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- 6y ago
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- 6y ago
Thank you. I kind of know resigning and running away is not the answer. It’s just these days my mind is constantly thinking a lot of things that make me feel uncomfortable. I still haven’t figure out whether to resign. Cuz, when I am feeling ok and OCD is not bothering me. I will say even if I resign my job I will be able to find a new one. But now, the anxiety thing is playing the tricks and it keeps telling me that if I resign that means I cannot work. So, kind of in a dilemma. I will calm my mind and figure it out.
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- 6y ago
In my opinion, it seems like resigning would be giving more power to your OCD. But also, maybe there’s a way you can talk to someone at the company and ask for a bit of time off? During this time, you could really sort out a plan/how you will be handling living with OCD and Anxiety. I know there’s a large stigma and most companies don’t seem to place much importance on mental health, but it’s just a suggestion!
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- 6y ago
Does Zoloft help you with your ocd ??? Any real side effects tiredeness? What dosage? Here for you ?
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- 6y ago
I’ve learned from my treatment and experience that medication can help you get by, but does not by any means treat the issue. Therapy, specifically Behavioral Therapy has been a god sent to me and is now what I’m getting my Doctorates in. Only you know what is best for you. For me, the moment I gave in to that need to be home, everything got worse and I couldn’t dig myself out alone. For my future, if I feel like I need to take a break, I plan on having intense treatment set up and ready for me, because the moment I decide it’s okay to lay in bed, I would never get out of it on my own. That is, of course, just MY experience. I think everyone is entitled to a break. Those without mental illnesses need them too. But for those of us with one, my big advice would be to have set plans to get you out of the house at scheduled times. Consider talk therapy for a start. Speaking to someone who understands the brain and human behavior is so refreshing to me. Whether you take a break or not, I definitely recommend giving it a try. Sending lots of positive vibes your way. I’ve been in your shoes and hope you are able to find a solution that works best for you. ?
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- 6y ago
Thank you. I agree resigning is not a good choice right now. I faced similar situation when i was in college but things turned out to be just fine. I guess I need to push myself a bit more. Learn to work with all the thoughts in my head and the pain and anxiety those thoughts caused. I used to do it easily and the anxiety faded away gradually. It seems a bit hard now, but I guess that’s not the excuse for quitting. But, sure. If I feel like I need a break, I will ask for help. Thank you guys.
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- 6y ago
Exactly! Just push yourself more and don’t place so much focus on how you’re feeling all of the time. Do the things you can do to make you happier/feel better and take one day at a time!
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- 23w ago
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- 15w ago
Hello. I am on my first relationship, (and I want it to be my only!) I've been at it for nearly 2 years, and it first starting happening a few months in. When the relationship started, it felt perfect to me. We are both extremely different people, we have different taste, different humor (but we both made each other laugh!) and just a different way of talking about things, (I tend to be more analytical, while she isn't as much). But I considered these differences to be fine, I never felt like it was an issue because our core values are very similar and I consider her a very intelligent girl. We just enjoyed time together, and each other, I thought she was cute as hell, and even if she didn't talk in depth about a lot of stuff, that didn't matter, I enjoyed the quiet times with her just as much as the talkative times. When the OCD kicked in, that's when I started to question everything, I questioned if I even loved her in the first place, if our relationship was just a sham, if I even found her attractive in the first place, her intelligence, her point of view, even dumb petty stuff like "oh she likes THAT movie???". After my first major breakdown, I confessed a lot to her. At this point, I didn't even know what was going on until I started to look into it. And that's where I found ROCD. On one hand, it was satisfying to see something I could point to as "the problem", on the other hand, I think it gave me bad motivation, it reassured me that this was something that I could just try and ignore. After I cooled down from this, I once again had a long period of bliss. I had a good schedule with her. >Go to work >Hang out with her (spend the night at her place sometimes) >go home and hang out with friends I enjoyed my time with her, taking part in her interests, and her taking part in mine. She wasn't always 100% into the things that I was, and that was always a bit disappointing to me, but in the same way you'd be disappointed if your friend didn't like the thing you liked. (now I over analyze these moments and question if I did always care more about this or not) This moment of bliss would end after another huge trigger. A part of the OCD I have yet to mention is my tendency to be worried that "getting along with other people that I find attractive" is the equivalent of either cheating on my partner, or backstabbing them. There was someone at work that I found attractive and I had a moment where it felt like I may have developed a thing for them, I still don't know if it's true because I generally found them to be annoying at times. I made a joke during work, that felt like I was propping myself up to them, I still don't know my motivation behind this joke, because it feels like it could have been something that I would have joked about to anyone, but I'm still not even sure about it. Either way I basically had a panic attack and later confessed to my partner. I don't know if I should have done it, or not, because I'm to this day confused about my emotions during that situation. Regardless. She was hurt, but she forgave me. It felt like I couldn't look her in the eye and feel like a sincere person to her. After this major moment, I felt like I never recovered. I started to avoid talking to this person at work, or really many women at work at all because of the fear that I'd fall for them. When an attractive women shows up I try and end the conversation quickly, this has only created a fear for taking to people, and it's extremely stressful. I got by though. And I would continue to love my partner. Until another major breakdown. This one created a new type of numbness to my partner, that felt completely different, and it's way more convincing. I mentioned in the past that my partner and I are very different, and that we even have different ways of talking about interests. My partner very much enjoys things for what they are, there's not much analysis, and that's fine. Me (and my friends) are very analytical. Last month I was showing her a game I like, and I started to question if she was even tracking what was going on, or even understood it, I was obsessing over the idea that she didn't even care about it (even tho I know she has always taken interest in what I like). This way of thought broke my brain and it made me feel completely incompatible with her. I question my behavior when I was showing her stuff in the past, I remember moments in which I questioned if she was actually paying attention even during moments when the OCD was low. I question if she has the ability to even watch something and understand what's going on. All terrible thoughts, and all thoughts that I never want to have. I'm scared to talk to my friends half the time because the thoughts of them being more "intelligent and analytical" pulsate through my brain. My friends and I are extremely cynical, about things like the film industry and sometimes if I'm going in on something it feels like I'm shitting on her by proxy just because she doesn't care about it as much as I do. I've isolated myself from friends and I think that did worsen my condition, because when it's just only me and my partner hanging out, I feel like it started attacking her more. This is the part where it just doesn't feel like ROCD anymore. I used to not give a single shit about these things, I was able to make blanket statements like "I think TikTok sucks and it's users are annoying" knowing full well my partner uses TikTok every day. There was a separation between me making broad statements and then not necessarily being indictive of my partner SPECIFICALLY. Now it doesn't feel like I have much anxiety anymore, because it just feels like I've accepted that my partner is who she is and I "don't know if I love her" when in the past, I've accepted my partner for who she is, and I loved her anyway. I feel like I'm just not as connected to her as I once was. I used to enjoy everything with her, now my brain overanalyzes everything she does and says. I can't just relax. I feel like I've lost any amount of structure and this turned into a ramble. But I guess that's where I'm at now. I've been attempting getting proper health insurance so I can talk to someone and not break the bank. I think about the times when none of these ridiculous nitpicks didn't matter to me, and I cry about the idea of leaving her. Thank you for reading.
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- 13w ago
These past few days I was fine. Minimal intrusive thoughts ,no anxiety etc(to add I'm on medication so maybe it's starting to work although it barely is 2 weeks) and today I got a sudden wave of anxiety and it started latching on some thoughts like" what if I'm in denial and I wanna break up with my bf? And what if erp doesn't work for me because I actually wanna break up with my bf?" But they didn't really stay long usually those thoughts would make me spiral for days or so, now they lasted for some hours. And now I'm trying to trigger myself into being anxious again because if I don't it means I don't have ocd and if I don't have ocd it means I don't love my bf and if I don't love my bf it means I have to break up. Idk if it makes sense but the lack of anxiety makes me wonder if I actually have ocd or not.
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