Does anyone obsess besides if they don’t love their partner, other than that, that their partner is being unfaithful? And get anxiety and ruminate because of that even though they haven’t given actual reason too? Please, I’d love someone else’s insight.

Not the unfaithful part, but the worrying about the not loving my husband, and the only reason why is because I would have intense dreams about one of my long-time crushes from childhood being interested in me and even though I knew I was with my husband, I wanted my crush so badly I didn’t care. And I got similar dreams like this quite often and it REALLY upset me because I was worried that my subconscious was trying to tell me something, like my husband wasn’t my top pick, which is so not true. In reality, I’m really not interested in anyone else, including my old crush. Well, the more I had this dream (not every night but too often for my comfort) the more distressed I got and I talked to my husband about it, and explained how much it was bothering and upsetting me, and he wasn’t worried about it, and told me that I shouldn’t let it get to me since it’s just a Dream and not reality, so since it he wasn’t bothered by it AT ALL, I stopped worrying about it, because since he clearly didn’t have any concerns or doubts about whether I loved him or wanted to be with him, then I obviously didn’t have anything to worry about. ??‍♀️ It’s crazy how we often can’t trust our minds (with OCD) to know how we truly feel about something because then OCD tells us otherwise and then it’s sometimes hard to know which one is right. ??‍♀️

I obsess about it, always checking and my inner voice like "see you like them" or " you felt this way last time, but you don't this time so you must not love them" over and over. I keep working on just acknowledging that this is the OCD voice and I'm just like "oh hi can you go away please" and try to ignore it. Sometimes I can and sometimes I can't. I also get the anxiety about them being unfaithful, but it seems to be part of the OCD like looking for reasons for them to screw up. For me I think it's a protection thing where I'm afraid of them bailing on me so I am trying to convince myself I don't want them anyway. For you it may be different, but it helps to try to identify why it's coming up (which is not easy!). Hang in there and try to remind yourself of the things you love about them and notice the stuff you do subconsciously that proves you love them and you it to argue away the bad thoughts.

Yes! All I could think about was how my boyfriend was going to leave me or was interested in someone else/ sleeping with someone else. It got to the point that I couldn’t leave the house with him without constantly looking to see if he was checking someone out or talking to the opposite sex in a flirtatious way. I would compare myself to every girl i saw and assumed that he would rather be with him. The bulk of our time spent together was me asking for reassurance/ accusing him/ and avoiding him and isolated myself from all my female friends. He was loyal, patient and kind and never had any intent to do those things and never gave me any reason to worry. I feel guilty every time I enter into a relationship because I know I will be taken over by Cheating OCD. I have also feared that I will cheat on my partner even though it goes against values and I couldn’t do that to someone I care about.