Obsessive abt solving interpersonal issues; ROCD?

I was wondering if this is concerning: whenever either my friends, my partner or I do something that causes even mild annoyance, some displeasure, I try my hardest to figure out what happened. I feel like if I figure it out it'll be a chance to grow and make sure it never happens again. so I read articles, look up shadow work prompts, scour reddit posts, talk about the problem incessantly with my friends, ask for devil's advocate from all sides, try to analyze the chain of events - and when I confront them about it I wanna know all details of what went into thar kind of a reaction. I cannot stop thinking about it at all. I think if I just think right, word it right, they'll understand me, and ill understand them. if I just word the questions right it'll help them realize "ah this is what happened!" I get obsessed with whether I shouldve said something and I shouldve trusted the other person to not have acted in a certain way. I dont know if im doing the right thing by sharing my expectations, hopes and wishes from interaction, from relationships, or just let it play out (feels like a gamble on whether ill like what they do). Is this something that could be OCD? Is it ROCD? and advice is greatly appreciated if u have any😓 I am not diagnosed with OCD, but I highly suspect I have it. I am trying to compile a list of incidents that could point to OCD.

Betterlateth...

Date posted: 22h

Hi there! This is very much OCD behavior. You can get professional help and work on it! Our OCD brains love certainty, black and white, and control. I’ve been doing ERP therapy for a few weeks to retrain my brain so that I don’t suffer like this. It’s not necessarily the context of the thoughts, but how you interact with your thoughts. Someone can help you. It’s hard, but worth it IMO. Wishing you the best of luck.

Suf

Date posted: 17h

thanks a lot for responding, I plan to get help for this. i'm trying to work on it as much as I can in the mean time.

Anonymous

Date posted: 23h

I do this

Seek2Blanc ૮...

Date posted: 23h

Hello, Ive been diagnosed ocd I believe you should definitely mention it to a professional. I do all of what you mentioned, I'm currently also on this app wondering how to work on it and improve my relationship and in general. It's definitely a grey area doing this and should be careful as it can definitely be exhausting for everyone involved. Just trust what you feel and seek out a professional opinion and some help medically/emotionally if so, better safe than sorry. It's not so easy to just say and have stuff done in any matter but it's important to gain some sense of peace. I think you should try to have some talks every so often or once in a while but not make it a hyperfixation, as with ocd and rumination (etc.) it's very hard to ever have enough reassurance. Stay strong!

Suf

Date posted: 23h

thank you! I realized its exhausting not just for me but for everyone involved. I thought I could make it less exhausting by asking pointed questions but its just exhausting nonetheless. I am planning to get help asap. thank you for sharing your insight!

Seek2Blanc ૮...

Date posted: 22h

@Suf I only say it cause that's how I've been responded to, and I can understand that perspective. Sometimes asking questions doesn't improve anything or can actually make things worse, because sometimes the problem is avoidable or due to overthinking especially if others don't see it as a huge or big conflict... When thoughts become overwhelming it's better to redirect and give yourself a voice of reason. Hope that makes sense, good luck♥

Suf

Date posted: 22h

@Seek2Blanc ૮ ྀིᴗ͈ . ᴗ͈ ྀིა yes that makes sense, I understand what you mean :)

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