Tips for being in a relationship with SOOCD?

Going through the same things as you but in reverse! I’m a straight dude who’s in a relationship with my gf. Before SOOCD and ROCD I felt so genuinely happy like the feelings were strong for her and I was confident in my identity (plus I was able to make jokes about it with my friends, now I can’t). It was only til last year this appeared and made a mess of everything. Looking back at the experiences I’ve had, it made sense that I have OCD but I just didn’t recognize it cause of the misconceptions surrounding the illness. Anyway, the best advice I could give you is to live your life the way you want to and be present in the relationship. It sucks because it’s hard, our OCD makes us feel things we don’t want like we’re lying or that we’re in denial or various sensations (mine is nausea, throat stuff, groinals) or lack of libido. But that’s what I’ve been doing for almost two years now, continuing the life I want with my gf and eventually marrying each other (we graduated from college and are working towards getting our nursing license). The thing is no matter how much we want to be certain, our OCD won’t be satisfied. Granted we may feel different from the way we want to actually feel but remember none of these things we experience are facts not proof. Just do life and love your boyfriend, that’s what you know. That’s what I’ve been doing with my gf. We stick to what we know, what we love and what we value regardless of what OCD makes us feel. A good quote from an OCD content creator from instagram once said “Fake it til you make it”. Live life on your own terms cause you deserve it. To give you hope, I’ve come to know people who are in our exact situation but still decided to get married and have kids. We can do that to with our partners. Much love to you and know you’re not alone. (I ‘m having a bad flare up too since Sept after months of it being tolerable)