupid excuse it is. So me personally i do think its ur ocd, and once ur able to see/ hear the difference itll help u take back control and FEEL more in control

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