Hi, so I’ve recently found out that asking for reassurance isn’t a good way to help OCD (that’s understandable), and I was wondering to what extent is reassurance bad? Eg, reassuring yourself that things will be okay, or that some of the things you obsess over are untrue and aren’t helpful things to think about? I probably sound a little stupid so apologies! I’m just unsure as to what is healthy and what is not! (Sorry if this is confusing, I have just splatted my thoughts down!)

Can someone explain to me why reassurance is bad for OCD?? I often have overwhelming anxiety that my boyfriend is upset with me. So I will sometimes ask him if we’re good. Even though nothing has happened to suggest anything is wrong. He knows I have terrible anxiety so he never makes me feel bad for asking. And as soon as I’ve asked I feel better.

Is it possible to seek reassurance from oneself? Because sometimes I try to combat my obsessive thoughts by telling myself, "this is just my OCD. There's no need to be anxious or upset over this unwanted thought. My OCD is telling me things that aren't true." Or if I have an intrusive thought, I'll tell myself, "this is just an intrusive thought, it doesn't reflect who I am as a person. Just because I'm having an intrusive thought about doing something awful doesn't mean I actually want to do that thing. It's just an intrusive thought, it doesn't say anything about my character or desires." Is it okay to do this, or is this another form of reassurance-seeking? I guess basically my question is, is it okay to comfort oneself and remind oneself of the truth, or is this a form of compulsion in itself? I'm just trying to figure out how to respond to my intrusive thoughts and obsessions in a healthy way.

Hi friends! I feel like I am hitting a wall with my OCD and ERP. I deal with a LOT of mental compulsions. Often when I am doing ERP it can be hard to know if I am giving myself reassurance OR is it a logical thought. For example: I have this fear I will be fired for being late to work which spiral into many deeper fears. One may say well “people are late all the time or it is normal to be late” or “is it realistic to think I would be fired for being late”. How do you guys separate logical thinking and self reassurance? It’s something I really struggle with. I will start to habituate and then I think well was what I did reassurance? Mental compulsions have been so hard to identify. But yeah how do I tell if it is self reassurance or not? Any and all advice would help so much ✨🖤✨