False attraction?

Y’all I think I’m dealing with false attraction but idk and I can’t tell. It’s bugging me. It’s one specific (female) friend of mine lately. Idk if it’s cuz she’s a lesbian and it’s playing on my soocd or smthn. I keep having groinal responses around her. I don’t see her like that but I’m worried I either am starting to or already do and am suppressing it but I have had no interest in her in the last 2 years she’s been in our group. This started somewhat recently and every time someone makes a sexual joke or smthn (like flashing or twerking) it causes a groinal response and I just kinda shut down. I don’t feel anything in the crush sense of the word. And it’s bugging me that I’m having these thoughts and I keep having thoughts of my bf and then my friend gets placed into the thought and it just makes me upset. Annoyed. I feel this tightness in my chest and it’s not good. I like seeing this friend but I don’t get excited seeing her. I wonder where she is when she’s gone but I do that with all of my friends, if one doesn’t show to our group dinners I ask. I worry I’m making too much eye contact when we talk. I keep checking if I’m feeling anything anywhere but it’s just a persistent groinal response and I’m worried it’s attraction

vamp_

Date posted: 20d

In my opinion it does sound like false attraction caused by soocd. I know it feels scary but trying to stop the thoughts and groinals won't work. Just try to let the thoughts, feelings be there, let yourself be uncertain about that. I understand it's terrifying i know how it feels like but im sure it'll get better if you'll give less power to ocd :)

LiaExe28

Date posted: 20d

@vamp_ Thanks ;-; it’s been bugging me. It jumps from friend to friend and lately it’s her. I feel weird just being around my female friends in general tbh. Like the urge to kiss them or smthn. I’m in an ROCD gc and mentioned it and idk it just made me anxious cuz the response was “if you don’t feel a crush why do you think you’re attracted? And even if you were you’re not acting on it.” Ik that’s meant to curb the reassurance seeking but I feel crazy lol. I’m worried I’m falling out of love with my bf because of it. I don’t want to lose him. I’ve sobbed my eyes out at the thought of it but my brain keeps telling me “you’re gay youre gay you’re gay. Here’s this image of you and your friend doing smthn intimate like her putting on your makeup and boom a groinal response too cuz you’re attracted to this idea. Now convince me you don’t like her” idk if that’s normal false attraction shit but it makes me crumple internally. I don’t like it. It doesn’t cause intense panic but it makes me wanna leave the room constantly when she’s around. I keep trying to avoid her but then we hang out and it’s “see you like her. Gay” idk. I’m tired

vamp_

Date posted: 20d

@LiaExe28 I think it's a perfect example of soocd, ocd knows what will scare you and exactly what thoughts to give you for you to freak out. I know it's scary, I used to have those feelings randomly like I don't love my boyfriend or im bored of him etc., it was terrifying but i stopped paying attention to it, at least i tried. And it left with time. You can let ghe thoughs come into your head and the groinals, it doesn't define you and you're not doing anything wrong because of it. Also, don't try to force it to go away im sure it will with time but you have to be patient. I hope you'll feel better soon🫂

Anonymous

Date posted: 20d

Yhh I’m experiencing this too

Shaodidi

Date posted: 18w

I’m confused

I keep wondering if I’m attracted to this kid I saw a week ago or not, it keeps happening, I can’t figure it out, what I hope is false attraction is feeling too real, I don’t wan to like the kid, I never wish to like kids, I genuinely feel like I’m just in doubt, I can’t figure it out, it feels weird, I don’t feel any guilt, shame, disgust, or panic, idk why but ik that I’m supposed to feel that, it makes me feel like I’m a real p. I barley get any negative emotion from those thoughts anymore, even when these thoughts started I didn’t feel shame or guilt, but I think I did feel worry and panic, I’m not sure anymore, I don’t remember.

Shaodidi

Date posted: 18w

Doubt

POCD

milly.909

Date posted: 8w

false attraction 🥲

hiya, it's been a while because i was finally getting better.im a straight girl and i've been dealing with so-ocd severely for about a year now. i originally used to obsess over this one girl at my school and it was so bad and literally interfered with everything. after lots and lots of patience and avoiding compulsions i got over that false attraction and i felt myself be okay again. this year i have developed another attachment to someone, and im struggling all over again. also i thought id share that i experience friend crushes which is where you just wanna become closer to someone if that makes sense. anyways originally i was experiencing that and then my ocd keeps telling me what if its more and what if i am gay? i've completely forgot what it felt like but the thing is, it feels so real!!! i feel excited to see her and wanna be around her but everytime i freak out and obsess about the thought i could like her as more then a friend. deep down i know i don't because i don't feel any romantic feelings and i shouldn't feel such negative emotions and anxiety if it wasn't my ocd. i am so sorry for the rant but im back to square one. 😭😭

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