Can anyone relate/give advice?

seriously someone pls give me advice 😭 I think last week I posted about how I have a crush on my friend and how my brain was making me question everything (mostly my sexuality). Well now I know he has a crush on me too and I’m already worrying about not liking him anymore, even though I was thinking about him all day before he confessed to me. I went to look at pictures to make sure I still think he’s attractive and I didn’t feel the same. Now I’m worrying about if I’ll no longer feel attracted to him when we hangout in person. Why can’t I at least have a simple crush? Why must I question everything??? WHY CANT MY BRAIN JUST FUNCTION NORMALLY THIS IS DRIVING ME INSANE!!?? If you have any tips on how to deal with this please let me know 😭.

BritDealzzz

Date posted: 18w

This is your brain trying to protect you. I’ve been dealing with the same since I was 15 and I’m 34 now. My best advice is to learn to live with the thoughts. It’s MUCH easier said than done. Focus on the friendship … that is what has kept me married for 9 years now…. My husband is my best friend . Keep your chin up. If you are young… I’m so thankful you are finding NOCD now vs in your 30s or older… I’m proud of you for tackling this NOW

carrotroot12

Date posted: 18w

@BritDealzzz thank you!!

elliss2

Date posted: 18w

My brain is the same, lol. Although I’m not in your exact situation

Ugh.Imo

Date posted: 18w

My Brain likes to detach myself from feelings like that as a way of "preparing myself" from getting hurt. I am in a relationship and i have learnt that my sudden avoidance is a compulsion to satisfy the fear of getting hurt. The best thing i did was communicate to my partner- they understand that when i go quite its an compulsion for i am actually quite comfortable with expressing feeling uncomfortable. Learning how to understand compulsion and genuine is tricky but ever since i realized i am alot better- altnough i am still not perfect! (hope this makes sense lovley and good luck!)

carrotroot12

Date posted: 18w

@Ugh.Imo thank you sm!!

Ugh.Imo

Date posted: 18w

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